jilling help

[9inches]

Here's the deal. I am horrible at jilling my partner, and I feel I'm really letting her down. So I thought a thread on jilling techniques would be helpful and enjoyable for all. Please be as specific as possible, so it can be replicated, motion, pace, location, pressure, etc.

Thanks!

[bookworm]

I think you are supposed to stimulate her clitoris but it is so long since I was in that area I may have forgotten.

[Bandit224]

Easiest tip: Watch a shitload of lesbian porn.

G-spot tip: Have the girl lie on her back. Extend your middle finger as if you're flicking your girlfriend off, then insert it in a way so that when you curl the finger, it moves towards the girl's front-side of the vaginal walls. You'll feel a small crevice, which is the G-spot. The thing to remember is that jilling off a girl is much like jacking off yourself. If you stroke too fast, arousal levels get bored and drop. If you stroke too slowly, the same thing happens. As a result, you'll need to listen to her and remember what spots and speeds feel good.

Tongue tip: Using your tongue is a good tool, as well as sucking. Suck the clitoris and labia. Stick your tongue so that they just touch the pussy lips (labia) and quickly move it from the top of the pussy to the bottom.

Women are much more difficult to arouse than men. Simple cartoon drawings of women can get men heavily aroused. Women take a lot more work. Basically, you just do a shitload of foreplay, play with her clitoris, and play with her vagina until you hear her say that it feels good. At the point, repeat and remember whatever movement you just made and you'll bring her to an orgasm. That movement on that specific spot is an arousal zone specific to that girl. Regardless of which erogenous zone on the body is being touched, some women can achieve an orgasm from a specific type of touch to them at that location, and some women can't feel any arousal from that location. For instance, you can twist Bunny Luv's nipples, and she won't react, since she has no sensitivity in her nipple area.

[bookworm]

For instance, you can twist Bunny Luv's nipples, and she won't react, since she has no sensitivity in her nipple area.

Like I would get the chance

[Alliteration]

Easiest tip: Watch a shitload of lesbian porn.

Err, no. Porn, just like most other media, is heavily edited and more fantasy than reality. Furthermore, there is no catch-all technique, so here's what you do:

Have her masturbate for you. Chances are pretty dang good that she knows what she likes better than anyone. Pay attention to which areas she touches, when, and how. Or you could, you know, ask her what she likes.

[dix]

I have a far out and crazy idea that just might actually work.

Communication... Seriously, here me out. Talk to her about it, ask her what feel good or what you could do differently.

Also, like Alliteration said, there is no one method that will please all women. Everyone is different and we all enjoy different things. So the best way to please your partner is to learn with her, explore new things and talk to each other. Only then will you each get close to what you want.

Dix.

[denton]

Pretty much what Alliteration and dix said.

Communication stands above all the rest as the most important thing. There are actually instructional videos out there for help with technique (http://www.goodvibes.com/display_produc ... -7-ML-0704 e.g.) and those might help if she herself isn't really sure what works best or what else there could be in terms of techniques. But there is no one right way to do it. Some are very sensitive and you have to be extremely careful with the clit for example.. others less so. One girl pretty much asked me to suck her clit as hard as I could The best way is probably to start out slow and careful and make sure she's comfortable and that she tells you whenever you're doing something that feels good, if she wants more stimulation or less etc.

[les]

Pretty much what Alliteration and dix said.

There are actually instructional videos out there for help with technique (http://www.goodvibes.com/display_produc ... -7-ML-0704 e.g.)

After a google or two

http://btjunkie.org/search?q=Tristan+Taormino

Your call if you wish to follow up this link.

[Bandit224]

I'm just glad there's some people out there that really *do* get it. Self-pleasuring, sex, whatever, is extremely intimate and personal - it differs greatly person to person. As has been said before - communication is key. Now, the trick to that might be if she's naturally very shy, or not very vocal. In a case like that, you may end up with issues, but those are things that couples can work on together. Openness breeds openness - if you show a bit towards her, you'll most likely get it in return.

Past that, good luck!

Kinda like what I said earlier, a very shy girl will still give some subtle clue as to what feels good. Usually they'll softly mutter "Oh wow," moan, or wiggle whenever a particular movement pumps her arousal. Either way, you have to pay a lot of attention to her, and to understand the details: which erogenous zone she likes touched, how fast, how hard, circular or rubbing, etc. Girls that aren't shy will just straight-forward tell you what they want. Those that are very shy will have extreme difficulty admitting that they've ever masturbated, or even seen their own genitals before. So, asking them to masturbate in front of you won't solve anything; they'll just try to quickly fake an orgasm and get their clothes back on. When they won't say, just experiment and listen for the subtle clues. After you've brought her to an orgasm, she'll be much more open.

[dix]

It occurred to me after my post that while all of the advice here was good advice, very little of it actually did the poor guy asking the question any relevant techniques to use ...

That's because without knowing exactly what the person wants you're only able to make presumptions. Now, you can try and make accurate presumptions based on statistics etc, but that's not exactly fool proof.

It's all well and good saying how a certain thing worked for you and your partner, but there's nothing to say that it will work for another couple.

The books that were mentioned are a good place to get ideas from though. Les's suggestion of the one's by Tristan Taormino is a good shout as they're pretty good.

Experimentation and communication are king in situations like this.

Dix.

[Banquo]

Easiest tip: Watch a shitload of lesbian porn.

Err, no. Porn, just like most other media, is heavily edited and more fantasy than reality. Furthermore, there is no catch-all technique, so here's what you do:

Have her masturbate for you. Chances are pretty dang good that she knows what she likes better than anyone. Pay attention to which areas she touches, when, and how. Or you could, you know, ask her what she likes.

Quoted for truth..

My best advice would mirror this, ask her, talk to your partner. She will know best what she wants. But...she may not know her self, the fun comes in exploring this together. :)

[dix]

But...she may not know her self, the fun comes in exploring this together. :)

And that's the hardest part when it comes to trying to get to know what someone wants. Most people don't even truly know what they want them selves.

Dix

[9inches]

Thanks to all, but especially Indigo. That response is what I was looking for. More of hot masturbation stories. Sorry that my original post was unclear.