So anyway I joined the forum because I found it on my mates computer and and somewhat ... well I don't really know how to explain it. See I was trained to be a mistress, not in this sense but as a courteasan. I have belonged to married, engaged and single men to see to their sexual needs for many years. In fact I really know nothing else. Needless to say that I was taught to be submissive to whom ever it is that I belong to. And thus far have been. But the one that I belong to now I am learning is into things like this site and I don't know how I can maintain what I am and give him what he wants. I know this seems stupid, but I wish to learn how to give him what it is he wants while not changing to much of what I am.
It's pretty stupid huh? two subs together... but I know nothing else then to please and if this is what he wants, then I want to give this to him...
Question for the Mistresses
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wickedangel
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I am not a mistress as well but I just want to drop: Do what you like in bed, if you always change yourself for your partner who fulfills your needs and desires?
If you really want to be his mistress, begin slow. Maybe bind him to the bed and try out what makes fun for you. But don't force it and don't let him force you. I heard some while ago about a woman who was forced by a man to be his mistress and this ended bad for both.
If you think it works for you, go on. If he is really submissive and no top who plays the sub (that is pretty rare but possible) you can do what you want, because you are in charge. I would start to order him to do small things for you, e.g. worshiping special parts of your body. Maybe use a codeword, so you can immediately see if it's too much for him or for you. This codeword is also useful for yourself.
Oh damn I am sounding like a "BDSM teacher"
Just have fun! And feel free to drop some experiences here. It's fun to read it 
And I hope it's ok if I move this topic
By the way 2 subs together is not stupid! It can be great. Did you ever thought about that you can go both together to a mistress? Ok maybe that's expensive, or try to find a 3rd person in the scene or looking for it in special magazines.
If you really want to be his mistress, begin slow. Maybe bind him to the bed and try out what makes fun for you. But don't force it and don't let him force you. I heard some while ago about a woman who was forced by a man to be his mistress and this ended bad for both.
If you think it works for you, go on. If he is really submissive and no top who plays the sub (that is pretty rare but possible) you can do what you want, because you are in charge. I would start to order him to do small things for you, e.g. worshiping special parts of your body. Maybe use a codeword, so you can immediately see if it's too much for him or for you. This codeword is also useful for yourself.
Oh damn I am sounding like a "BDSM teacher"
Just have fun! And feel free to drop some experiences here. It's fun to read it And I hope it's ok if I move this topic
By the way 2 subs together is not stupid! It can be great. Did you ever thought about that you can go both together to a mistress? Ok maybe that's expensive, or try to find a 3rd person in the scene or looking for it in special magazines.
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ok so he found out that I "discovered" this site, luckily has no idea
this far that I have signed on and begun posting. I thank you very
much for the suggestions, I am kinda startin' to look forward to this all.
I have binded him a few times thus far, and it's been.. well fun... what
other things could I try on him? I really don't know what is well... anything
regarding this... but I do want to learn and hear from others who want
similar things to my mate...
thank you to everyone who has responded
*THNX DARK*
this far that I have signed on and begun posting. I thank you very
much for the suggestions, I am kinda startin' to look forward to this all.
I have binded him a few times thus far, and it's been.. well fun... what
other things could I try on him? I really don't know what is well... anything
regarding this... but I do want to learn and hear from others who want
similar things to my mate...
thank you to everyone who has responded
*THNX DARK*
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The only advice I can offer Wickedangel is that you talk to you partner about their preferences for teasing. It is best to do this when they are naked and you are dressed, for example after they have had their shower in the evening. Then just fondle and chat to them, making sure to ask open questions such as "How much do you like me doing this?" Rather than "Do you like me doing this?" And then follow up with "What else would you like me to do?" Never say yes or no, just say maybe or that you'll think about it.
Depending on where this leads you can talk about having to earn orgasms or even being punished for having them.
Depending on where this leads you can talk about having to earn orgasms or even being punished for having them.
