tantric denial/ my secreats

This is the place for general discussions on fetishes, sexuality and anything else. What's on your mind right now?
Post Reply
User avatar
SexualChoc
Chat Moderator
Posts: 3144
Joined: Mon Aug 10, 2009 1:22 pm
Gender: Male
Sexual Orientation: Straight
I am a: Switch
Location: Missouri, Usa
Contact:

tantric denial/ my secreats

Post by SexualChoc »

I am posting this because, I honestly am not sure how widely know this information is

http://showjoe00.blogspot.com/2008/06/e ... 13ce5db32d
The practices of Kama Sutra and tantric yoga both describe this phenomenon, deliberately denying ejaculation after deliberately urging the cock to want to cum. This concept has been around for a long time
.
quote form blog linked above

http://www.vermontcatholic.org/files/258/FCCintro.pdf
the Catechism of the Catholic Church, starting with paragraph #2331, introduces the
section that discusses the virtue of chastity
again quote from the linked site

I am NOT, NOT trying to make a religious statement

what this post is about is learning to last a long time during sexual intercourse
and avoid cumming.

The toughest thing to do is have sex with your partner and NOT cum

so I thought I'd post my own wisdom on this. the reason for the quotes and links is I am saying, I have taken this.. musing.. from many sources and do not claim it is mine alone.

First you need to find a picture of something relaxing
medow.. lake.. whatever helps to use an actual picture in the early stages.
then you need to work on being able to think about it quickly
now every time you think about it slow your breathing and see if you can slow your heart rate

you genrally close your eyes for the start of this to help you "see" it better in your imagination

this is Bio-feedback stuff
and a way to achieve alpha state sleep level while awake

every day you can learn to slow your heart rate
do this for a week, or two if you get really good at this you can
take a blood pressure machine and relax and drop your blood pressure.
(Bio-feedback technique) once learned you can lose the "crutch" of a non-sexual picture.

now once you learn your relaxation
THEN you have to associate it using Operand conditioning with your prostrate
so after probably 2 weeks of learning how to relax
you then drink water, head to bathroom and as your peeing
you think of your relaxation and stop half way in the middle of peeing
this is a technique you will have to repeat.
for about 2 weeks only THEN should
you move up to trying to having sex without orgasm.

when stroking and edging you will feel that "edge" feeling

it is a tingly sensation, or even a feeling you need to pee, or just a pressure.
you stop you hand think of place and lower heart rate
note your Dick may Shrink really REALLY quickly when you do this
don't panic! this is quite acceptable early on.

the last trick to lasting over an hour having sex
is to balance letting yourself feel the experience, blood rush/ adrenaline pleasure
and using some relaxation techniques as well as controlling your speed and thrusts.

all told this takes about 2 months minimum to do probably 4 is not unlikely.
anytime you feel "failure" just try the steps again
but I strongly recomend 2 weeks on step one: meditaion
2-3 weeks step two: association with prostrate
before you try step 3: lasting a long time

I was taught this technique by my ex-wife
who had actually been a hooker and wanted me to last a long time during sex.
all2true
is my other profile. see my chastity belt link :
http://www.milovana.com/forum/viewtopic ... 16#p139016
User avatar
Stuntman
Explorer
Explorer
Posts: 40
Joined: Fri Feb 10, 2012 9:02 pm
Gender: Male
Sexual Orientation: Bisexual/Bi-Curious
I am a: Switch
Location: Texas

Re: tantric denial/ my secreats

Post by Stuntman »

Awesome post SC. Lasting has always been an issue for me and this seems like a really good system, I have heard good things about tantric stuff. The process generally takes a lot of commitment but the outcome should be worth it. I know what I will be doing for the next few months haha
Spoiler: show
Currently at 165 points ImageImageImageImageImage
*Goddess Lisa's Sissy Licker
*Goddess Lisa's Spanked Balls
*Goddess Lisa's Gooner
eager2plz
Explorer
Explorer
Posts: 19
Joined: Wed Mar 12, 2008 6:05 am
Gender: Male
Sexual Orientation: Straight
I am a: Submissive
Location: California

Re: tantric denial/ my secreats

Post by eager2plz »

Thanks - great info.
User avatar
SexualChoc
Chat Moderator
Posts: 3144
Joined: Mon Aug 10, 2009 1:22 pm
Gender: Male
Sexual Orientation: Straight
I am a: Switch
Location: Missouri, Usa
Contact:

Re: tantric denial/ my secreats

Post by SexualChoc »

Stuntman wrote:Awesome post SC. Lasting has always been an issue for me and this seems like a really good system, I have heard good things about tantric stuff. The process generally takes a lot of commitment but the outcome should be worth it. I know what I will be doing for the next few months haha

I think it can be learned in.. 4 months
less if you already know relaxation techniques

the secret is using bio-feedback
and awareness of prostrate
so that you can learn to control it

It is kinda like the process of learning to wiggle you tiny toe by itself.
all2true
is my other profile. see my chastity belt link :
http://www.milovana.com/forum/viewtopic ... 16#p139016
User avatar
les
Experimentor
Experimentor
Posts: 6126
Joined: Thu Apr 19, 2007 10:04 am
Gender: Male
Sexual Orientation: Bisexual/Bi-Curious
I am a: Dom (Male)
Sub/Slave(s): My serfs
All 2 True is head Serf
Location: London England
Contact:

Re: tantric denial/ my secreats

Post by les »



This site is useful

Easy Relaxation Techniques


    
                                          Lord Les
                                 Be careful what you wish for!

Growing OLD Is Inevitable,
          But Growing UP... Is Optional
                    OR
                              Why do I have to stop being a KID now I can afford it.







                                
                                                                                                                                                   
User avatar
Stuntman
Explorer
Explorer
Posts: 40
Joined: Fri Feb 10, 2012 9:02 pm
Gender: Male
Sexual Orientation: Bisexual/Bi-Curious
I am a: Switch
Location: Texas

Re: tantric denial/ my secreats

Post by Stuntman »

SexualChoc wrote:
I think it can be learned in.. 4 months
less if you already know relaxation techniques
Well relaxation is not my specialty. Not something I do a whole lot of so ill give it a bit longer.

Iv spent most of the day trying to find a good relaxing picture to use. Everything I think of I end up twisting to have some sort of adrenaline associated with it. I don't expect this to be an overnight process so I'll be patient with it.
Spoiler: show
Currently at 165 points ImageImageImageImageImage
*Goddess Lisa's Sissy Licker
*Goddess Lisa's Spanked Balls
*Goddess Lisa's Gooner
Snoopy76
Explorer At Heart
Explorer At Heart
Posts: 326
Joined: Thu Jul 28, 2011 10:11 am
Gender: Female
Sexual Orientation: Straight
I am a: Switch

Re: tantric denial/ my secreats

Post by Snoopy76 »

Curious thread SC!!

Thank you for sharing, I like the concept very much!

Snoopy x
“It is always by way of pain one arrives at pleasure.” Marquis de Sade
Post Reply