Working on a Female sub tease but?

[Denied4Life1979]

Just a quick questions for the female subs on here..

what is it you actually want in the tease..

I obviously won't be able to include in everything that is suggested..

[cumhardy]

If they tell you what they want, its not very subby!

[Denied4Life1979]

- everyone has kinks, and things they like, that is what i am looking for.. it has to appeal to people..

[cumhardy]

yeah man im just kidding.

The thing with webteases is if its written well it will appeal to someone out there no matter what. pehaps check out some of the female orgasm denial sites for ideas?

http://femaleorgasmdenial.blogspot.com/
http://tantalism.org/
http://www.bdsmweblogs.com/by-women/fem ... sm-denial/


Thats just from the first page of a quick google search. Im sure theres plenty of inspiration out there

[slaveamy]

I personaly enjoy humiliation and actual tasks rather than just 'stroke for 2 minutes' another mechanic which i think makes teases alot more exciting is chance, dice and the like.

but humiliating tasks are all i need :)

[Nikki]

If they tell you what they want, its not very subby!

Cumhardy.. I think that may be a common misconception. To be a "subby" is not to not have ideas or wants. It is approporiate to ask for what you want or to give ideas. As long as it is done in the right way it is actually prefered. At least in my relationships.

Nikki

[Nikki]

- everyone has kinks, and things they like, that is what i am looking for.. it has to appeal to people..

I would think that a hetrosexual submissive woman would crave (or be aroused) by worshiping her Masters cock.

Another thing might be to be bound in someway. Self bondage is something that can be fun to experiment with.

Also nipple clamps can be fun for some, just be careful to be realistic with the timing on that as you don't want them on too long.

Spanking is always good ;)

I would make her dress up into something sexy for the tease.. some kind of slutty outfit.

Butt plugs are A+

Good luck with it.

Nikki

[cumhardy]

If they tell you what they want, its not very subby!

Cumhardy.. I think that may be a common misconception. To be a "subby" is not to not have ideas or wants. It is approporiate to ask for what you want or to give ideas. As long as it is done in the right way it is actually prefered. At least in my relationships.

Nikki

Yeah I was only joking. I used to be 100% submissive (i dunno what happened to change that i think drugs have rewired my brain ) It was a kinda paradoxical dilemma that used to run through my head all the time in those situations. How do you tell someone what you want when you want them to be in control? If they are doing the things you want them to, then really is isnt what you want... or something. I dunno.

[Nikki]

If they tell you what they want, its not very subby!

Cumhardy.. I think that may be a common misconception. To be a "subby" is not to not have ideas or wants. It is approporiate to ask for what you want or to give ideas. As long as it is done in the right way it is actually prefered. At least in my relationships.

Nikki

Yeah I was only joking. I used to be 100% submissive (i dunno what happened to change that i think drugs have rewired my brain ) It was a kinda paradoxical dilemma that used to run through my head all the time in those situations. How do you tell someone what you want when you want them to be in control? If they are doing the things you want them to, then really is isnt what you want... or something. I dunno.

I know what you mean, there is a fine like before you call it "topping from the bottom".

My boy has a wonderful way of getting me to do the things that he "wants"... he just plants a little seed in conversation then he builds on it later in an erotic way, very soon I THINK I am the one who had the idea or at least the idea becomes so erotic to ME that I am compelled to act on it. Sometimes I notice, sometimes I do not, either way I get to take full credit for the outcum ;)

Nikki

[rbtheservant]

Cumhardy & Nikki,

You two are really on to something here. I am a sub by nature and have been with my wife/mistress forever so she really knows my likes and dislikes by now, but in the early days, I would plant a seed before things got rolling, however that seed would have been a rather broad statement. As the "session" began and progressed, my Mistress would expand on my suggestion. So though I put the thought in her head, she really ran with the idea and further explored my limits, or took the seed in a different direction that I wasn't expecting therefore keeping control of the situation. Not exactly topping from the bottom, but more like creating the idea for a script and handing it over to the writer.

From a commercial sense...a top must do what the bottom wants, otherwise there would be no repeat business.

Good forum folks!

[Jobicek]

From my point of view the process of probing mind of my sub is most beautiful thing in entire relationship. Getting to know them. Yes, it's very useful when sub hints you but in the case of females there is a catch. Most of them lie in what they want. It's like they are afraid of confessing theirs turn-ons and fantasies because they are ashamed of themselves or too proud to admit it (or they are just playing head game with you). So even if she tells you what she wants you can't trust it. She will enjoy it but it won't be the thing she craves for. Once I was told that I simply have to figure it out myself and if I will than I'm worthy her :D

I can give some light session after few minutes of talking. But when I want it more intensive I have to know her very well. Friendship is usually the way I use. Only long term probing of her opinions and reactions can give me a good picture. I have to get into her head. That's the reason I don't see Pro BDSM as real thing. Because you act on what you are told. Because it's not personal. I have strong feelings for all subs I ever had. They are part of me for rest of my days. Being able to get into her head and thanks to that control her is what being dominant is for me. I like to listen to her needs and wishes. But it's not paramount. It's only another source.

As for what means to be sub, I think, that 100% unconditional sub shouldn't have wishes, fantasies and opinions. He/she should be empty shell. Because we are mix of many attributes it's highly unlikely that any of us will ever meet someone with pure sub side. And I wouldn't like it either. I like subs with personality, fantasy and opinions. I like when she can make her fantasies and wishes come true. We are all unique and use these "tags" to highlight part of personality that we want others to notice. When someone says that he/she is sub it's like when you tell your children that we breath oxygen. There is much more in there.

Martin

PS: I know that this thread is not the best one for such as post but previous discussion inspired me so I wrote it here. And of course, this is my opinion based on my experiences and I'm not forcing it on anyone. I will be happy to discuss this topic with anyone interested.