A question from Shell, about Teasing and Denial

[shell]

Hello P/peoples *soft blushing smile*

I was talking to Master about something and He suggested I ask about it here and get some feedback.

I am, just in case Y/you weren't aware, a female.
I was diagnosed years ago as a Clinical Nymphomaniac.
The easiest explanation of what that term means, in my case, is that on a regular day to day basis, I think of sex and want sex, at least 50% more then the average MALE.
I could and have had sex and/or orgasms several times a day and still feel like I want more.

Now, take that and mix it with teasing and denial…….
Last week, on Monday I began a T&D session. The tossing of a coin had me cum on Thursday. Within an hour, I was placed back into T&D. Personally I think that made this weeks T&D that much harder…who knows. I’m on the 6th day into it…..and although I know when I will be allowed to cum, I am not prepared to share that here.

With the nympho stuff, I always thought that what I am doing, would not be possible. I didn't know anything about T&D until the last year, but thinking of not orgasming for more then a few days…..that seemed like an impossible situation.
Not having an orgasm, when I am sexual charged…..that is foreign to me….something that I didn't see as a possibility.

I am thinking about sex non stop, from the last thought at night, to the first thought in the morning. Everything around me is seen as something sexual. I don't want to do anything, even normal routine things. I just want to focus on what I am feeling......the next tease......

I have noticed for about three days now… that I have this sensation inside, right above my pussy. It doesn't hurt, it isn't painful. It’s like a tingly, sexual feeling.
I know how to describe it. When my neck is kissed, at the beginning of intimacy, I get what I guess could be called sexual butterflies. Where as when you get butterflies in your stomach from nerves about what ever, this is similar only low in the sexual area. And usually were that feeling usually lasts just a few minutes, right now, it’s there, almost all the time.

My God….I am so needy right now…..I want to rub my pussy, play with my nipples…..I want to feel……how on earth do people do this for weeks at a time?

So my question is for those of you that go through teasing and denial…..is this what you feel too, or does it sound to Y/you like the nympho stuff is making this more intense then what you go through?

Thank Y/you in advance for any thoughts that are given. *smile*

[SexualChoc]

shell I suggest you PM Mistyrain
who does long term denial, is a lady
and also thinks of sex all the time

I understand your delema a bit as a guy
remember my old tease hard as a rock?
http://www.milovana.com/webteases/showtease.php?id=2431
was base on a time when I did no touch for 3 months
Even trees and rocks started looking sexy!

About the butterflies in tummy, do you have other medical symptoms?
like problem eating/shitting/peeing (no you don't have to share that)
just you may be, physically ill.

denail of anything increases stress on body
and any Psycholcy course will tell you Body symptoms often come from stress.
So check things like diet, water juice and figure out ways to releive stress that are not sexual
Daily exercise, meditation or other fun things (I do painting)

You could also work on how to focus on things non-sexually with your mind
you can control your thoughts! (why I suggest meditation)
however as some nuns (the brave ones) will tell you after a while even religous things start feeling sexual when denied a very long time.
I recomend activity out of house, as well as excersise as well as focusing thoughts on things like
flowers, trees, stairs, walls and looking for beauty that is not sexual.

[chewit]

Hey Shell,

The butterfly feeling you get is exactly what I get too, and what have right now lol. I've been 9 days without an orgasm and its getting pretty tough now. Sexual Choc's advice is good and something I already do, I have to do things to take my mind off wanting to cum.....else I'd have spent the last 9 days continuously looking at porn and wanting to explode....which although sounds very enjoyable is probably not healthy for me ;) I think for me going about my normal life and enjoying T&D needs a careful balance. One thing I find that works is going to the gym several times a week, something I enjoy and it's kinda a good way to release some of the tension!

Chewit

[theguy]

Even though I am neither a female nor a nympho, I had got few things to be figured out for you in my head. What I would like to say is mainly about psychology and I will try to make my way from both positive and negative psychological effects that may occur within a nympho's long term T&D period.

