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Hey I have a really quick question for everyone. How do you ruin an orgasm? Can you give me some instructions on how to ruin it if you accidentally go over the edge or a video that explains it and shows it?
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As with almost everything, Google holds the answer:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erotic_sexual_denial

So, just remove your hand (or what ever was providing the stimulaton). :weep:

There are other options like blocking ejaculate (which I find hard) to a good old smack in the you know whats. :-O

Of course it has to be followed by clean up and swallowing. :\'-(
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It's where you stroke a lot and as you're about to cum, and when the first squirt comes out, you just let go of your penis. It makes for a less satisfying orgasm and it forces your cock to pathetically pump out the rest of it! <3
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youaswell wrote:It's where you stroke a lot and as you're about to cum, and when the first squirt comes out, you just let go of your penis. It makes for a less satisfying orgasm and it forces your cock to pathetically pump out the rest of it! <3
Actually, you should stop long before that. As soon as you push yourself over the edge, you stop all stimulation. Focus on relaxing your PC muscles and keeping their contractions as weak and as scarce as possible. If done properly, the sperm should just dribble, or pour out, much like when you pee. And you should get no pleasure out of it. This way you should be able to continue shortly. ... much sooner than after full orgasm anyways. This method i consider to be sort of handbrake when you cum inadvertently.

If you feel particularly submissive however, you may also try to ruin it by applying some pain, like punching your balls, or by shock (sudden loud noise, cold water... ) Basically anything to take your mind off your dick. No idea how this will affect your future performance, probably the same as full orgasm. This method is often used as a punishment for cumming without permission.

Both methods should provide some short term relief, with minimal impact on mid-long term horniness.
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Sett wrote:Focus on relaxing your PC muscles and keeping their contractions as weak and as scarce as possible. If done properly, the sperm should just dribble, or pour out, much like when you pee.
full ack. Imho there is no "shooting" in ruined orgasms. The PC-muscle ist the Key, as Sett said.
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Actually there are two types of ruined orgasm.

1. slow and dreadful edge and stop over and over again to the point where when you edge and let go the cum just starts to slowly ooze out.

2. stroke over the edge and lets go, and the cum will shoot out of your cock.
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Completely agree with both Haggard and Sett here

Stroking until you actually start to shoot is way too far to be called ruined in my opinion. If I do that I orgasm with pretty much full sensations, even though most of the spurts are handsfree.

For me, the worst possible ejaculation is a combination of the two options listed by haggard:

Approaching the edge fairly fast and stopping well before going over at all. Usually this will lead to an edge and nothing more. If you get it right, just that tiny bit further, and I get an excruciating edge which can take as much as 10 seconds to go over into ejaculation at all. Those 10 seconds are hell :love:

The other almost as bad option is to edge slowly and carefully, pushing yourself to maintain the edge closer and closer until you actually drop over. If you have enough control and realize when you actually DO go over early enough and stop, you get the typical oozing one. Lovely too, but far less torture than the fast, sudden stop version if timed just right.

Orgasms where you are stroked until you actually start shooting aren't ruined at all.
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janmb wrote:...
Approaching the edge fairly fast and stopping well before going over at all. Usually this will lead to an edge and nothing more. If you get it right, just that tiny bit further, and I get an excruciating edge which can take as much as 10 seconds to go over into ejaculation at all. Those 10 seconds are hell :love:
For me those ten seconds feel just like what they are - something between an orgasm and an exceptionally good edge. The only letdown here is psychological, as i don't usually ruin it on purpose (accidents only, it's way more fun to have no release at all.) After those ten seconds i usually have an orgasm that is a little less satisfying, than a full one, but just as exhausting. :-(
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janmb wrote: Stroking until you actually start to shoot is way too far to be called ruined in my opinion. If I do that I orgasm with pretty much full sensations, even though most of the spurts are handsfree.
I kinda agree, but pretty much every partner I've ever had has said that ejaculating without stimulation is incredibly unsatisfying. Maybe calling this ruined isn't quite right, but I don't think it's a full one imo. Or maybe it varies from person to person and you don't find it too different in this case.
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There's a tease on here and I'm sorry, I can't remember which one, which has an excellent( :\'-( ) ruination technique.
After 8 or 10 regular edges, you then have to edge by very slowly using just one finger-tip on the sweet spot.This delicate touch allows a significant amount of control and allows you to stop in time and "ooze" before any risk of spurting.
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mbop wrote:
janmb wrote: Stroking until you actually start to shoot is way too far to be called ruined in my opinion. If I do that I orgasm with pretty much full sensations, even though most of the spurts are handsfree.
I kinda agree, but pretty much every partner I've ever had has said that ejaculating without stimulation is incredibly unsatisfying.
I agree, but only if stroking stops well before the ejaculation actually starts. If stroked until ejaculation actually has started, the orgasm feels pretty "normal" to me.
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Chico wrote:There's a tease on here and I'm sorry, I can't remember which one, which has an excellent( :\'-( ) ruination technique.
After 8 or 10 regular edges, you then have to edge by very slowly using just one finger-tip on the sweet spot.This delicate touch allows a significant amount of control and allows you to stop in time and "ooze" before any risk of spurting.
You might be thinking of some of Decker's teases, where he referred to it as a "barely ruined orgasm", where you don't even necessarily ooze a full load, but just a drop or two. That was used both in the Giving Up Control series (ep. 2.5 I believe) as well as in the "Something for everyone" standalone tease.
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