people at milovana really dont care about newbie

[chintal]

i am new here
from my experience i have fond that people here are really very selfish
they ignore you even if you are being nice to them

[Ohmega]

But this is your only post, you don't have any experience here.

[les]

i am new here
from my experience i have fond that people here are really very selfish
they ignore you even if you are being nice to them

Well thats a fairly sweeping statement.

How about you elaborate on that?

I am not the only one who hates bad manners
As a new member we need to ensure that any toe treading is accidental and not happens again.

You may PM or email me if you would rather.
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[janmb]

i am new here
from my experience i have fond that people here are really very selfish
they ignore you even if you are being nice to them

Hmm, that doesn't match my experience here at all - mostly I find people very open and helpful...

What kind of efforts on your own part do you feel have been turned down or overlooked?

[JustKrissy]

For everyone's info, chintal is talking about chat incidents.

And to chintal, all I ever saw you repeat in the chat was that you really needed a "BDSM" Mistress and that there was non in India, when no one provided you with one you got mad?

Sigh..

[Shaddar86]

In first place, it is not much time that I'm here, so I'm not the most indicated person to answer. Moreover, I don't post that much, just because most of the topics here are expressed much better by somebody else. I'm a newbie after all. Nontheless, I don't see these... bad manners. Sometimes it happens that I don't receive answer in chat when I greet. Nontheless, that doesn't mean peolpe here is unpolite. Some of them are quite nice too.

Maybe, if denymepretty is right, you should change your habit to enter and just ask. Even in a sub, in the long-term, it's really annoying.

(I'm sorry for the spell of some words. I was bored to open the dictonary )

[Oda]

Try to get to know some people in here. It won´t help you just get into the chat ans ask for a Mistress.

Talk to the people normal, about normal things and then they will talk to you too and after awhile i am sure you will find someone to play with.

You know how many subs come daily online and ask the sam thing you ask? You can´t even imagine and that gets with the time pretty annoying, so it isn´t a suprise people who act like that get ignored. That hasn´t anything to do woth unpolite or polite. Get to know the people and you will have success! Believe me!

Good luck chintal!

[SexualChoc]

i am new here
from my experience i have fond that people here are really very selfish
they ignore you even if you are being nice to them

Welcome to Milovana!

still feel ignored?
feel free to stop in and say hello in chat room!

[omgimapotato99]

For that short time I am here I have find this place to be very friendly.

I agree what Oda said, he is right. You should first try to know people, make some friends or acquaintances. Otherwise if they don't know who you are they don't really care to help you. For them you are just another spammer who asks for Mistress.

[Banquo]

I think I'm just echoing what has been said above, but the best thing you can do is come in and be yourself, im not going to lie to you, finding a dom/me in the chat will not happen overnight, but come in and be yourself, join in conversations and have fun. We really are quite friendly to people who genuinely want to join in the chit chat and have vanilla fun with us. Then after a while when people know you as a person, and most importantly think they can trust you, then they may play with you a little.
It's much more fun playing with someone you know well. If you are looking for a quick tug on command you may as well stick to webteases.
There are also many forum games that you could find fun depending on your interests. check out the games section to see what I mean. Also when you play the games the dom/mes get to know you a little better, and a few of these people frequent chat as well so you will have a little something in common with people to talk about.
I think it was Sir that said above that we have a lot of people coming into chat every single day, who all want a mistress. unfortunately, there are a limited number of female dommes on Milo, and many of them already have subs that they play with. Also remember that not every girl in chat is a domme, some of them are strictly subs and do not switch.

Anyway sorry to go on a little bit, I hope what I said helps you when you next come into chat. We really do like new people, as long as they act in a polite and respectful manner.

Next time you come in say hi

[dr.d]

just to toss in my two cents ,don't go in to the chat room looking for a mistress , just meet people and have fun .
sooner or later you will talk to some one and things will fall in to place

[shell]

Here is my two cents worth.
I am not allowed to post chat history, but if I could, I would.

On the 21st, you entered the chat room. Thirty seven seconds later you were announcing that you were in need of an online Mistress. Two minutes later you announced it again, this time giving your age and your location. A minute later you added that there were no Mistress's in the outside world where you lived.
I would like to add right here, that at this time, there was a scene going on in the room, and not only the people participating in the scene, but others were watching and enjoying what was going on.
You inserted yourself into the scene, speaking to the one directing it, as though she should respond to you and not the submissive that she was playing with. Someone in the room even made you aware of this, very kindly, I might add. You said nothing else and left the room five minutes later.
You were back 14 minutes later. One minute later, while the scene was still taking place, you asked me if you could become my submissive. I was even pleasant to you and made a joke about where to find an application. Only minutes after that, you repeated yourself that you needed a Mistress badly, and that there were none in your area.
Nine minutes after re-entering the room you asked if "we" even helped newcomers, which you were responded to, very politely by several people, trying to give you advice on how to get to know people, which would better your chances at finding what you were looking for.
You began to talk and others talked to you. But it didn't last and within minutes, you were talking about how there were no Mistress's in your area again.

That is just one incident, but it was obvious after your post yesterday, and it was brought up in the chat room, that in the short amount of time that you have been here, that you have done the same thing several times.

What really got under my skin was that you posted this thread and a short time later you were in the room, as if you were looking to see if anyone would comment on your thread.
It was as if you flipped us off and then expected us to apologize or be nice.

***

Here is my advice for you, or anyone that wishes to find someone online to have a relationship with, whether it be a "vanilla" relationship or a BDSM one.

First, like others above said, talk to people, just like you would have a conversation with someone in the outside world.

And secondly, treat the chat room like you would treat a bar enviorment. Would you go into the bar and say that you wanted a BDSM Mistress? Would you go up to someone and say, "ASL"? Would you go up to someone and say, "let's go to a private room!"
No, you would not do any of those things. Nor should you do them in a chat room.

Getting to know people in a chat room takes time. You have to stand back and watch...seeing who might be with whom......seeing what types of things certain people talk about.....finding little things that you can use to start a conversation with individuals.
The simple thing such as a person's name is a great lead in to a conversation. "Your name is interesting, how did you choose it?"

A person that is only looking for something to fill their need comes in asking for what they want, whether it be a "BDSM Mistress", "ASL", "want to fuck"......or many other statements.
If you are committed to really finding someone to be a part of your life, then stop rushing forward, expecting to get right to the beginning of the relationship and just get to know people.

If I am not involved in a scene, I will always try and greet anyone that comes in, because I remember what it is like to walk into the room and not be greeted. It feels like you are invisible.

*****

So, that is my thoughts and opinions.....may not be popular, may get a standing ovation...either way...I wanted to voice what I have.

See ya all in chat. *smile*

[Chico]

Yes, that's right Chintal - we're just a bunch of wankers............what

[les]

Well @chintal

        I await to hear your side of the story.

                               I will hold my comments for now.

[Haggard316]

For everyone's info, chintal is talking about chat incidents.

And to chintal, all I ever saw you repeat in the chat was that you really needed a "BDSM" Mistress and that there was non in India, when no one provided you with one you got mad?

Sigh..

krissy x

lol, typical noob.