Not sure where to ask about this...here goes :)

[YellowSubmarine]

Hi,

I'm not if this is beyond the scope of this site, but it very much pertains to webteases, so I'll give it a shot.

I've been flying solo regarding kink and similar thus far and, despite my immense enjoyment of all this stuff, I've never orgasmed while awake. Not once. I have while asleep many times, and have no evidence anything physically is wrong. I'm perfectly fine. i've just never been able to purposefully reach orgasm. It's strange. I get very aroused. I get almost to the point of edging at times, but then I just can't reach the edge, and can't orgasm.

One thing that makes that so frustrating in this case is because most of the time the end goal of the teases on this site is to fulfill some conditions in order to cum. Well this kind of kills the whole point, when you can't do it when you try.

So my question I'm putting out there is, has anyone else had this issue, at least when it comes to teases, and if so how did you fix it, if you did?

Thanks a lot for the help :)

[Nezhul]

first of all, with this kind of problem you should probably visit a doctor. It may well be something on their part.
The other thing you may try, is relaxing. A lot. Instead of tensing up when you stroke, try to relax all muscles. breathe deeply and calmly. Appreciate the beauty of girls in a porn you watch, but leave the anxiety behing - you have all the time in the world. And just stroke the way that feels the best.
Maybe even try some hypnosis techniques. In fact, I'v seen hypnosis files that help with your problem - some men can not cum when they are tense or under stress, like during sexual act.

Also:
http://www.minddisorders.com/Kau-Nu/Mal ... order.html

[SexualChoc]

I agree with Nezhul

Go see a doctor! !!
that's not normal!

[janmb]

Definitely agree, this is doctor material - at least for starters.

That does NOT mean there's necessarily anything physically wrong with you at all - most of the time that's not the case. It is far more likely a matter of the state of mind and your mind somehow blocking you from relaxing into an orgasm. And the more hung up on it you get, the further away from achieving one you'll be. The very same problem a LOT of girls struggle with too, being tensed up, anxious, self aware of things they dislike about their own bodies, and being hung up on whether they are cumming or not. Never gonna happen then...

So yeah, definitely start off by seeing a doctor and explain the situation.