And I had a question for my fellow Dom/mes, what experiences did you have growing up that led you to the conclusion you were a Dom/me at heart?
For example, I was the kind of little girl that made her friends and their brothers strip so I could inspect them however I chose. I would make them lie down in a room, with the shades drawn, and feel and poke every little nook and cranny they had. I would tease them and sometimes laugh at them too. Also I personally have a deep attachment to feet because growing up my family would always tell me how cute/pretty my feet are and give me foot rubs so I grew accustomed to that. I was genuinely surprise when I got older the men I dated didn't even give my feet a 2nd glance or willing to rub, pamper my feet! And I played footsie a lot in middle school. Later I often would play-wrestle the guys that I liked. And I was so lucky because my Mom is so open minded and even though my mom, straight she is very active in the gay community (this was before LGBT term became mainstream. I grew up in the gay community when it was still hush hush hush for fear of what would happen to my gays if someone found out). I learned from an early age that what people do in their bedroom is their own business and no one is to judge what makes someone else happy kink-wise.
In college my 1st year I seriously considered being a sexologist and took many classes on sexuality. I explored the idea of being a bi but it never really took. I also whenever I could read up on various sexual fetishes because its absolutely fascinating to me, pre-internet days there wasn't a whole lot of information readily available which meant what little I did find, made it all the more exciting. I have also noticed much to both of my exes chagrin that I love to tease them and get them all work up but not let them cum right away. I start and stop, mixing it up and my last ex really hated that. But I couldn't help it, I love denying him his release.
Then after I moved to NYC, I had a 1x encounter with a man who loved feet and the experience left me glowing! And I did dabble in the BDSM scene here in NYC but I did it as a sub and found the experience to be less than stellar. For example one guy pulled down my pants and spanked me bare bottom which didnt do it for me. I wanted to be the one doing the spanking! So all of that was short-lived because I met my 2nd LTR ex and he was very vanilla. And recently I realized in one scene of my movies (I make movies for fun in my free time) has a foot worshiping scene and that I must've subconsciously interjected my own personal desire in my films.
Now I am newly single and decided, f*ck it, I am ready to really explore the Dom/me side of me that has been patiently waiting to come out and play. I am extremely tactile person, and love creating sensations (both pleasure and pain) on men and seeing/feeling their reactions. It such a turn on when they are so turned on and begging to cum.
And I am happy to report that I have my own email sub and a few additional subs up for consideration. Its been good and I have been reading everything on the internet and via kindle downloads on femdom, bdsm, T&D, cbt, mummification, training your male slave and all of it feels RIGHT!
Now I ask you to share how you knew you too were a Dom/me? What early and more recent experiences led to your realization that being a Dom/me is who you are? And any advice for a new Dom/me like myself, much appreciated
