Do you know how it feels, when you found someone special, and you're being controlled, and then suddenly without warning it breaks off, and you fall into a deep hole of drepression.
And after a month you crawl out, but its still cold, and you're all alone ...
And as the days pass, you get over past memories, sloooowly, but your life is a mess, and you miss the control, the strict, yet warm hand who held you together.
What now? What next? I find myself desperately seeking what I lost, but somehow it can never the replaced.
....
Peter
it's cold
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dr.d
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Re: it's cold
peter I don't know if this will help but the pain and the depression will ease and it will get better . my friends and family helped me when I was going through some real bad times, and seek out profesisional help. I hated the idea of seeing some one but it did help.
She is the Angel that dances in my heart
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JDude
Re: it's cold
When I first got into real time BDSM it took over my world and my thoughts. I pretty much abandoned my friends and family. I'd been thinking about BDSM for about 20 years before I actually decided to go beyond fantasy. When circumstances made is to that my dominant and I weren't working out anymore, I ended it. It took me a while to remember that my friends and family were still available for me and hadn't gone anywhere. I did scene again several times and probably will in the future but I am more balanced about it. At least that is my goal. 
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peckersnot
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Re: it's cold
Obviously, those who get involved in the BDSM scene, either in "real life" or through cybersex or whatever, are doing more than just exploring their own sexuality.
The power exchange in a bdsm relationship, the sense of surrender and trust that a submissive gives to a dominant, can make for a very poignant experience...but I think it can potentially be very dangerous as well.
I've been lurking on the fringes of this culture for a couple of years, and I've seen people again and again who display signs of becoming increasingly obsessed with fantasy -and cut off more and more from objective reality.
Maybe the people who gravitate towards this lifestyle are more emotionally needy and vulnerable than others who are interested only in the vanilla world of sexual experience. (I don't claim to know.)
What I do believe is that bdsm relationships are like crack cocaine for some people. -The highs are incredible, but the lows are devastating.
Take care of yourself. And above all, make every effort to move on with your life.
Don't dwell on the past. It's dead. Gone. Irrecoverable.
Live in the moment and make plans for the future.
Good luck to you.
The power exchange in a bdsm relationship, the sense of surrender and trust that a submissive gives to a dominant, can make for a very poignant experience...but I think it can potentially be very dangerous as well.
I've been lurking on the fringes of this culture for a couple of years, and I've seen people again and again who display signs of becoming increasingly obsessed with fantasy -and cut off more and more from objective reality.
Maybe the people who gravitate towards this lifestyle are more emotionally needy and vulnerable than others who are interested only in the vanilla world of sexual experience. (I don't claim to know.)
What I do believe is that bdsm relationships are like crack cocaine for some people. -The highs are incredible, but the lows are devastating.
Take care of yourself. And above all, make every effort to move on with your life.
Don't dwell on the past. It's dead. Gone. Irrecoverable.
Live in the moment and make plans for the future.
Good luck to you.
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green
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Re: it's cold
You can own the earth and still - All you'll own is earth until
You can paint with all the colors of the wind
You can paint with all the colors of the wind
Re: it's cold
Thank you guys, and I'm sorry.
I got pretty hard mood swings lately. One day I'm depressed, the next day I dance around happily, and the day after that I feel like life is not worth living, and then ...
Well you get the picture. Today is one of the good days.
I'd like to delete my post, it's not like it adds any value to this forum, more like personal rambling. On the other hand, it's all and everything, and I hate it when people delete their own stuff, which was once public.
I got pretty hard mood swings lately. One day I'm depressed, the next day I dance around happily, and the day after that I feel like life is not worth living, and then ...
Well you get the picture. Today is one of the good days.
I'd like to delete my post, it's not like it adds any value to this forum, more like personal rambling. On the other hand, it's all and everything, and I hate it when people delete their own stuff, which was once public.