Hello everybody!
My gf and I will spend a full week "living together" in a few days.
She is not completely new to T&D as I showed her the Milovana site and webteases, and we had tryed the part 3 of erin212 series (GREAT experience)!
I believe it would be great oportunity to us try a week of tease and denial but she is not a real Domme and often let me cum in the end of the teases. I wonder if she could see benefits of letting me in denial a full week.
Does anyone have some program, schedule of guide for a week of denial?
Thank you all!
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A hole week of tease and denial
Re: A hole week of tease and denial
I'll just say a few words of warning.
You should understand that T&D, as any other fetish, is not for everyone.
You should also remember that most girls are not dominant, but tend to be submissive. And tend to WANT a dominant man near them.
IF that's the case, you should always know that pushing her too hard will make her unhappy, even if she's ready to do something for you. That MAY accumulate stress in her, and even lead to a cooldown in a relationship.
That's what I wanted to say. Just be carefull with it for your own and her good. Maybe she doesn't want to dominate you - don't make her. That won't make any good.
You should understand that T&D, as any other fetish, is not for everyone.
You should also remember that most girls are not dominant, but tend to be submissive. And tend to WANT a dominant man near them.
IF that's the case, you should always know that pushing her too hard will make her unhappy, even if she's ready to do something for you. That MAY accumulate stress in her, and even lead to a cooldown in a relationship.
That's what I wanted to say. Just be carefull with it for your own and her good. Maybe she doesn't want to dominate you - don't make her. That won't make any good.
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Re: A hole week of tease and denial
Hi ya *smile*
First, congratulations for starting a new part of your relationship. *smile*
You make it sound like after the one week of living together, that you will go back to the arrangements you are currently in.
If that's the case, I don't think I would try anything too wild. Even though you will have a great week, there will be stress involved. Adding something like a whole week of T&D might be too stressful for both of you and you don't want the relationship getting screwed up.
If after more time of living together takes place, then perhaps doing a test run on it. Possibly for 2 or 3 days to begin with and see how each of you like it. You might hate it or she might.
A suggestion....if you move forward into the T&D, you could write down one or two teases that you find as an exciting idea. That gives her a starting point. To someone that has not done it before, it can be intimating to have to come up with ideas and that in itself might make her say no, before it even gets tried.
Things that take it out of her hands, like chance type things...dice rolling, picking of playing cards, coin flipping....that might help her become more comfortable with the idea too.
Good luck!! *Smile*
First, congratulations for starting a new part of your relationship. *smile*
You make it sound like after the one week of living together, that you will go back to the arrangements you are currently in.
If that's the case, I don't think I would try anything too wild. Even though you will have a great week, there will be stress involved. Adding something like a whole week of T&D might be too stressful for both of you and you don't want the relationship getting screwed up.
If after more time of living together takes place, then perhaps doing a test run on it. Possibly for 2 or 3 days to begin with and see how each of you like it. You might hate it or she might.
A suggestion....if you move forward into the T&D, you could write down one or two teases that you find as an exciting idea. That gives her a starting point. To someone that has not done it before, it can be intimating to have to come up with ideas and that in itself might make her say no, before it even gets tried.
Things that take it out of her hands, like chance type things...dice rolling, picking of playing cards, coin flipping....that might help her become more comfortable with the idea too.
Good luck!! *Smile*
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Re: A hole week of tease and denial
great advice, nez and shell.
There's not much to add.. Just make sure its fun for both of you, if it isn't stop and try again in another way.
Also if you have always been the dominant man in your relationship, do NOT change that in any way.
In that case try to find a workaround.. like telling her, that you would really love to experience an incredible orgasm, that would take place, when you're teased and denied for a week... In that case don't tell her, that you will be her "slave" for the week, this can really kill relationships.
Good luck :)
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There's not much to add.. Just make sure its fun for both of you, if it isn't stop and try again in another way.
Also if you have always been the dominant man in your relationship, do NOT change that in any way.
In that case try to find a workaround.. like telling her, that you would really love to experience an incredible orgasm, that would take place, when you're teased and denied for a week... In that case don't tell her, that you will be her "slave" for the week, this can really kill relationships.
Good luck :)
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Re: A hole week of tease and denial
Thanks Guys! Great Advice!
