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[tryinhard]

So, ive been finding it so difficult to reach my goal of going an entire week without cumming. Any help, ideas or suggestions? Usually when i reach day four i get to one of those edges that just sends me right over. I will try not stroking or doing teases, but by that point i am usually so horny i cant help it. It feels so good even when i know i dont really want to cum yet. Then that edge comes and just gets stronger and stronger until im cumming. So any suggestions on how i can work on this? I really want to be able to go a while without dropping my load.

[darkstar]

a chastity belt

[tryinhard]

A chastity belt. The idea does seem alluring but, I am not sure I would be able to wear one through work though. And I feel that would cause me to miss out on the full intention of ones design. Perhaps one day when it could work out for me a bit better...

[darkstar]

why couldnt you wear it at work?

[tryinhard]

Would there not be a bulge down there that is rather larger than normal?

[darkstar]

not in MY experiance

[vegasdrifter]

it's gonna take awhile for you to get totally used to it, usually, that's the real issue, wear it every day as much as possible until you are able to go all day at work with it
but it's not really visible, that is not a problem, maybe if you have tight pants, when you sit down it will look like your dick's sticking out a bit, but i just pull the slack of my pants down, no biggy

[tryinhard]

So I have made my decision. I am going to purchase myself a chastity belt when I have the one-fifty that I can spend on such an item. I was looking at the CB-6000 chrome model, which I expect to be just chrome painted plastic. Though it may have to wait because there are also other items I would like to have as well. Items such as panties and plugs, so it may have to wait. I do intend to get one and I am working harder at reaching my goal of cumming only after one week. Then after I have done that a few times, make it once in two weeks. I so much enjoy a teased and denied lifestyle, I just wish I was better at it.

The mentioning of toys just reminded me, what items would you all consider staple items? What items should someone into tease and denial have?

[darkstar]

i hope the chrome one i better than the plastic one i had.

astoneeded items.

a brain is the main one it lets you work things out. for yourself.

a chastity belt is onky as effective as your key holding.

if its your own self then you need to find a way to overcum the temporary desires and carry on.

[slave_doggy]

I would be interested to know how this worked out. I use a CB6000 myself, but I wouldn't dream of wearing it to work. Even in loose fitting pants there would be a bulge visible since the device is slightly shaped upward. Even with the widest ring, when aroused, the curve presses upward against your pants, making it still look like you have a boner.

I'm now thinking about getting the smaller CB6000s. Are there people who can recommend this for this problem?

[Nezhul]

Would there not be a bulge down there that is rather larger than normal?

Depends on a belt. I heard "The curve" is quite noticeable under some pants, but, say CB3000 is not noticable at all. It's a lot smaller than my erect penis, and even it's not noticeable under the pants I wear. So as I wait for my CB to arrive, I'm not nervous about it's discreetness at all.
Anyway it's not like a lot of people are actually WATCHING to spot something, and even if they spot - Chastity is so rare fetish that no one would actually think of it. Perhaps someone'll think you are quite big, but that's it.
Again, depends on a model.

I wouldn't worry about that in your place. If you are not super extra big - buy CB3000 or 6000 I guess, and you'll be fine. Just make sure you get used to it during a couple of weeks, before using something like a remote keyholders...

[shell]

my two cents worth........don't edge after the third day....just tease. Know you body. I can only do two edges and then I WILL cum. I'm working on it.....but if I know I'm not allowed to cum, then I won't go past two edges because I don't want to cum until I'm allowed. *smile*

[denton]

It might become easier when you're giving up control to a person instead of to a webtease or mere selfcontrol. There may be a point where you are tempted to just say "okay, screw that, i'll just cum".. but soon you'll realize that this would be a letdown and thus you keep going.. at least if the other person is doing a good job

It's not that easy to find such a person, however, so in the meantime.. practise!

[les]

Like most things it is trust on both sides
That the Dom/me and sub are prepared to discuss problems,

It should not be just "Thud and Blunder"

[Human]

So, ive been finding it so difficult to reach my goal of going an entire week without cumming. Any help, ideas or suggestions? So any suggestions on how i can work on this? I really want to be able to go a while without dropping my load.

Hard physical labor, long gym session, lifitng weights, combined with hard mental labor, reading hard but interesting books, Listening to "testosterone" music like
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f4K6ZxDwi34

In essense, becoming an animal, and saying F U to sexual impulses.