Motivational Submission

[CruelNatalie]

For the past few years most of my work has been ongoing training. Programs designed so that the submissive male is accountable daily. Reporting, assignments, task, etc. Normally they are one week or 30 days, a break and they come back. I've found this to be the most effective for both of us.

In my personal lifestyle those collared by me are accountable for EVERYTHING they do- diet, money, orgasms everything

Some of my regular customers that I've had for 1 plus years I've grown close to and adopt programs, as part of training to enhance their life. This includes marriage, weight control, diet etc. It's an interesting dynamic because it combines control with compassion. This is what I find so wonderful about female domination. I've never experienced this in standard vanilla relationships (not that I've had many vanilla) and most likely why I find myself only interested in D/s primarily female domination.

So I wanted to get your honest feedback. I'm not on many sites/groups and really value the discussion here.

If you're involved with a mistress- in real life or cyber would you find it hot, acceptable or a turn off if she wanted to control your diet? What about how you spend your money? I'm not talking about financial domination, blackmail or taking advantage of you. In addition to controlling your orgasms how would you feel if she only allowed you to have an orgasm based on how much weight you lost or OTHER life enhancing task?

My mother, also a Mistress use to tell me to impose the rule "To be the be the best that you can be so you can be that for me." She believed that a slave should work hard at being the best he could because he was property and what more valuable prize could you give the woman you adore than the perfect submissive male?

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She believed that a slave should work hard at being the best he could because he was property and what more valuable prize could you give the woman you adore than the perfect submissive male?

mmmm yesssss.

forcing to become better (while appreciating and motivating) is just the greatest.
Heres another idea. Using hypnosis to make them more submissive. make them listen to hypnosis, for example, force them to listen to hypnosis that makes them submissive each day

[sissy angie]

I am a true believer that the Dominant Female should have full control over a submissives life outside of the bedroom. I have had the diet idea for several years now and it is a great motivator to achieve goals. I had a girlfriend once that would give me a daily workout routine to do and if I completed it I would get rewarded.

I feel part of the Domme's job is to make the sub a better person and she can accomplish this by setting goals by using motivation. The sub's role is to please their Superior and make sure they are happy. By doing that then they are ultimately happy.

As for the financial control over things, I feel that if you have a great connection then why shouldn't the Domme be in charge? It is all about giving up control and that is what ultimately a submissive craves. An idea would be to have a set budget for the sub and either rewards or punishment's were handing out for being under or over goals. Let's just say for example the sub has a budget of 100 dollars for the month for his own personal entertainment, if he was to go over that amount, then the next month he would be stripped of the 100 dollars and made to take the Domme on a shopping trip. Or he could be locked in chastity until the results for the next month's budget is in. Imagination could lead to endless possibilities.

I think all control adds to the aspect of the dynamic between the Domme and sub.

:)

[Kniffhanger]

This topic is rather easy. It just comes down to: “Are you really submissive? Or are you only sexually submissive?”
I'm only sexually submissive. And I'm all for "personal growth". But I want to do that MY way.
As I'm only sexually submissive I want to have my sexually desires separated from the rest of my life.

[Slavonicus]

If you're involved with a mistress- in real life or cyber would you find it hot, acceptable or a turn off if she wanted to control your diet?

It would not be something for me. I don't eat many things, as my stomach seem to be very dainty. Experimenting with food may not be the best option for me.

What about how you spend your money? I'm not talking about financial domination, blackmail or taking advantage of you.

Neither. But here mostly because I find it impossible.

In addition to controlling your orgasms how would you feel if she only allowed you to have an orgasm based on how much weight you lost or OTHER life enhancing task?

Actually, I am trying to gain weight, not to lose it. 63 kg is not much. But in case of "other" it may be worth trying once.

She believed that a slave should work hard at being the best he could because he was property and what more valuable prize could you give the woman you adore than the perfect submissive male?

It depends on the individual's needs.

[goodman]

CruelNatalie,
I would find all of those, and more along similar lines (grooming, dressing, sleep, limits on vices), to be hot. Overall I eat fairly well and get some exercise, but often find them tedious. I think having them as tasks makes it much more exciting and enjoyable. It is also definitely motivational. I certainly wouldn't want to disappoint my Mistress. In addition, I think dom/sub relationship often goes well being sexual, and is more similar to therapy. For a Mistress to take the time to help a sub address issues in his life, that he probable wants to address anyway, is very caring and considerate, and would hopefully build a stronger relationship.

Goodman

[CruelNatalie]

She believed that a slave should work hard at being the best he could because he was property and what more valuable prize could you give the woman you adore than the perfect submissive male?

mmmm yesssss.

forcing to become better (while appreciating and motivating) is just the greatest.
Heres another idea. Using hypnosis to make them more submissive. make them listen to hypnosis, for example, force them to listen to hypnosis that makes them submissive each day

lol I already do this. I have a cock hypnosis that is effective if used properly. Once you control the cock the rest follows.

[CruelNatalie]

I am a true believer that the Dominant Female should have full control over a submissives life outside of the bedroom. I have had the diet idea for several years now and it is a great motivator to achieve goals. I had a girlfriend once that would give me a daily workout routine to do and if I completed it I would get rewarded.

I feel part of the Domme's job is to make the sub a better person and she can accomplish this by setting goals by using motivation. The sub's role is to please their Superior and make sure they are happy. By doing that then they are ultimately happy.

As for the financial control over things, I feel that if you have a great connection then why shouldn't the Domme be in charge? It is all about giving up control and that is what ultimately a submissive craves. An idea would be to have a set budget for the sub and either rewards or punishment's were handing out for being under or over goals. Let's just say for example the sub has a budget of 100 dollars for the month for his own personal entertainment, if he was to go over that amount, then the next month he would be stripped of the 100 dollars and made to take the Domme on a shopping trip. Or he could be locked in chastity until the results for the next month's budget is in. Imagination could lead to endless possibilities.

I think all control adds to the aspect of the dynamic between the Domme and sub.

:)

I do have full control over my personal slaves. Financial control is more tricky mainly because of all the abuse out there. If I suggest a tribute or gift I'm called a fin dom when I'm not. Creating a budget is a big part of my control as well. If a man tells me he can't afford training then I will quickly show him he can.

[CruelNatalie]

CruelNatalie,
I would find all of those, and more along similar lines (grooming, dressing, sleep, limits on vices), to be hot. Overall I eat fairly well and get some exercise, but often find them tedious. I think having them as tasks makes it much more exciting and enjoyable. It is also definitely motivational. I certainly wouldn't want to disappoint my Mistress. In addition, I think dom/sub relationship often goes well being sexual, and is more similar to therapy. For a Mistress to take the time to help a sub address issues in his life, that he probable wants to address anyway, is very caring and considerate, and would hopefully build a stronger relationship.

Goodman

Beautiful post. Yes, I agree. Control can be very sexy and it should be.

[CruelNatalie]

So this has taken some interesting turns. lol I presented the idea to a few of my regulars who snapped at it. We are using New Years also as a marker. The games are interesting because all based on reward and punishment for task or goals. For instance once guy wants to stop smoking and is a big tease and denial fan. Every single cig cost him a day of no touching at all. Now you might think he's into that, right? lol But he wants to touch. He can easily go a month without orgasm but barely can go a few hours without touching his cock. He's doing great and when he gets a really strong urge for a cig he messages me and goes into the bathroom to rub it a little. Maybe I'll let him cum on the 31st!

Another sissy- I just adore this silly little slut!, has already lost 10 pounds in a few weeks! All of it centered around control.