"You should also remember that most girls are not dominant, but tend to be submissive. And tend to WANT a dominant man near them.
IF that's the case, you should always know that pushing her too hard will make her unhappy, even if she's ready to do something for you. That MAY accumulate stress in her, and even lead to a cooldown in a relationship."
"Also if you have always been the dominant man in your relationship, do NOT change that in any way.
In that case try to find a workaround.. like telling her, that you would really love to experience an incredible orgasm, that would take place, when you're teased and denied for a week... In that case don't tell her, that you will be her "slave" for the week, this can really kill relationships."
That´s very interesting point, because is realy what I think holds her back. I´m the dominant one in the relationship, and I think she like´s it. And to be honest, I like being the dominant in general,but T&D really turn me on!!! Go figure!
"Things that take it out of her hands, like chance type things...dice rolling, picking of playing cards, coin flipping....that might help her become more comfortable with the idea too."
So simple, so genius! Thanks!!!
Thanks for all advice! I will let you know what was the result of may efforts!
"You should also remember that most girls are not dominant, but tend to be submissive. And tend to WANT a dominant man near them.
IF that's the case, you should always know that pushing her too hard will make her unhappy, even if she's ready to do something for you. That MAY accumulate stress in her, and even lead to a cooldown in a relationship."
"Also if you have always been the dominant man in your relationship, do NOT change that in any way.
In that case try to find a workaround.. like telling her, that you would really love to experience an incredible orgasm, that would take place, when you're teased and denied for a week... In that case don't tell her, that you will be her "slave" for the week, this can really kill relationships."
That´s very interesting point, because is realy what I think holds her back. I´m the dominant one in the relationship, and I think she like´s it. And to be honest, I like being the dominant in general,but T&D really turn me on!!! Go figure!
"Things that take it out of her hands, like chance type things...dice rolling, picking of playing cards, coin flipping....that might help her become more comfortable with the idea too."
So simple, so genius! Thanks!!!
Thanks for all advice! I will let you know what was the result of may efforts!
Re: A hole week of tease and denial
Don't put it the way that she dominates you. Explain her that you like this kind of game and the sensation, but point out that she do not need to be dominating you to play it.And to be honest, I like being the dominant in general,but T&D really turn me on!!! Go figure!
Also don't make her do that a lot. Enjoy it from time to time, and from time to time dominate HER. That's called a switch.
A girl do not need to be dominant to give a good teasing hand/blowjob, or to be playfull enough to deny your orgasm from time to time. She just needs to get the idea of what you really want. Even if you are begging for release, she should understand that if she deny you you'll be so happy with her.
A good tet-at-et talk would do the trick I believe.
And off course it's always a good idea to fulfill HER dream. Just start a conversation about kinks, and suggest sharing your fantasies. On no-obligation basis. Just sharing the dreams of each other. You'll both find plenty of things that could be easyly turned into reality.
And the happyer she is, the more eager she'd give it to you.
Just don't push. Maybe not now - accept it, if she wouldn't be eager. Accept it. She'll be ready in time, I guarantee. It's not something that demands a lot from her.
Maybe you should start not with denial but from a simple teasing/edging handjobs she may give you. Maybe give it in return, edge her a few times before orgasm, with her permission off course. She'll notice how much more pleasurable her orgasm would be.
One more thing: She let's you cum because she feel bad for you. Because she thinks she's being mean to you and she doesn't want it. It's like you wouldn't want to kick a cat - because you don't want innocent and pretty thing to suffer.
You'll have to get her be happy for you when she denyes you. Maybe explain how much better your orgasm would feel and that you really-really want to experience that?
Eather that or she has a fetish for your cum - that happens too. That case I don't what to suggest, maybe finding some middle ground.
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Re: A hole week of tease and denial
You started by saying that you think it would be a great opportunity to try a week of T&D. Has she said anything asbout it? She might be going into this week thinking this will be a great week to play house, go on long walks together, do dishes together, cook for her man, have a guy around the house to talk to, etc. You both have expectations going into this weekend and unless you have already discussed it, she is probably expecting a totally different experience. Make sure she gets what she needs out of the relationship. T&D can come later if it fits for both of you.