The positive effect can be explained maybe like this... For a random normal T&D lover, I guess I can make this identification that "the denial is what you pay for, as the price of getting teased". So that means, if you pay more - experience a harder denial period - than what you bouught will be more precious for you... The effect of getting teased or/and to cum may really rock your world. And as a nypmho I guess you are naturally a high bidder for that price :) So not only butterflies, moreover even cows can jump on your stomach I guess lol... And if you can discipline yourself within this view your denial period can be more bearable which sepereates you from a random T&D person because your nympho situation can be taken into account as a plus.

From the negative point of view, I am not really sure about if it can really effect you positively not as a high sexual experience but as a pscyhological health issue. Because as it had been said, it will put more pressure on you and while you are thinking that you are really having fun about this, you may be stretching the trigger: your pscyhological situation. So as the denial periods become longer and harder, you may be getting closer to an selfly - unrealized point of burst within yourself.

To sum up, if you can have the real total control of yourself or someone can do it for for you including the psychological point of view, then you can have the safe, expensive and quality pleasure burst of this T&D stuff with a very cheap price :)

I'd tried to help in a more intense way of thinking as my non-native English allowed me. Hope I did not make you getting into a more complex point because of that language failures lol...

Good luck ;)

[Human]

I am, just in case Y/you weren't aware, a female.
I was diagnosed years ago as a Clinical Nymphomaniac.
The easiest explanation of what that term means, in my case, is that on a regular day to day basis, I think of sex and want sex, at least 50% more then the average MALE.
I could and have had sex and/or orgasms several times a day and still feel like I want more.

1.
I'm curious on how and WHY you were "diagnosed".

2. "50% more then the average MALE"
Are you or the diagnoticians implying that this is something abnormal about this?
I am sure many guys on this forum have a sex drive "at least 50% more then the average MALE".
Nothing abnormal about that.

3.
It was pointed out in a radio chat by a phone sex mistress (LDW group) that denial might not be for everyone, especially those with a high sex drive might go crazy and shoot someone
One of the mistresses also did a week of denial to see what her callers were feeling, and she said that it seems to work differently for her --- she just became really bitchy, as compared to men who tend to become more pliant in denial.

[Makarov]

As for the butterflies I can only say this much: I have no clue. I can't tell you what it feels like to have said butterflies arise when my neck is kissed because it never has, let alone any part of me. Me and intimacy frequently travel along different paths.

As for wondering about how much more you're feeling from denial, I'd wager it's normal. I find that if I deny myself I tend to think more about women. My eyes linger just a little bit longer when looking at average looking women, let alone the hot ones. There's a desire there to just masturbate and orgasm, and the feeling that I'd desire many to be satisfied (that part, after the fact, becomes false).

[MistressD]

Hello P/peoples *soft blushing smile*

I was talking to Master about something and He suggested I ask about it here and get some feedback.

I am, just in case Y/you weren't aware, a female.
I was diagnosed years ago as a Clinical Nymphomaniac.
The easiest explanation of what that term means, in my case, is that on a regular day to day basis, I think of sex and want sex, at least 50% more then the average MALE.
I could and have had sex and/or orgasms several times a day and still feel like I want more.

Now, take that and mix it with teasing and denial…….
Last week, on Monday I began a T&D session. The tossing of a coin had me cum on Thursday. Within an hour, I was placed back into T&D. Personally I think that made this weeks T&D that much harder…who knows. I’m on the 6th day into it…..and although I know when I will be allowed to cum, I am not prepared to share that here.

With the nympho stuff, I always thought that what I am doing, would not be possible. I didn't know anything about T&D until the last year, but thinking of not orgasming for more then a few days…..that seemed like an impossible situation.
Not having an orgasm, when I am sexual charged…..that is foreign to me….something that I didn't see as a possibility.

I am thinking about sex non stop, from the last thought at night, to the first thought in the morning. Everything around me is seen as something sexual. I don't want to do anything, even normal routine things. I just want to focus on what I am feeling......the next tease......

