How to ruin

[Snike]

Hi,
I'm mostly a silent reader, but I have a question and problem.

Most of the time when I'm asked to ruin and move on in a session, it just doesn't work out because my cock goes limp afterwards. I stop in time, but then my PC muscle tenses so much that I don't even ruin properly and I enjoy it too much.

Anyone have any tips, different ways, etc.?

[Butt_Hole]

try to pull with less force its usually when you're resetting your stroke that you mess up because you've gotten too excited

also edging a lot beforehand helps with control quite a bit

[oats71]

In my experience, I've also had trouble reliably getting what some call a "True" ruined orgasm, where there's no orgasm sensation, but you do get some semen release.

A few times I've done it where I am holding at the edge, and go just past, but usually, this results in what is sometimes called a "abandoned orgasm" where you feel like you're having an orgasm, but you're not touching. Sometimes it's somewhere in between the two. The way I have been most successful, not every time, but a more successful method for me is:
1. Edge a bunch before, the more the better. Hours, Days, however long you want.
2. Right before you indent to Ruin, give yourself time to rest, so, don't be right at the edge just before you try. Don't be holding an edge.
3. Stroke quickly to the edge, and basically go past the edge before your body realizes it, and let go. It should feel like you're trying to get to the edge and go just past before your penis realizes it. By the time you let go, you should't feel the pleasure of an orgasm, but you get the result.

The key for me was step 2, before if I tried right after I had just edged, or if I tried while holding an edge, It would usually just have an orgasm, and then It would be an abandoned one.
Again, I'm not always successful, but it works more this way than other ways for me.
Also, I figure some people seem to get it using other methods, but those don't work for me.

Curious if others have the same experience.

[Snike]

Thank you in advance for both of your replies, I'll try to implement that!

Yes, I feel the same way, it's more like a real orgasm just without using my hands.

I would be interested in other methods. There are some paths, some of which are also nice variety.

[stallionBoi]

Just like sunsets or snowflakes, every ruined orgasm is different from the last. Seems impossible to duplicate the exact same experience again.

It's deviously fun to spill over the edge, releasing only a few squirts (or dribbles) of semen while still remaining hard and horny enough to continue...

I've also tried to cut back on traditional stroking, opting for subtle finger touches instead. Takes practice and discipline, because of the urge to grab and squeeze the whole thing.

Borrowed a technique from the easiest way to ruin an orgasm, which is to "Irritate the Frenulum" with a finger.

Get close to the edge, then vigorously (or even lightly) tease the "sweet spot" under the head of the penis with just one finger.
Can also lightly rub the length of the shaft with a couple fingers, all the way to the edge.

Sometimes I even gently tickle the shaft and testicles. Barely touching, it can get pretty intense. By teasing (and tickling) myself to the edge a bunch of times with very minimal touching. I find that I can have a "ruined orgasm" by releasing only a portion of the load. If done perfectly, I'll be even harder and hornier than I was before I started.