Sad to see you go, but farewell and all the best wishes.
Sad to see your teases go as well. I must say I have trouble understanding that part of the decision, but decision is the keyword, it's yours.
Good luck!
Personally, I had a severe Internet addiction, so I turned it into my job. Maybe, just maybe you're meant to write. Maybe you can turn a destructive addiction into a healthy passion. It's just an idea. If you like the idea but can't find a job, let me know, maybe we can hire you as our first professional tease writer. Again, just throwing it out there, I don't pretend to understand your situation.
Sorry to see you go Matt. Only a few quality tease writers on this site that also have quantity, and you were one of them. But as other users have reiterated here, if it means taking down your teases to get past your problem, then you have to do what you have to do. Best of luck to you!
First off, sorry I somehow missed this post was it originally went up, but thanks for all the teases you did before submatt. You are a good writer and I wish you the best.
As for those who have been less than supportive on the subject of addiction, you may be right that addiction isn't the right word. But I think obsession fits and is just as bad. I don't think it takes anything away from addictions by using the word here.
Not all addictions have physical symptoms. It's been said that smoking pot isn't physically addictive, but it certainly causes a psychological dependency. And some physical aspects of addiction may not be as obvious as getting the shakes when you come off heroine or something similar. I know when I was still a huge pothead, I used tosmoke every night before I went to bed. Once I quit, it became very hard to fall asleep at night for awhile.
Psychological problems can be the results and so can social problems. If you spend all your time online writing/viewing/searching for porn, that could very easily be at the cost of friends, family, and work. Many jobs would fire you in an instant if they found out you were looking at porn at work. The fact that you lose/have lost so much to your addiction can send you int a depression. When trying to cope with that depression (and possibly having more free time) many addicts sink further into their addiction, making it even more difficult to stop, because they have nothing else.
12-Step groups are not for everyone. Some people think that they have a formula that will 'cure' you. It just isn't the cause. The primary perpose of those groups is to give you a social situation where you have other people around yo have have similar (or sometimes identical) experiences and can give you some insight. It also allows you to develope friendships with people who won't be looking to undermine your recovery. (for example: in the case of AA, you won't meet many people who want to take you out to a bar)
There are those who bristle at the spiritual aspect of the group, but it's mainly there because pride is one of the biggest hinderances in recovering from any addiction. We think that we don't need any help and can get better on our own. This may be true of some, but me accepting 'God' or whatever higher power is more accepting that I am not God, and it helps.
So I guess what I am saying is that if you think you have a problem, give a 12-Step program a try for a bit. Even if you don't want to speak infront ofthe whole group (they won't make you unless they are doing something wrong) make sure you at least talk to some people at the meeting, even if it's just about sports or whatever.
I realize this response is late, but I want you to know that I commend you for your courage. I too am addicted to sex, it has affected my job, marriage, and life! A true addiction is when the addiction comes before everything else. I can't tell you how many days I start late for work because I need my fix. Like most addicts, I am in denial and think I can control it. Lucky or perhaps unlucky for me I have a profession where being late is not a strike against me. The best way I have handled the situation is like all addicts I go through binges. That is why you see teases from me then a dry spell and then teases again. It is like the alcoholic that has fallen off the wagon.
Just want you to know that I understand your challenge and wish you the best of luck. I wish I had your strenght, but as in breaking all addictions, you first need the will to really want to do it, and I am not strong enough to make that leap. Orgasm has consumed me and I am addicted to the pleasure or perhaps the endorphins that orgasm produce.
Good luck Matt. I wish you the best. You will be missed.
RB the servant "The more complex the mind, the greater the need for the simplicity of play"
Only a few quality tease writers on this site that also have quantity, and you were one of them. But as other users have reiterated here, if it means taking down your teases to get past your problem, then you have to do what you have to do. Best of luck to you!
