Cheating in bed.

[Tillit]

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After to talking in chat for a bit
I have the following insights to share

Basically
How does a lady have an orgasm before a guy if she takes a bit...

Talking about thing before hand is perhaps a good way to go,
telling him to NOT be selfish.
Generally all people are.

also being in control of position
as a woman is the best way to orgasm before the guy does
is to as the lady, keep him from fully penetrating,
or "shallow'
despite porn industry
the g-spot to stimulate a lady is usually just inside the vagina
so length really isn't everything, honest
(no I am not a 'small' man)

so having very short fast strokes on the g-spot is
usually a good way to orgasm.
If you can not or do not orgasm like this,
you may actually talk to a gynecologist.




Another way is to distract the guy
while having sex
with a little bit, or even a lot of
pain.

a little bit of spanking
or cbt
can help keep a guy from cumming quickly
however there are guys who enjoy pain
and this actually causes them to cum quickly
but you have a balance of to much pain can cause... shrinkage

Butbutbutbut I want to see my dom lasting as-well

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You'll hear a lot of advice about the physical aspect of sex ... various techniques, how to touch, how to suck, etc ... what a lot of folks don't understand is that some of the best sex is brought about by stimulating a person mentally.

Here's a prime example, courtesy of someone I used to converse with a while back ...

Tie his hands to the bed, or behind him in a chair, and go down on him. As he gets more excited, look up at him, making all the noises that indicate you're *really* enjoying yourself. When he begins to get closer, pause for a moment, to tell him that when he cums, you're going to ruin his orgasm. Explain *exactly* what that means, and make sure he knows that it'll be a vastly ... unfulfilling experience. Most guys will strain to hold back, in the hopes of getting a regular orgasm. Playfully edge him a couple of times, and then carefully tip him over the edge. Pause for a second, and flick the sensitive spot below his cockhead - hard. The sudden trauma will probably stunt his orgasm a bit. Then go back to sucking him, bringing him off fully. The mindfuck is - awesome - !

Another favorite. If you're on top, as he gets closer, tell him that he's only allowed to cum if he's looking you in the eyes. Most of the time, guys will tend to close their eyes as they get closer (most of us can't help it). When his eyes begin to close, pull off of him, letting him calm down a bit. Eventually, he will struggle to keep his eyes open while you glide up and down his cock. When he's sufficiently brain-burned, let him cum. Should be a shatteringly intense experience for both!

Who knows better than me.... I can't even get near an orgasm without much mental stimulation... I need the atmosphere to match the occasion and my mind to be set just right for me to enjoy anything... I'm a tough nut to crack.. but I crack nuts easily


Really good ideas I should give them a go!....I want to be wiser once I get myself a new boyfriend... *Devilish smile*


I really want (For the sake of other viewers) to see a vice verse of this when the guy's on top (Note that I'm a switch and want to enjoy both sides as-well!)

[AngelAnna837]

You'll hear a lot of advice about the physical aspect of sex ... various techniques, how to touch, how to suck, etc ... what a lot of folks don't understand is that some of the best sex is brought about by stimulating a person mentally.

Here's a prime example, courtesy of someone I used to converse with a while back ...

Tie his hands to the bed, or behind him in a chair, and go down on him. As he gets more excited, look up at him, making all the noises that indicate you're *really* enjoying yourself. When he begins to get closer, pause for a moment, to tell him that when he cums, you're going to ruin his orgasm. Explain *exactly* what that means, and make sure he knows that it'll be a vastly ... unfulfilling experience. Most guys will strain to hold back, in the hopes of getting a regular orgasm. Playfully edge him a couple of times, and then carefully tip him over the edge. Pause for a second, and flick the sensitive spot below his cockhead - hard. The sudden trauma will probably stunt his orgasm a bit. Then go back to sucking him, bringing him off fully. The mindfuck is - awesome - !

Another favorite. If you're on top, as he gets closer, tell him that he's only allowed to cum if he's looking you in the eyes. Most of the time, guys will tend to close their eyes as they get closer (most of us can't help it). When his eyes begin to close, pull off of him, letting him calm down a bit. Eventually, he will struggle to keep his eyes open while you glide up and down his cock. When he's sufficiently brain-burned, let him cum. Should be a shatteringly intense experience for both!

*Making many many notes....*

[Tillit]

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You'll hear a lot of advice about the physical aspect of sex ... various techniques, how to touch, how to suck, etc ... what a lot of folks don't understand is that some of the best sex is brought about by stimulating a person mentally.

*Making many many notes....*

That's the exact purpose of the thread1 *Glad and proud*

[Sonic415]

When i am with a submissive girl, i tell her to lay down naked and close her eyes, and then go to work on giving her a full body massage, kissing her body at random points and being careful to get close to her sensitive parts, but never touch. Massage nice and deep above her pussy and around her breasts. She must keep her eyes shut throughout otherwise i stop.

