Great website! I am very, very interested in teasing and denying myself. The problem is once I get to the edge, I only end up edging myself a few times, then I always end up finishing up. I have trouble sleeping and concentrating on work if I don't have regular orgasms. How do you recommend getting around this problem? Or is this part of the "denial" part?
Also, does anybody have some beginner methods I could use to tease and deny myself? I don't know how to do it other than stroke, edge, stroke, edge, etc. When I do that I always end up saying "Ah forget it, I'll just cum and be done with it." I really could use some structure and self discipline. What do you recommend for a beginner? A day? A week? Edge or don't edge? Etc.
Without a live in Mistress, no matter how you slice it, it eventually comes down to you.
You have to have (or learn) the self discipline to resist.
Even with Miss Jay's instructions, there's no one physically stopping you from cheating. So it's still on you.
I'd suggest building yourself up to it. Try edging once in the morning, then doing nothing until evening. If that's too much, shorten it. Edge, wait an hour or something, then go. Once you can handle that, start extending the time frame, increasing the number of edges, etc. A little at a time until you're used to it, then increase again.
Alternately, get yourself a chastity device. Freeze the key in an ice cube or suspended in a glass or something similar. Then edge, stop, lock on the belt. Now you have no choice but to wait until you can get the key out of the ice. (No breaking it either, it has to melt. Wouldn't want to risk breaking the key.)
Just a couple random ideas. I'm sure others will have many more.
it's done with practice, practice and more practice!!
i have been into edging for over twenty years and it takes practice to get to long term denial without an someone there to help you.
maybe you can try to set a time, like 10pm and not cum before it, and if you make it to 10 either reward yourself by jacking off to orgasm and stopping right as you start cumming or try to go a little longer like 10:30pm.
another, although i little harder (no pun intended) might be to commit to a certain number of times you are going to edge before jacking off to orgasm. maybe inbetween edgings, try to do something non-sexual to calm you down. also set a time, like 10 minutes between starting again.
gage yourself and figure out what is successful for you.
Well, an answer to almost every psychological and physical problem is breathing. It is amazing how it helps! While edging you have to breathe profound but slowly. After (or already during) edging you visual-ise while breathing in, how your sexual energy is going up along the colon up to your head (to the fon-tanel). Pull it up. Breathing out, let the energy flow down over your chest, back to the cock.
Already the imagination helps. But when – after some practice – the energy really is flowing up and down, the urge to have an ejaculation will subside (more and more). The body will feel strong as if a health stream of light is filling up every cell.
Tray and enjoy!
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