Tips on restraining myself?
Tips on restraining myself?
Girlfriend has banned me from pleasuring myself as a sort of game, you guys have any tips on how I can avoid the urge?
I figured this would be the place to go to :P
I figured this would be the place to go to :P
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Re: Tips on restraining myself?
a chastity device.... think thats the only way...
dosent fight the urge but it keeps u from it :)
dosent fight the urge but it keeps u from it :)
Re: Tips on restraining myself?
One word: bromide 
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Re: Tips on restraining myself?
bromide? what is that? and how does it work?
Re: Tips on restraining myself?
It was a joke1azzu1 wrote:bromide? what is that? and how does it work?
As to potassium bromide putative effects, see http://www.newscientist.com/article/mg17423496.800 (bottom).
OT now, kind of :-p
You have a few options to "restrain yourself".
- The mechanical way: chastity devices of various kind.
- The chemical way: anaphrodisiacs and antiandrogens (possibly quite drastic, funny side effects and usually prescription only), booze (but may have the opposite effect), tobacco (if you would like to experience the thrill of cancer), and a few others.
- The mental way: hypnosis, meditation and exercising self control come to mind.
These are jokes too by the way
Still, there is actually a healthy, scientifically proven and non damaging way to naturally decrease your sex drive: SPORT, lots of it. Watch how the main character in "Secretary" copes with his issues
If you really believe that you have an issue, you should see someone and at the very least try to regain some balance in your life.
hth
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Re: Tips on restraining myself?
For my part, the greatest aspect of this is actually having to mentally, voluntarily restrain yourself.
Using CBs and the like is the "easy" way out, allowing you to release the mental self-control. In many ways just as frustrating of course, but easier in terms of not having to control the mental aspect yourself.
So my best advise is to sit down, on your own, and think it through properly: Why do I want to do this? What is my goal? Choose a clear, quantifiable goal that lets you clearly know when you have reached it or not.
This makes it a lot easier to exercise the self-control you need.
Using CBs and the like is the "easy" way out, allowing you to release the mental self-control. In many ways just as frustrating of course, but easier in terms of not having to control the mental aspect yourself.
So my best advise is to sit down, on your own, and think it through properly: Why do I want to do this? What is my goal? Choose a clear, quantifiable goal that lets you clearly know when you have reached it or not.
This makes it a lot easier to exercise the self-control you need.
Yes, I most certainly CAN do it again!
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Re: Tips on restraining myself?
Well, if you serve Miss Jay as your sign suggests....then I would think all you'd need is for her to tell you no touching.
Or...do you really serve yourself?
Or...do you really serve yourself?

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Re: Tips on restraining myself?
Hello Martyr,Martyr112 wrote:Girlfriend has banned me from pleasuring myself as a sort of game, you guys have any tips on how I can avoid the urge?
I figured this would be the place to go to :P
I wondered where you disappeared to
As for the no pleasuring, why not buy a chastity device?... Has she offered to you a reward if you manage not to pleasure yourself? I think you'd just make yourself manage not to touch if you really wanted to please her!
Little Miss Jay x
Re: Tips on restraining myself?
It's recent :)Little Miss Jay wrote:Hello Martyr,Martyr112 wrote:Girlfriend has banned me from pleasuring myself as a sort of game, you guys have any tips on how I can avoid the urge?
I figured this would be the place to go to :P
I wondered where you disappeared toI didn't know you had a girlfriend or is it a recent thing?
As for the no pleasuring, why not buy a chastity device?... Has she offered to you a reward if you manage not to pleasure yourself? I think you'd just make yourself manage not to touch if you really wanted to please her!
Little Miss Jay x
And I'm using willpower alone, and yes. I get rewarded. Hehe :D
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Re: Tips on restraining myself?
Chastity, It worked for me. Took a while to get the fitting right but it really works.
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Re: Tips on restraining myself?
Chastity definitely works, especially if you give your girlfriend the keys. That way She knows that you cannot let yourself out as and when you want. Congratulations by the way on finding a girlfriend that wants to explore this with you.
Curiosity killed the cat. What if the cat was Schrodinger's cat?
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Re: Tips on restraining myself?
yea your a lucky guy :)
alltho serving Miss Jay is a treat in itself...
alltho serving Miss Jay is a treat in itself...