Part of the dynamic between 2 people that enjoy both sides of a dominant/submissive dynamic if that you can both appreciate things from either side of the equation. I suggest you start off by doing to him what you'd like to have done to you. You have been treated that way enough to know what about it is alluring. Use that knowledge when you're with him.wickedangel wrote:ok so he found out that I "discovered" this site, luckily has no idea
this far that I have signed on and begun posting. I thank you very
much for the suggestions, I am kinda startin' to look forward to this all.
I have binded him a few times thus far, and it's been.. well fun... what
other things could I try on him? I really don't know what is well... anything
regarding this... but I do want to learn and hear from others who want
similar things to my mate...
thank you to everyone who has responded
*THNX DARK*
I suggest you work him up mentally long before you even touch him...
Tie him down to an armchair. Secure his wrists to the chair arms, and make sure his ankles are tied nice and snug as well. Unzip his pants and expose him, but make it a point to tell him that it's only so you can watch him get hard and gauge his reactions. Strip your clothes off from across the room. But don't pay any attention to him or even look in his direction. Act as if he's not even in the room while you take your clothes off.
Sit down in front of him and make him watch while you touch yourself. Use a dildo or a vibrator, and let him watch you slip it in and out of your body in long, calculated motions...being sure to take it out and bring it nice and close so he can see how wet he would be if it were him inside you. Bring it close enough for him to taste, but pull it away if he moves his mouth forward to try.
Ask him if he thinks that it makes you wet to see him tied up and frustrated. Ask him if he wants to feel for himself...Stand up and walk over to him. Be sure to lean over his body and give him a nice view of your cleavage while you brush your lips across his cheek, ear, neck, jawline. Drag a single fingertip of yours from the bottom of his shaft right up to the top...only once.
Position yourself so you're standing with your legs spread over one of the chair arms...so your bare vagina is right over his tied hand. So you're just a few inches out of reach from his waiting fingers. Grab his chin and turn his head away from you. Tell him not to look at you, and ask him how bad he wants to feel you lower yourself down, just a little bit more, so he can feel his fingers slide past your wetness and inside you. Ask him if he thinks it would feel good for another part of his body to slip inside you. It's up to you whether or not you should let him feel...
After that, he should me stimulated enough mentally to start actually teasing him. ;)
...And control his actions. Maybe his eye contact. While you're touching him tell him that he has to keep his eyes fixated on yours at all times, no matter what. If he starts to look away, or does more than blink, grab his chin, force his head in your direction, take your hand off him...and ask him if he wants you to start over.
...Then take it away. Tell him not to look at you. Make him stare at the wall across the room. Or maybe pin up a picture of you there for him to stare at. But he's not allowed to lay his eyes on you until given permission. Untie one of his hands and make him feel every part of your body you can think of...without being able to see what he's touching.
...Let him touch himself in front of you. Stay very close to him and keep intense eye contact while you let him get dangerously close to an orgasm. Right before he's about to cum, grab his wrists and forcefully pull his hands away from his cock. Cuff them behind his back. Kneel down and give his shaft a long, slow lick from bottom to top, very slowly. Lick the very tip, and tell him if he's good maybe you'll get to taste a little more than is precum on your tongue next time. Then leave him by himself to cool off for a while. ;)
I hope those suggestions help. Just don't forget to enjoy yourself above all other things. ;)
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Wow, thanks for sharing that awesome description Lindsey! You sound like you def know what you're doing, got me hot just reading it!
wickedangel: best of luck to you, have fun. If your fella is anything like me: he'll dig it if you make him feel like everything you do or make him do is for your own pleasure alone and you dont care about his satisfaction.. Ask him if he feels this way (he likes this site so there's a good chance!). If so, relax into it and just think of getting the most pleasure yourself out of it....you being selfish and greedy and going all out for your own pleasure could well be the way to drive him wild! If so then it's win win for both of you!