I then turn her over and do her back and bum, making sure i tease her inner thighs a lot before turning her back. I lay her in one of my arms with her eyes still closed. My ear close to her mouth and chest. My fingers working on her pussy, stopping when she is close or starts to move. Only my movement will be allowed.
Usually amongst this I will ask her multiple questions, knowing the person to a extent away from this. Get her mind thinking of all kinds of things, and maybe particular areas. (whats your favourite underwear? Oh...is that because it runs delicately across your thigh? *runs my finger lightly across)

22 so still go lots to learn. I too am writing down things!

[AngelAnna837]

I guess a big thing for me is not "planning" for sex.

I find it so much more fun when it just happens, or when you take the other person by suprise :)

Also don't be afraid to be spontaneous, try different things, just for fun, the worst that can happen is you find you don't like it and you don't do it again :) you never know what you might find you love!!

And from a personal point of view, don't be afraid to talk about it and ask for what you want or if you want to try something :)

Oh and for any gurl that dont know, there is a *really* sencitive spot just under the head of a guys cock and it drives them total INSANE when you play with it :D

[Tillit]

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When i am with a submissive girl, i tell her to lay down naked and close her eyes, and then go to work on giving her a full body massage, kissing her body at random points and being careful to get close to her sensitive parts, but never touch. Massage nice and deep above her pussy and around her breasts. She must keep her eyes shut throughout otherwise i stop.

I then turn her over and do her back and bum, making sure i tease her inner thighs a lot before turning her back. I lay her in one of my arms with her eyes still closed. My ear close to her mouth and chest. My fingers working on her pussy, stopping when she is close or starts to move. Only my movement will be allowed.
Usually amongst this I will ask her multiple questions, knowing the person to a extent away from this. Get her mind thinking of all kinds of things, and maybe particular areas. (whats your favourite underwear? Oh...is that because it runs delicately across your thigh? *runs my finger lightly across)

22 so still go lots to learn. I too am writing down things!

So basically good teasing
Eyes shut make her or him much more vulnerable since they can't predict where they're going to be touched next!
Much like you can't tickle yourself even if you're ticklish.. but someone else can tickle you

[Tillit]

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I guess a big thing for me is not "planning" for sex.

I find it so much more fun when it just happens, or when you take the other person by suprise :)

Also don't be afraid to be spontaneous, try different things, just for fun, the worst that can happen is you find you don't like it and you don't do it again :) you never know what you might find you love!!

And from a personal point of view, don't be afraid to talk about it and ask for what you want or if you want to try something :)

Oh and for any gurl that dont know, there is a *really* sencitive spot just under the head of a guys cock and it drives them total INSANE when you play with it :D

Oh yes indeed planning kind-of ruins it all.. it's like you scheduel your WC visits .. Not something I think should be done... sex should be done when you feel like it! it's a form of art.. you can't force it out or time it... it just happens :)

[SissyTashi]

I don't have a lot of experience in bedroom matters, but I've usually enjoyed everything I've done in there. My general tips (that work for me) are;

1) Relax and have fun. It's okay to take a break at one point to just hang around, talk, joke around, and generally not be concentrated on sex 100%. It can give you both time to recharge, to take a breath, and change gears for when you do start up again.

2) Kissing rocks. Basically. When she's on top, or I'm on top, or we're on our sides, or standing, or sitting, or spooning, or cuddling in any other way... nothing quite like moving your face next to your partner and having your lips touch, and your tongues mingle. Shivers down my spine, every time.

3) Be vocal. Now just with orgasm noises, but just in general. Directions and guides are a godsend to those of us ( ) without much experience, and it helps us make the entire evening better. And saying what feels great usually makes the mood in the bedroom a lot better in general.

4) This may just be me, but purring is sexy as hell.

[les]

Two things cum to mind

For Anna
"Often the unexpected is the most fun"

For Indy
"Perfect Planning Prevents Piss Poor Performance"

Have fun you two.

I like
"Fail to prepare,
"Prepare to fail"

[Tillit]

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I don't have a lot of experience in bedroom matters, but I've usually enjoyed everything I've done in there. My general tips (that work for me) are;

1) Relax and have fun. It's okay to take a break at one point to just hang around, talk, joke around, and generally not be concentrated on sex 100%. It can give you both time to recharge, to take a breath, and change gears for when you do start up again.

2) Kissing rocks. Basically. When she's on top, or I'm on top, or we're on our sides, or standing, or sitting, or spooning, or cuddling in any other way... nothing quite like moving your face next to your partner and having your lips touch, and your tongues mingle. Shivers down my spine, every time.

