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Hi,

So I'm into the dominant side of things, and don't really go for a lot of the teases here as they tend to focus on submissive guys, so I have a couple of quick questions:

1 - Are there any teases around that are from a dom's perspective, or if not, have no power dynamic associated with them?

2 - Since as tease users, I assume you guys have decent stamina and enjoy stretching things out. My issue is since I don't have the incentive of submission, or the incentive to please my SO(since I'm solo), I tend to just go straight for the orgasm, and then the fun's over pretty quickly, which sucks. So, what would your advice be as an incentive for a guy into sub women to edge and 'tease' myself such that I can revel in the feeling, without going all the way?

TL;dr: I want to feel dominant while avoiding cumming within 5 minutes, and I want some way of thinking to use to achieve this and overcome impulse.

Thanks :-P
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Hmm a difficult one.

Perhaps a tease where your sub has to get you off, the longer they take, the longer it is until they have an orgasm?
So for every minute they take to get you off they have to wait a day for their orgasm.
The obvious incentive for you is the longer you hold out the longer they have to wait for an orgasm.
Imagine their mental anguish as the minutes tick by and you are still holding out.
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If youre a dom, have sex with real people. Stop jerking off and fuck people. Because thats dominant.
Meditate.
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@philo Now that's a stellar idea. I like the way you think.

@jackstock Actually what's dominant is doing what you want and not submitting to the whims and expectations of others. I don't want to just go off and fuck people, just because. I'm single at the moment, I like jerking off just fine, and I don't see the problem. The concept of a tease from a dominant's perspective seemed like a novel idea. That's all.

Also, in the strict sense I'm not a dominant. One needs a sub to be a dom. What I mean is I'm into women being submissive/tied up etc. I like the idea of having a sub. But I've not had one yet, and I doubt I'm currently qualified to have one.

Meditation is a good idea. It's a fix to so many problems I've thus far not penciled into my day as I should.
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doing what you want and not submitting to the whims and expectations of others.
Nailed it. :whistle:

Anyway, I've totally wanted to make a dom-based tease.... But it just doesn't seem to make a whole lot of sense if you do it the way most teases are. We have to think of something very different it seems. There was a tease, I think It was called "switch game". And that one had some dom elements to it. (I cant find it)
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Or
a competition between 2 doms.
you swap subs.
if your sub gets him off first she gets a reward and you get to punish his sub.
If you cum first he gets to punish your sub.

how well can you hold out, how well have you trained your sub?
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Try some of the cockhero videos and don't think of them as submisivness, but a competition or a game, how far can you make it through the game?

I'm only slowly getting into the tease and denial part of this site as I stumbled onto it due to randomly finding a cockhero video. When I played through them it was just a new way to experience porn, and the powerful orgasim you get after 40 minutes of teasing, something I'd probably not be able to hold out for if it wasn't for the constantly changing things to look at.

It was also nice to experience content that I wouldn't normally have enjoyed if not for the fact that I had been on edge for 20+ minutes already.

So I may definitely be a submissive person, but I thought a lot of the cockhero videos don't make it about that quite as much as the teases do and it might be a good place to start.

Though it is interesting to have a tease written from a dominate point of view, I definitely think it could be done really well.
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jackstock wrote:
doing what you want and not submitting to the whims and expectations of others.
Nailed it. :whistle:

Anyway, I've totally wanted to make a dom-based tease.... But it just doesn't seem to make a whole lot of sense if you do it the way most teases are. We have to think of something very different it seems. There was a tease, I think It was called "switch game". And that one had some dom elements to it. (I cant find it)
Maybe you could get rid of this arrogant tone and be more helpful as judgmental.

To the question itself, i would need to think about it for awhile. But as i am also dominant and i also love to edge to stretch out the pleasure, i see not really a problem with it. Its clearly not just an submissive act. Its how your mind is wrapped around it.
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That was not intended to sound like that
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i think it's a difficult problem, because this site is more for the subs
except for the doms who send someone here or i like to do write something for people

for your case maybe cock hero videos are not bad, but a tease for a dom, why should somebody write it ?

you can read the teases with ideas (especially if there are written for submissive women/girls) and set for yourself a goal
or your try some of the teases and ignore the parts you don't like ( maybe especially the tease and denial part)

PS: apologize my english i'm drunken and not from England or GB
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Ambossli wrote:i think it's a difficult problem, because this site is more for the subs
except for the doms who send someone here or i like to do write something for people

for your case maybe cock hero videos are not bad, but a tease for a dom, why should somebody write it ?
Sorry, but that is simply wrong. Why should this site be more for the subs? Yes, the teases might be more for the subs, but that is just for the fact that you can more easily make a tease for subs. That has nothing to do with the fact that nobody would or should write a tease for a dom/me. I think thats a bit of an insensitive comment from you. As if just subs have an secual urge and a right to get rid of it like that.

A sub needs control, directions and tasks. It is easy to write something like that, but for a dom/me its different. A dom/me needs to feel control, gives out directions and tasks. The pleasure a dom/me gets is usualy the reaction of the sub, which is hard to do with a tease. it might be not impossible, but its definitly hard to do.

But enough of this. What i can say to BondageFun.

Teases are focused on subs, ok, but stories arent. Maybe it would be a good idea to read bdsm stories?

Other than that i can say you also had the option to make an tease. You could give out tasks and have some sort of control. You would get a feedback and that could be a nice start and a first experience.
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@Kagura I think you're right. Writing a tease might be the way to go.

In addition to my own personal wants, the idea of a dom-oriented tease seemed if anything like an interesting conundrum to consider, in line with thinking about the context of particular aspects of sexuality. Specifically: are you still a dom if you're being teased by your sub, or in the case of webteases, your 'sub'? It's an interesting concept.

I'd say the short answer is yes, in the same way you're still a dom if you order your sub to spank you or whatever. As long as you're calling the shots, you're 'in control'. It's the ol' 'topping from the bottom' thing. But there comes a point that the given activity tends to put a damper on the mood. Most dom/mes aren't going o want to be spanked by their subs, because it kills the mood, and similarly most dom/es aren't going to want to be teased by their subs in the same context, but what other context would work?

The whole thing just seems cool to figure out.

As far as webteases go, you're severely limited to teases directed toward subs I think because it's not two-way. doms tend to be the decision makers in a scene, so simply following the script of another bumps you down to a top, regardless of it's content. And then you're left with doing similar things as with a regular tease, but with it worded in such a way as to imply submission of the person/people in the photos.

The most I've seen this done is in those teases that act like a contest, like Anyone for Tennis for example, where you can win or lose and thus get different outcomes. Some of them, like the one named, have the 'win' outcome such that the 'person' submits at the end "you owned me on the court today and you're owning me now' and so on.

I say the way to maybe go about writing one of these would be to take the style of some of those contest teases where you win, and extend it to the whole thing, but make a it a 'choose your own adventure' where there's just different content depending on multiple choices per page. I might try that sometime.

Anyway it's all cool stuff. Thanks for all your thoughts on it :-D
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What about a "tease" written, not with instructions to the reader, but with options to the reader ...

What do you want me to do master/mistress?

a) stroke
b) edge
c) ice ...

...

whatever ... and the reader/dom chooses the tasks for the "sub" .. kind of like a "choose your own adventure" ;)
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Thought about that too, b ut i find it is a bit to limited.if you want to make an goo tease yo u cant have real ly too muich options and that limits it much.
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