What makes the "perfect" one?

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Hello folks.

I got told to write something about the following points. I tried to give the topics sort of a different approach and mention one or another thing that you don´t immediately think of when it comes to this topic. And I´d be really glad to hear your opinion on this. So let me hear what you think, please.


The perfect dominant to me is somebody who values me as a person. She can understand that the kink is only a part of my life and that there are also other things that count. While she is caring and tender at times she exactly knows what she wants me to do und she´s got the power to get it. The perfect dominant would be somebody I meet in my real life , not only, she would be given the possibilities to control me properly.
She would not only be a Mistress but also somebody with whom it is fun to spend time with. She would accept my limits but still try to push my boundaries. While she´s doing that she would make sure that I´m not going insane.
Many of those points also go for the perfect lover. The perfect lover to me would be somebody who accepts me unconditionally. Somebody who I can go to whatever problem I may have and somebody who cares about me. The person would not keep many of her secrets from me but be open and honest. Somebody I can really trust. I could to really cool things with my perfect lover because she is interested in different cool things and interested to try new things out. She would be there for me and I´d know that she´ll be in the future.

The perfect slave is quite difficult to describe. It would be too easy to say it´s the one who follows every order in the best possible way. I think it is not the one who follows each and every comand without even thinking. The slave should still keep his mind going. But he should also trust into his dominant to overcome obstacles.He should be honest. Really honest. It doesn´t work if somebody is not honest and it is very insulting not to be. The perfect slave should also sometimes do a bit more than what is demanded. He should also try to reach goals that he thinks are far out of reach. He shouldn´t throw the safeword around like it was something that is used every day. Be brave! I think those are the most important points.