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Without chastity....

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Hi Everyone,

I've been a lurker her for quite a while now, doing webteases and such, but only now feel the need to post....

My girlfriend and I have been 'playing' with T&D for a while now, but it really has just been playing. Lots of teasing ending in orgasm for me, sometimes a day or two of denial, but no real consistent 'control' (for want of a better word). I would cheat behind her back and tease myself with webteases here, almost never coming unless I ruined it by mistake.

This appears to have changed quite recently and my girlfriend has now vocalized a desire to take control. She talks of us being engaged in a 'process' in which I will 'learn to obey'. She doesn't appear to be having the same feelings of pity or sympathy that she had for me in the past which would result in her giving me an orgasm.

This is great! But....

I'm having real difficulties in not succumbing to temptation and giving my cock a good stroke. I said to her last night that I would find it really difficult and she said "if you do I'll get you some of those underwear that locks" - I said I wouldn't mind and she qualified herself by saying no, it would be too weird. So chastity is out of the question - although I think I might 'need' it...

However, we all know I don't 'need' it, she's not comfortable with it, and there's something quite romantic about her having control over my orgasms when, if I chose, I could 'cheat'. Nonetheless, this only goes some way to helping me resist this temptation.

So, the reason I post is: does anyone have any advice that might help me with this?!

Thanks,

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why don't you sens your girlfriend a text every time you are about to stroke?
Perhaps ask her if you're allowed to just give it a few? that way you give her control when she's not there.
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There is no question... you do need it. If you're cheating and can't be trusted the only realistic choice is to lock it up, however I hope she is clever about this. Too many devices are easy to escape and cheat. Locks are not enough. You need to be total accountable for everything that cock does and give her complete control. She might think its strange at first but I assure you she will not only find it useful but sexy knowing she really does control your cock. Once she see's how "motivated" you are, she will be locking that cock all the time! Lucky you!

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Hey lolstick,

Yea, we're kind of doing that. She's out today and I'm home so I've sent her a couple of messages telling her how I'm feeling and stuff and we've talked on the phone but i wouldn't ask her permission while she isn't here - I'm pretty sure that that's not what she wants.

Hi Goddess Josephine,

For what it's worth I think you're right. The reason I posted this request is because I am struggling with, er.... keeping my hands off myself.... :blush: But she says chastity is not what she wants so this is what I'm working with. I wouldn't want to press her on it and if things change in the future then fine, but at the moment she decides on what she thinks is best. I just want to try and work within that and do as she asks.

Thank you both very much for your replies. They are most welcome!

Any hints on how to cope with being teased and denied while not in chastity are greatly appreciated! :-D

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PS. It's been exactly a week since my last orgasm ( :-/ ) if that helps
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okay there IS
a way or even two to do chastity play without
having to buy an actual chastity device


I usually suggest picking out one pair of underwear
and labeling it your chastity undies
you can only touch on the sides to slide them down for bathroom you will be sitting on toitel
because you are to do no touch.

http://www.milovana.com/webteases/showt ... p?id=11790
is a no touch tease I created.

another idea is get some yellow tape
and write on it "In chastity" in pen on part of it
and put the tape on: (1) your undies (2) the inside of your pants
you can also wear a bracelet or watch to help you remember to not touch.
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I honestly don't see how undies, tape, etc would work. you could put a cock ring with teeth inside to create pain every time you got hard but that would defeat the purpose of edging and keeping you mindful.

Good luck with all tho
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To be successful chastity is a matter of trust.
Any device is removable given enough time determination and judicious use of the internet for suitable techniques.

Therefore the pants and tape idea can work especially if mechanical devices may cause problems if discovered.

I have also heard of tying a ribbon on the appendage concerned.
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les wrote:

To be successful chastity is a matter of trust.
Any device is removable given enough time determination and judicious use of the internet for suitable techniques.

Therefore the pants and tape idea can work especially if mechanical devices may cause problems if discovered.

I have also heard of tying a ribbon on the appendage concerned.
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completely agree
Chastity is a state of mind
You have to Agree to it

You should have fairly quick access to an emergency key
what if you belt/device starts to pinch you in pain? or otherwise needs to be briefly removed (metal detector)
A "naughty" slave could just open their device with an emergency key.
So just picking out something can be VERY effective IF you buy into the idea!
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is my other profile. see my chastity belt link :
http://www.milovana.com/forum/viewtopic ... 16#p139016
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SexualChoc wrote:
les wrote:

To be successful chastity is a matter of trust.
Any device is removable given enough time determination and judicious use of the internet for suitable techniques.

Therefore the pants and tape idea can work especially if mechanical devices may cause problems if discovered.

I have also heard of tying a ribbon on the appendage concerned.
Often pink.

completely agree
Chastity is a state of mind
You have to Agree to it

You should have fairly quick access to an emergency key
what if you belt/device starts to pinch you in pain? or otherwise needs to be briefly removed (metal detector)
A "naughty" slave could just open their device with an emergency key.
So just picking out something can be VERY effective IF you buy into the idea!
+1
A chastity device is cheating.
I would assume that not stroking just because she had said so would be so much more intense, rather that not stroking because you physically cannot.

You can try to build up to it.
Eg, have a week first where your orgasms are controlled by her.
Then 2 weeks next time. (this is the hardest duration)
A month next time.
And then..fully under her control.
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Thanks for all your suggestions guys...

We'll work it out...!!

Best,

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