I have noticed for about three days now… that I have this sensation inside, right above my pussy. It doesn't hurt, it isn't painful. It’s like a tingly, sexual feeling.
I know how to describe it. When my neck is kissed, at the beginning of intimacy, I get what I guess could be called sexual butterflies. Where as when you get butterflies in your stomach from nerves about what ever, this is similar only low in the sexual area. And usually were that feeling usually lasts just a few minutes, right now, it’s there, almost all the time.

My God….I am so needy right now…..I want to rub my pussy, play with my nipples…..I want to feel……how on earth do people do this for weeks at a time?

So my question is for those of you that go through teasing and denial…..is this what you feel too, or does it sound to Y/you like the nympho stuff is making this more intense then what you go through?

Thank Y/you in advance for any thoughts that are given. *smile*

I definitely have feelings like that - and even more extreme sometimes - if I've been turned on for a while without sufficient release. After a day or two with enough stimulation my entire body tingles and gets very sensitive. Then again since I usually have more than an orgasm a day, I might be a bit of a nympho myself.

Incidentally - I don't know the circumstances of your being diagnosed as a nymphomaniac, but unless it's preventing you from living your life, I wouldn't say it's a problem. In fact, I'd be concerned if there was ever an attempt to "cure" you... the reality is that a sexually aggressive/adventurous woman who enjoys her body is quite threatening to many people - both men and women - and as a result it's viewed as wrong or different.

So be yourself. As long as you enjoy what you do and aren't harming yourself or others do what you like! And enjoy that special little feeling just above your pussy, and imagine just how good it will feel when you finally get to enjoy your orgasm!

Miss D

[whacker44]

yes i feel like that a lot. i get the feeling at first in an area just above the base of my cock seems to be an inch or two in front of it, then after a few days it migrates right into the balls and becomes a dull persistent ache (having it right now for Nadine's experiment). the feeling you get fro kisses on the neck i get too but having my nipples twisted makes my knees so weak i often have to sit down. My wife says that i am very feminine for a man so i would not try to generalize my experience.

[Incubo]

Incidentally - I don't know the circumstances of your being diagnosed as a nymphomaniac, but unless it's preventing you from living your life, I wouldn't say it's a problem. In fact, I'd be concerned if there was ever an attempt to "cure" you... the reality is that a sexually aggressive/adventurous woman who enjoys her body is quite threatening to many people - both men and women - and as a result it's viewed as wrong or different.

Miss D

I have to agree with Miss D on that part. If it's not interupting your life or harming others, than I don't see the problem.

Now, you weren't very specific on the whole diagnosis, so perhaps there's more to it than what you've said, but I must say that if thinking about sex all the time makes you a nympho, then hell...I'd bet probably 90% of the people on this site are nymphos too. If they're honest about it, it's probably more like 90% of the world's population are nymphos if that's the case. If that was the only rationale behind the diagnosis, it seems pretty flimsy to me.

As for the original question though...seems only those who share it have replied so far. I suppose it's incumbent upon me to be the lone dissenter here.

I actually do not get any physical feelings at all when I go for long periods without. I may get an erection a bit easier when stimulated, but that's about it. I'm not generally any more or less horny or sensitive than any other time.

[shell]

Hello *soft smile*

Thank all of Y/you so much for responding with such thoughtful comments. I appreciate the personal sharing, which made me feel not so odd and gave me the feeling of unity in the quest that I am on, a quest that I can see the end of now. *soft smile*

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There were a couple of questions as to the diagnosis of my being a nympho.
This is my explanation of that discovery.

Back in the late '80's or early 90's, I was going through many emotional issues. One of them was trying to deal with feeling like a freak because I wanted more sex then Hubby1.
I went to a phycologist, not one I would have chosen for myself but one that was through the insurance we had at the time.
She was fascinated by the freedom in which I shared things and focused on my high sex drive first.

