Question about self denial

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Question about self denial

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Hey guys, I thought of a good question. It's something I'm always struggling with myself and I bet a lot of you are. I want to experience longer periods of self denial, but I seem to lack discipline with this and always find myself cumming as i please. So the question is, how can I impose denial on myself with at least occasional edging without release, without giving up and just cumming? :-)
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Hi, I have only recently got into this and understand your problem. You need some kind of motivation and i would recommend trying the deck of denial game, it is a bit of fun and a good chance to test yourself. I tried it and thoroughly enjoyed the experience, have fun and good luck :)
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there are some good ways to do this
even in self denial

first it is very important to have a "punishment" that you are willing to do
but is a real punishment
not something that is "fun" in ANY way.

some people Like pain or humiliation
so you are the one who knows what would be something you don't want to do

Handing a stranger a card that says "I couldn't do it"
or lot's of serious pain
are some things that Dom's use to discourage cumming to early.

Another is to learn how to control the amount of teasing you do to yourself in a day.
It is difficult to do 50 edges in a row
and not cum.

Make sure yuo hydrate yourself
about 4 glasses of water during a day is very safe and doctor recommended
and helps flush dead sperm, as well as promote new sperm production.

Note saying I will do MORE denial next time... is NOT
a good punishment. because if you can not do it this time, by yourself, chances you will not next time.

but if you only do 3... all day

you have a much better chance of not cumming,
and the Mental joy of denial
sometimes less is more
(look up my you'll want more teases)
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Re: Question about self denial

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SexualChoc wrote:there are some good ways to do this
even in self denial

first it is very important to have a "punishment" that you are willing to do
but is a real punishment
not something that is "fun" in ANY way.

some people Like pain or humiliation
so you are the one who knows what would be something you don't want to do

Handing a stranger a card that says "I couldn't do it"
or lot's of serious pain
are some things that Dom's use to discourage cumming to early.

Another is to learn how to control the amount of teasing you do to yourself in a day.
It is difficult to do 50 edges in a row
and not cum.

Make sure yuo hydrate yourself
about 4 glasses of water during a day is very safe and doctor recommended
and helps flush dead sperm, as well as promote new sperm production.

Note saying I will do MORE denial next time... is NOT
a good punishment. because if you can not do it this time, by yourself, chances you will not next time.

but if you only do 3... all day

you have a much better chance of not cumming,
and the Mental joy of denial
sometimes less is more
(look up my you'll want more teases)
Good advice!
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Re: Question about self denial

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And I just wanted to wish you Good Luck!!

I really :love: denial and the way it makes me feel, but can sympathise with how hard it is to do alone!

Please let us know how you get on.

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Re: Question about self denial

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:no: Oohhh, good luck...
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