Nowhere near as cool

Used and Abused · Post by **Used and Abused** » Tue Oct 30, 2007 8:45 pm

I've been with my 'girlfriend' for the best part of a year. We started 'officially' dating late November last year. And I fell for her hard. I'm not really one for relationships for the most part. If I were to be perfectly honest I'm a bit of a 'jack the lad', 'boys will be boys' kind of guy. It was getting to the stage now where we were seriously discussing moving in with one another.

Over the past few days our relationship has basically died, after she told me she'd slept with someone else, a few times in the past month. And I'm just flat out devastated. I don't particuarly want to go a lot into, but still.

I admit, maybe I didn't treat her as well as I could have done. I mean, there's times where I'd neglected her in favour of my friends. There's times where I'd danced with girls in bars and clubs, and there was one incident of a drunken kiss, but I'd never have dreamed of anything more. I'd never have done anything to hurt her....this is getting too sentimental. Back to my point.

Anyway. It's just that, cuckolding and the like, is often something I've fantasized about. But, when something actually happens in a real life situation, it...it fucks you up. When she told me, and when she told me it was more than once. I wanted to break down. It was a weird situation, where, I wanted her to comfort me (after all, I still love her), but as soon as she'd come close I'd freak out. It's just weird. I guess, after this I got thinking about fantasies and their ilk, and when something you've dreamt about happens, it can not only ruin your real life, it can ruin your 'fantasy life' as well.

I'm not entirely sure if there was a purpose to this topic. I just really needed to say this, and put this out somewhere. And here seemed like potentially the best place.

omssx · Post by **omssx** » Thu Nov 08, 2007 10:22 pm

Aw man that really sucks, im not a big poster but i thought id drop a reply t let you know that youre not alone here, there are a lot of people you can talk to and a few, i regret to believe, who have been in a similar situation.

I hope you and your other half can sort this all out but until such a time there are always people on these boards willing to have a serious chat and hopefully cheer you up.

Take care.

bondageslave36 · Post by **bondageslave36** » Thu Nov 08, 2007 10:42 pm

Being a cuck is a fantasy for a lot of guys... just as some guys have castration fantasies and some women have rape fantasies... but if either of those things were to happen to someone in real life, I am sure pure devastation would be a perfectly natural human reaction to that kind of a situation. Yes, sometimes fantasies are really really hot, but they are just fantasies and aren't normally that good when acted upon or brought to a reality. So, you are not alone when it comes to reality not living up to or being the complete opposite of your fantasy. You are also not alone when you say someone cheated on you. A lot of people in this world decide to do so, and it isn't only guys who cheat, as popular culture and stereotypes would tell us. It can happen to anybody, but don't let that slow you down when it comes to pursuing a relationship with another person. It is something in their character that they need to work out and not likely to be something with yours. Keep your head up, you will be fine. You don't need her anyway. ;)

~bondageslave36

Mistress Christina · Post by **Mistress Christina** » Fri Nov 09, 2007 7:32 pm

Just going to throw in my two cents:

I think a certain draw to the cuckold fantasy is the man knowing his significant other is out doing what she's doing. Unfortunately, in your case, she was lying and hiding her indiscretion. That's probably a big reason you feel betrayed, having been lied to, and it's completely understandable.

backstabflattery · Post by **backstabflattery** » Sat Nov 10, 2007 12:49 pm

It's an opportunity, seize it!

There are better, more faithful girls out there.

kinkydomina · Post by **kinkydomina** » Fri Nov 16, 2007 4:57 pm

I agree with Mistress Christina. All games are fun if consensual. You got involved in a game without your will. Good luck next time. Are you going to leave her? Get revenge?

Used and Abused · Post by **Used and Abused** » Tue Jan 29, 2008 9:37 am

Just popped back here today for the first time in a while (new webtease coming), thought i'd give a bit of an update on the situation.

I'm still with her. We seperated for a few weeks, but we got back together. Some people might call me a push over (The one friend who knows the whole story gave me a bit of flack), but whatever, I love her. And as I said in my first post, that's a HUGE thing for me. Spending most of my years being scared stiff of commitment, and 'playing the field'. She's special. And whilst it really is a big deal. I guess I could forgive her and give us a second chance, and it's been great so far. Hopefully it doesn't come back to bite me on the arse.

toybdsm · Post by **toybdsm** » Tue Jan 29, 2008 9:58 am

Mistress Christina is right. You weren't cuckholded. There seems to me that there is more to it than just her with someone else. There has to be something in it for you too. Like knowing about it, watching or being teased about it or something. Not just getting cheated on.

Cuckholding isn't cheating. This sounds like it was!
not the same.

Used and Abused · Post by **Used and Abused** » Tue Jan 29, 2008 10:33 am

toybdsm wrote:Mistress Christina is right. You weren't cuckholded. There seems to me that there is more to it than just her with someone else. There has to be something in it for you too. Like knowing about it, watching or being teased about it or something. Not just getting cheated on.

Cuckholding isn't cheating. This sounds like it was!
not the same.

Yeah, I know I wasn't cuckolded. What I was saying was that it totally changed my perspective on my fantasy of cuckolding, in that I want it to stay just that, a fantasy. Nothing more.

Carlcjjohnson · Post by **Carlcjjohnson** » Wed Jan 30, 2008 12:15 am

Well, best of luck whatever happens