There were several studies done, over the course of a few days, and yes, one of them was the showing me a picture and asking what I see. *lol*
At the conclusion of the testing, she diagnosed me.
There were three choices available. One was to put me on a drug that would decrease my sex drive, but there were many side effects that could happen, and I didn't like the picture painted for me at all.
The second was hypnosis. I had had a bad experience with hypnosis as an older teen and I was not going down that path.
The third which was given to me by Hubby1 is that we would learn how to deal with this on our own.

We went with option three and over the years, we have grown into who we are as a couple. I know I made the right choice for me. *smile*

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I know that many of Y/you suggested doing other things to take my mind off what I am feeling.
I have tried doing that and haven't been very successful in that, but will continue to try.

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For those of Y/you that understood the "butterfly in the sexual area" and experience that too, thank Y/you for sharing that with me. It's so nice to know that feeling is normal.

I will address specific things said by Y/you.....

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SexualChoc

I suggest you PM Mistyrain

Thank You for that suggestion. *smile*

About the butterflies in tummy, do you have other medical symptoms?

Nope, I'm pretty healthy, only minor this and that's, just like every other person on the planet. *smile*

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chewit

Thank you for your comments...I really appreciated them. *Smile*

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theguy

First, your English was just fine. *smile*
No one else should take offense to this comment, because everything was very helpful.

However, your comments reached inside my soul and took root.

For a random normal T&D lover, I guess I can make this identification that "the denial is what you pay for, as the price of getting teased". So that means, if you pay more - experience a harder denial period - than what you bouught will be more precious for you... The effect of getting teased or/and to cum may really rock your world. And as a nypmho I guess you are naturally a high bidder for that price :) So not only butterflies, moreover even cows can jump on your stomach I guess lol... And if you can discipline yourself within this view your denial period can be more bearable which sepereates you from a random T&D person because your nympho situation can be taken into account as a plus.

That comment just totally made sense and I had one of those....well...yeah...that makes sense moments, when I read it yesterday.
Thank you so much for taking the time to share your thoughts with me. *bright smile*

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Human

2. "50% more then the average MALE"
Are you or the diagnoticians implying that this is something abnormal about this?
I am sure many guys on this forum have a sex drive "at least 50% more then the average MALE".
Nothing abnormal about that.

You are absolutely right. There is nothing abnormal about how any of U/us feel in our bodies, or what we desire and how often.
My reference to the 50% was based on a "vanilla" world, a "vanilla" diagnoses.

It was pointed out in a radio chat by a phone sex mistress (LDW group) that denial might not be for everyone, especially those with a high sex drive might go crazy and shoot someone.

*giggles* Trust me.....I don't feel like shooting, I only feel like fuckin! *giggling*

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Makarov

Thank you for taking the time to respond. *smile*

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MistressD

*bright smile* Thank You for Your wisdom and insight Mistress.

Incidentally - I don't know the circumstances of your being diagnosed as a nymphomaniac, but unless it's preventing you from living your life, I wouldn't say it's a problem. In fact, I'd be concerned if there was ever an attempt to "cure" you... the reality is that a sexually aggressive/adventurous woman who enjoys her body is quite threatening to many people - both men and women - and as a result it's viewed as wrong or different.

It hasn't really prevented me from living my life, although until today, I haven't accomplished a whole lot this week. *blushing*
And I agree....it is looked at as wrong or different that I am this way.

So be yourself. As long as you enjoy what you do and aren't harming yourself or others do what you like! And enjoy that special little feeling just above your pussy, and imagine just how good it will feel when you finally get to enjoy your orgasm!

I will consider that as a direct order Mistress and say, "Yes, Mistress". *giggling smile*

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whacker44

the feeling you get fro kisses on the neck i get too but having my nipples twisted makes my knees so weak i often have to sit down.

If the kissing on my neck continues.....yep...my knees go weak too and I find that I am leaning back on the person doing the kissing....sorta allowing them to hold me up.

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Incubo

I actually do not get any physical feelings at all when I go for long periods without. I may get an erection a bit easier when stimulated, but that's about it. I'm not generally any more or less horny or sensitive than any other time.