Incidentally - I dont think my signature has ever been more relevant on a post! Act like that dominant goddess, and so become her!
wickedangel: best of luck to you, have fun. If your fella is anything like me: he'll dig it if you make him feel like everything you do or make him do is for your own pleasure alone and you dont care about his satisfaction.. Ask him if he feels this way (he likes this site so there's a good chance!). If so, relax into it and just think of getting the most pleasure yourself out of it....you being selfish and greedy and going all out for your own pleasure could well be the way to drive him wild! If so then it's win win for both of you!
Incidentally - I dont think my signature has ever been more relevant on a post! Act like that dominant goddess, and so become her!
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A few ideas...
A bunch of ideas you can use if they turn you on...
The biggest thing is to talk to him about it. If he won't talk to you, then make a game of it, role-play a femdom interrogator and won't give him release until he gives you the information you want.
Or when he's on his computer, tell him to show you something that turns him on, then tell him to show you something else. Purr approval, take out his cock and start stroking lightly and tell him to show you something else.
Or tell him you want to make a recording of yourself reading a hot story... one you can play for him while he's tied up and get him all hot and bothered... one that will make him pull at the ropes in frustration to reach for his cock... preferably one he hasn't read before, so what you really want is links to stories that turn him on so that you can find one by yourself and surprise him with it. He probably won't respond with a story the first time you bring this up, but keep reminding him about it every few days. Eventually I'd expect he'd start fantasizing about it... and after that he'd be willing to give you pointers on what stories turn him on.
Which brings up a point... Bringing up what you'd like is very important. I had a girlfriend who once blurted out "I wanna make you cum more than once!" I wasn't interested, but as I thought more about it, and as I thought about the fire in her eyes, I started fantasizing about it more and more... now the idea of someone refusing to stop stroking me after I've cum even though I can't stand it... maybe because I can't stand it... is a dominant theme in my fantasies.
Or... you could pretend there's a dominant in the room ordering you to do things...
Try playing out this fantasy if it turns you on: Pretend there is a cruel master that wants you to tease torture yourself. He leads you into a room where there's a man tied to the bed who is very much like you. The master orders you to do all sorts of things with/to the man that make you both hotter and hotter, but he won't let you cum, he won't even let you make the poor helpless man cum because he knows how much your need would be partially satisfied by making that cock spurt, so instead he uses that against you, telling you to suck him until he's about the cum, then sit on his face and pull away just before you're able to cum, back and forth, letting you pour your lust into someone else only to find in horror that the lust echoes between you and the other sub, bouncing back to you even stronger, causing a twisted spiral that tests your ability to obey your master despite the frenzied, desperate energy floating in the room. Even more twisted... despite your pity for the captive, your master cares nothing about him, only caring about how it all affects you, but frequently orders you to stop and show the captive just how turned on you are, just because it turns both of you on even more.
OR... If you take pride in your skills, you could set challenges for yourself (or fantasize that the above master is setting these challenges for you) like:
1) Setting the alarm clock for 15 minutes and turning it so you can't see the tie, then having a goal of making him spurt within the first twenty beeps... and if he doesn't, then hitting snooze and trying again. After you get good at this, try going for longer times or longer (or random!) times, or for fewer allowed alarm beeps, or for being able to do it while you're blindfolded.
2) See if you can get him so close that he won't last N strokes inside you before he cums. (I've seen a post on another board where a couple would have running bets on how many strokes it would take.)
3) Experiment with ruined orgasms... In the male orgasm, the point where the cum is released is a different stage that happens JUST before the spurting starts. If you are patient enough and stop at just the right time, you can stimulate him just enough for the former but not for the latter, causing his sperm to dribble out without twitches at all. How many in a row can you do?
The biggest thing is to talk to him about it. If he won't talk to you, then make a game of it, role-play a femdom interrogator and won't give him release until he gives you the information you want.
Or when he's on his computer, tell him to show you something that turns him on, then tell him to show you something else. Purr approval, take out his cock and start stroking lightly and tell him to show you something else.