3) Be vocal. Now just with orgasm noises, but just in general. Directions and guides are a godsend to those of us ( ) without much experience, and it helps us make the entire evening better. And saying what feels great usually makes the mood in the bedroom a lot better in general.

4) This may just be me, but purring is sexy as hell.

Taking a break sounds like it should be taken right after the partner's edge
Kissing is plain and simple romantics....... Yum
.... Just don't start arguing there
Oh yes purring is my favorite noise! (I'm a dear cat lover)

*Plays nyan cat in the background and bobs my head to the rhythem smilling widely*

[shell]

Much like you can't tickle yourself even if you're ticklish.. but someone else can tickle you [/color]

Who says you can't tickle yourself? *blushing* Hubby 1 makes fun of me for that, all the time! *lol*

[shell]

Idea number two....

Try sitting down on the bed, naked...side by side. One partner goes first. Explore each other's hands. Touch each finger, the front and back of each hand. Put your whole attention into the exploration.
Sometimes a person's hands can have erogenous zones, meaning that with the touch to their palm, it can excite them, possible even to orgasm.
Time should not matter, and this shouldn't be done, when there is a time limit issue involved. This could take 15 minutes or an hour or longer.

You will want to start touching other parts, but don't. Make each other wait. You will know when the time is right. Then make passionate love.
You will walk away not only sexually pleased, but with an understanding as to if there is a sexual zone on your partner, in their hands. You will know your partners hands better then anyone else's. You will learn your partner.

The next time pick another part of the body. But don't take on too much of one body part...meaning don't go for the arm, but instead, the upper part one time and the lower the next. If the area is too big, you might rush and miss a zone.

All of these zones that you will discover will add up to some intense love making down the way. With a touch here a touch there, you can arouse your partner while in public, or in bed. *smile*

[Tillit]

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I guess a big thing for me is not "planning" for sex.

I find it so much more fun when it just happens, or when you take the other person by suprise :)

Also don't be afraid to be spontaneous, try different things, just for fun, the worst that can happen is you find you don't like it and you don't do it again :) you never know what you might find you love!!

And from a personal point of view, don't be afraid to talk about it and ask for what you want or if you want to try something :)

Oh and for any gurl that dont know, there is a *really* sencitive spot just under the head of a guys cock and it drives them total INSANE when you play with it :D

Oh yes indeed planning kind-of ruins it all.. it's like you scheduel your WC visits .. Not something I think should be done... sex should be done when you feel like it! it's a form of art.. you can't force it out or time it... it just happens :)

I'd argue this ... I've spent hours planning exactly how I was going to please/torment someone ... sometimes having a plan isn't a bad thing ... spontaneous sex can be great too, but there's definitely nothing wrong with putting together a scenario in your head. It might improve your confidence level in bed, by showing your partner that you "know what you're doing", and also, you don't appear to be fumbling around, trying to come up with ideas beforehand as to how you're going to tease, touch, nibble, lick, kiss, caress, stroke, fondle, pinch, squeeze, bind, toy with, ... sorry, getting carried away .. my point is, having an *idea* in your head is usually an asset, not a liability. Something to keep in mind ... besides, kind of hard to be spontaneous, *and* plan that slow, subtle, sweet seduction. For *either* partner.

Planning is a different story than having a regular time to "mate"

[Tillit]

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Much like you can't tickle yourself even if you're ticklish.. but someone else can tickle you [/color]

Who says you can't tickle yourself? *blushing* Hubby 1 makes fun of me for that, all the time! *lol*

Even if I try with my softest and most wiggely touch I can't tickle myself =<

[Tillit]

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Idea number two....

Try sitting down on the bed, naked...side by side. One partner goes first. Explore each other's hands. Touch each finger, the front and back of each hand. Put your whole attention into the exploration.
Sometimes a person's hands can have erogenous zones, meaning that with the touch to their palm, it can excite them, possible even to orgasm.
Time should not matter, and this shouldn't be done, when there is a time limit issue involved. This could take 15 minutes or an hour or longer.

You will want to start touching other parts, but don't. Make each other wait. You will know when the time is right. Then make passionate love.
You will walk away not only sexually pleased, but with an understanding as to if there is a sexual zone on your partner, in their hands. You will know your partners hands better then anyone else's. You will learn your partner.

The next time pick another part of the body. But don't take on too much of one body part...meaning don't go for the arm, but instead, the upper part one time and the lower the next. If the area is too big, you might rush and miss a zone.

All of these zones that you will discover will add up to some intense love making down the way. With a touch here a touch there, you can arouse your partner while in public, or in bed. *smile*

*Drooling*..... I want to try that!! oh my! I want to do that!! *Eyes keep widening as I read it again*