I think if I had to choose between feeling this...............and not....I think I would choose to feel. *blushing*

I appreciated your comments very much and want to thank you for taking the time to respond.

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Again, thank Y/you everyone for responding. *bright smile*

[Human]

Back in the late '80's or early 90's, I was going through many emotional issues. One of them was trying to deal with feeling like a freak because I wanted more sex then Hubby1.
I went to a phycologist, not one I would have chosen for myself but one that was through the insurance we had at the time.
She was fascinated by the freedom in which I shared things and focused on my high sex drive first.

There were several studies done, over the course of a few days, and yes, one of them was the showing me a picture and asking what I see. *lol*
At the conclusion of the testing, she diagnosed me.
There were three choices available. One was to put me on a drug that would decrease my sex drive, but there were many side effects that could happen, and I didn't like the picture painted for me at all.
The second was hypnosis. I had had a bad experience with hypnosis as an older teen and I was not going down that path.
The third which was given to me by Hubby1 is that we would learn how to deal with this on our own.

I want to slap that psychologist silly
A drug treatment because the wife want more sex than the husband??? What the hell....

BTW, husbands deal with this issue all over the world. One of the foremost complaints of husbands is that the wife loses interest in sex after marriage. There was an article on this. Apparently being in a commited relationship reduces a womans sex drive.

I am curious in your case: what was wrong with what husbands are usually forced to do (masturbating away the excess sex drive)?

[shell]

I want to slap that psychologist silly
A drug treatment because the wife want more sex than the husband??? What the hell....

BTW, husbands deal with this issue all over the world. One of the foremost complaints of husbands is that the wife loses interest in sex after marriage. There was an article on this. Apparently being in a commited relationship reduces a womans sex drive.

I am curious in your case: what was wrong with what husbands are usually forced to do (masturbating away the excess sex drive)?

*smiling softly* Well, that psychologist isn't on my top ten people list either, trust me.
What I thought I would be getting was advice similar to what I got here on this thread, refocusing my mind, breathing techniques...an explanation as to why I was the way I was......that sort of thing. Never did I image she would want to change me, as if I was some sick freak that needed to be adjusted to live in society.

Yes, I know all about those complaints that husbands say about their spouse losing their interest in sex. Being on the Internet for close to fifteen years now, that is why so many, not all, but many of the married men are visiting porn sites and sexual oriented web sites and in the outside world, are having affairs.

There was nothing wrong with my masturbating, like those men that aren't getting enough, end up doing. I did that for many years before that time with the psychologist.
After time with her, I wasn't hiding the masturbation any longer, even going as far as a few, "oh, he caught me" fun times.
Although going to her didn't provide me with answers...it did open the door for a more open relationship with Hubby1 and where as before my masturbation was hidden from him, after that it was brought into the light and shared, either after the fact, or watched, and later on, even assisted with.

So, I don't regret going to see her, because it changed my life.....I always try and find something positive from a negitive. *Smile*

[Incubo]

See? Now that sounds like you've got a good healthy relationship with your husband. Maybe your sex drives don't "sync" but that's hardly abnormal really. Certainly doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you.

She may have inadvertantly helped you out, but that therapist/psychologist/whatever she was doesn't sound like she knew all that much. Personally, I'd say you're fine.

Of course...when a crazy man says you're fine, doesn't really mean a whole lot does it?

[shell]

See? Now that sounds like you've got a good healthy relationship with your husband. Maybe your sex drives don't "sync" but that's hardly abnormal really. Certainly doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you.

She may have inadvertantly helped you out, but that therapist/psychologist/whatever she was doesn't sound like she knew all that much. Personally, I'd say you're fine.

Of course...when a crazy man says you're fine, doesn't really mean a whole lot does it?

*laughing so hard......at that last comment* Oh dear! I'm so screwed, aren't I? *lol*

[les]

Hey Kiddo
I have yet to find you are crazy Ma belle petite,

All my love

................................................. Les