Or tell him you want to make a recording of yourself reading a hot story... one you can play for him while he's tied up and get him all hot and bothered... one that will make him pull at the ropes in frustration to reach for his cock... preferably one he hasn't read before, so what you really want is links to stories that turn him on so that you can find one by yourself and surprise him with it. He probably won't respond with a story the first time you bring this up, but keep reminding him about it every few days. Eventually I'd expect he'd start fantasizing about it... and after that he'd be willing to give you pointers on what stories turn him on.
Which brings up a point... Bringing up what you'd like is very important. I had a girlfriend who once blurted out "I wanna make you cum more than once!" I wasn't interested, but as I thought more about it, and as I thought about the fire in her eyes, I started fantasizing about it more and more... now the idea of someone refusing to stop stroking me after I've cum even though I can't stand it... maybe because I can't stand it... is a dominant theme in my fantasies.
Or... you could pretend there's a dominant in the room ordering you to do things...
Try playing out this fantasy if it turns you on: Pretend there is a cruel master that wants you to tease torture yourself. He leads you into a room where there's a man tied to the bed who is very much like you. The master orders you to do all sorts of things with/to the man that make you both hotter and hotter, but he won't let you cum, he won't even let you make the poor helpless man cum because he knows how much your need would be partially satisfied by making that cock spurt, so instead he uses that against you, telling you to suck him until he's about the cum, then sit on his face and pull away just before you're able to cum, back and forth, letting you pour your lust into someone else only to find in horror that the lust echoes between you and the other sub, bouncing back to you even stronger, causing a twisted spiral that tests your ability to obey your master despite the frenzied, desperate energy floating in the room. Even more twisted... despite your pity for the captive, your master cares nothing about him, only caring about how it all affects you, but frequently orders you to stop and show the captive just how turned on you are, just because it turns both of you on even more.
OR... If you take pride in your skills, you could set challenges for yourself (or fantasize that the above master is setting these challenges for you) like:
1) Setting the alarm clock for 15 minutes and turning it so you can't see the tie, then having a goal of making him spurt within the first twenty beeps... and if he doesn't, then hitting snooze and trying again. After you get good at this, try going for longer times or longer (or random!) times, or for fewer allowed alarm beeps, or for being able to do it while you're blindfolded.
2) See if you can get him so close that he won't last N strokes inside you before he cums. (I've seen a post on another board where a couple would have running bets on how many strokes it would take.)
3) Experiment with ruined orgasms... In the male orgasm, the point where the cum is released is a different stage that happens JUST before the spurting starts. If you are patient enough and stop at just the right time, you can stimulate him just enough for the former but not for the latter, causing his sperm to dribble out without twitches at all. How many in a row can you do?
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wow! thanks for all the ideas. hehe
I actually have given him a ruined orgasm, even though it wasn't intentional and I gota huge kick out of the results.
I have taken to wearing the keys for the chastity device we have for him on my celtic cross necklace at all times and have even made him wear the device while we went out for a movie and I would lightly jingle the keys every now and again just to remind it. It was devilishly fun.
Thanks for the great Ideas and I will post more this weekend...
wow! thanks for all the ideas. hehe
I actually have given him a ruined orgasm, even though it wasn't intentional and I gota huge kick out of the results.
I have taken to wearing the keys for the chastity device we have for him on my celtic cross necklace at all times and have even made him wear the device while we went out for a movie and I would lightly jingle the keys every now and again just to remind it. It was devilishly fun.
Thanks for the great Ideas and I will post more this weekend...
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I wrote a tease a long while back that might work for you. It was for a couple where the woman was new to the site.
http://www.milovana.com/webteases/showtease.php?id=63
Try it out and see how it goes. Maybe you leave the first page up for him to read and go from there.
http://www.milovana.com/webteases/showtease.php?id=63
Try it out and see how it goes. Maybe you leave the first page up for him to read and go from there.