You're new to the site. You popped into chat, asked for a mistress, and everyone didn't drop what they were doing to fall at your feet and fullfill your every desire?
Why, I'm shocked!
Such selfish people indeed!
They should all be ashamed of themselves.
Incubo wrote:Wait a second....Let me get all this straight....
You're new to the site. You popped into chat, asked for a mistress, and everyone didn't drop what they were doing to fall at your feet and fullfill your every desire?
Why, I'm shocked!
Such selfish people indeed!
They should all be ashamed of themselves.
*giggling* I know.....I feel like pond scum..... *giggling some more*
Just to be the voice of reason here, but everybody is criticizing a new person for not knowing protocol ... New people come to the site, and you have to understand the psychology behind the actions ... they're excited, they've just stumbled across what amounts to a massive wet-dream, and then they find out that Hey!, there's a chatroom here as well, where they have the opportunity to chat with other people, and *maybe* get teased as well! Most people realize that when they get aroused, proper reasoning goes out the window. So lets try to remember to cut someone a break, huh? Many of our accomplished authors, forum posters, moderators, and even Team members were new at one point or another, and might have had a momentary lapse of judgement. But if they were crucified on the forums before ever getting the chance to become the valuable members that they are today, I sincerely doubt that they'd have stuck around long enough to become valuable members.
Lets try and show a bit more understanding, please? All that's accomplished by posting like this is to make the claim that we're not friendly towards new persons legitimate. Rather than justify the actions, lets show a higher standard, welcome the new person openly, and *gently* inform them of protocol, so that when next they enter the chat, they know how to behave, and then if it doesn't go according to plan, we can at least say we've made an honest attempt at being friendly.
See that's the point though, Indy.....he was told, by several.....and then a short time later, was doing it all over again.....even doing it again the next day too. Go read the log that I mentioned.
First off, I'm not going to try and validate chintal's methods. Not only does it not work, but it comes off as abrasive.
Now that I've gotten that disclaimer out of the way, here's my two cents:
While in the chat room I feel...like an outsider. I've been around Milovana for a while, been in the chat room now and again, but so much time has passed that the people within the room have changed out. There's a new crowd (relative to me!) that seems like a tightly knit crew that's happy amongst themselves.
So, I spend most of my time lurking. There's plenty of conversation, but a lot of it references relationships that have already been built in chat, or are scene's being played out. I interrupt to say howdy, assuming I enter mid-scene, and then back up to lurk.
Now, I shouldn't assume that they're holding onto a secret list of dominant women who live in my local area and find themselves lacking a dashing young suitor who longs for one such woman to tease his penis (and his user name rhymes with...dakarov.)
But, if they do, they're not going to hand it out freely. Hell, they probably won't even think of their secret stash of dominant hotties without knowing a thing or two about you. And in order to get to know you better you have to invest time.
And who knows? Maybe one day you'll be sitting in the chat room discussing the Mass Effect series, and how it treats science like magic. In the corner there'll be a sissy named Patricia. She's a domme to a sweet little sub, but right know she's subbing to a dom, polishing off the precum from the tip of his cock. And then, in a further, private corner, there sit two dominant women, whispering and plotting against their sub's penis..es. Penis...i.
And then your dream girl strolls. You may not know it then, but you won't know it if all you do is log on for a brief minute with only your list of demands in tow.
Many people in chat are often doing other things while they are in chat, so please be patient while waiting for a response. It may take a few minutes before some in chat have seen what you have said or asked. As others have noted already asking for a mistress the instant you get into chat isn't likely to be effective. Spend some time getting to know people in chat. Build friendly relationships with others and eventually you may find the Dom/me you are looking for. If all you are seeking is a quick fix it likely isn't going to happen in chat, given that there are so many more subs looking for a mistress than there are mistresses looking for subs.
Makarov wrote:
While in the chat room I feel...like an outsider. I've been around Milovana for a while, been in the chat room now and again, but so much time has passed that the people within the room have changed out. There's a new crowd (relative to me!) that seems like a tightly knit crew that's happy amongst themselves.
I just wanted to personaly apologize to you, for when I have been in the room and you felt this way. I'm really sorry. *hugs you gently*
Makarov wrote:
While in the chat room I feel...like an outsider. I've been around Milovana for a while, been in the chat room now and again, but so much time has passed that the people within the room have changed out. There's a new crowd (relative to me!) that seems like a tightly knit crew that's happy amongst themselves.
So, I spend most of my time lurking. There's plenty of conversation, but a lot of it references relationships that have already been built in chat, or are scene's being played out. I interrupt to say howdy, assuming I enter mid-scene, and then back up to lurk.
I know the feeling. Kind of the same for me also. The folks I used to chat with are gone and new folks have come in.
However, still doesn't change the point here. Barging into a room in real life or on the net and expecting everyone to fawn over you is quite silly. It just isn't going to happen and to complain that they're all selfish is a bit ironic considering that such behavior is quite selfish in itself.
shell wrote:I just wanted to personaly apologize to you, for when I have been in the room and you felt this way. I'm really sorry. *hugs you gently*
*returns hug*
Shell, you don't have to apologize. I could just be socially handicapped. It's possible! That said, I will gladly accept all hugs you offer.
Incubo wrote:However, still doesn't change the point here.
Thus my disclaimer at the beginning. I in no way intended to justify his actions. Just to think about what drives someone to behave like that, because he's surely not the first nor will he be the last. It's selfishness driven by desperation, and it does him, and those he interacts with, no good.
Makarov wrote:
*returns hug*
Shell, you don't have to apologize. I could just be socially handicapped. It's possible! That said, I will gladly accept all hugs you offer.
