outsider needs help

[EdwardHyde]

Hey everybody, I could really use your help.
As a side job I recently picked up fetish photography, but the thing is I'm not really in the fetish community or anywhere near the state of mind I'm expected to photograph.
although I must admit tease and denial is becoming more interesting and not just in a artistic perspective, I just wish to understand it more to be more able to make an image of the fetish state of mind

I just want to know kind of everything about your fetishes, like what are they, how did they grow, what do you think is the reason your thing is a turnon anything that you think might help me, please share it here.
or if you dont want to share it here and/or are willing to be interviewed please PM me and we'll set something up

thanks in advance
x edward


p.s please excuse my english it's not my native language

[EdwardHyde]

thanks abraves, your reply is very useful, and you figured my reasons right.

and about the mainstream work, your comment is exactly the reason I'm here. with what I tried it was so insincere, not really portraying the emotional struggle that I find so fascinating and I feel that I won't be able to until I fully "understand" it.

again thank you and I'll be sure to contact you with more questions in the future

[casey]

two notions ~ one physical the other emotional

firstly ~ that the tease and denial has to do with elevating the arousal state; remember the high diving board at school? each step to that higher leap off point added more excitement (note: fear and arousal use the same nervous system channels; one welcomed the other not)
somewhere between the two is, i feel, where the real kink in this stuff is. the element of play with pretend danger comes in somewhere here

which leads to
the second point

emotionally i think what is being explored is the issue of trust, should one be in such a relationship (that though is a straight out guess as the guy here (me) using Casey's logon has been single a while now.

best to try some teases and even if not your thing play 'the actor researching the role'.

also note that the flash teases have the great advantage of wresting the control of time from the teasee

try to work out intellectually if you like why the TOTM is different from common ones

this writer often doesn't agree with the choices so i am obviously not as hard core as other users

good luck with the snaps and from an artistic point of few, always see the background as you frame your shots

[Timshel]

Hmmm... I think the things that are missed in a lot ot the mainstream are the details of submission...

When I think about when I'm involved in a session or just when I'm chatting with my partner it's the little things that I notice. The small gestures of dominance are what bring out the huge emotions. The sweat on the brow, the tensed muscles, pleading with your eyes, the subtle changes in speech patterns. Addressing her by her title/formal name, and the deference in your speech.

I'd point you to Akasha's stories for some very good written descriptions of the little things that play huge... I'd give some examples but I don't feel it's right to quote someelse's work. Some of her stories, and definitely a lot of excerpts are free on her site www.akashaweb.com .

Not sure how to translate any of this to a picture, but then again that's your job isn't it? :)

I think the main thing to remember is it's often not about object or the task at hand, but the exchange and where it can lead. For instance I don't like pain at all, I don't have a masochistic bone in my body, yet I'll endure pain, CBT, etc for my partner because of what she gets from it, and because I enjoy pleasing and serving her. It's not the act itself, but what doing the act represents...

anyway hope that helps some...

[EdwardHyde]

thanks that does help a lot, and the stories you mentioned are inspiring.
Can anyone also give me some info on the dominant point of view? what exactly is the beauty of another person fully submitting to you?

[EdwardHyde]

asking for dominants doesnt mean stop to the submissives. all the reply's I've had have been very useful so whoever is reading this and not replying: please tell me everything :)