Female OD Blog

[SexualChoc]

I was exploring tantalim site as I occasionally do and saw this link to
a female Orgasm Denial blog
http://stockingsandpumps.com/
I am posting it because female OD sites are rare
I usually read them and fantasize.
also: http://femaleorgasmdenial.blogspot.com/
seems to have stopped with posts have not seen anything new there in many months.

I however don't understand the 'point' to female OD
from what I understand build-up and even orgasms are mental with a little physica
Also I think I'm to much a subby and only want to please my mistress
so why would she get one when she wants one?

[MistressD]

I however don't understand the 'point' to female OD
from what I understand build-up and even orgasms are mental with a little physica
Also I think I'm to much a subby and only want to please my mistress
so why would she get one when she wants one?

You're thinking in terms of Dominant women though - in which case you are correct, she should get orgasms as often as she would like.

But what about a submissive woman? There is definitely something very erotic in giving up something as personal as your orgasms because a Dom (or even better) a Domme demands it of the girl.

And having seen it first hand from the Domme perspective, I have to say that there is something very intoxicating about an excited girl whimpering and begging for an orgasm and being told "No".

So I would say that in many ways it is the same regardless of gender. You're giving up control to another person. That person is enjoying your predicament. Everybody is happy! One is just a lot more frustrated than the other.

Miss D

[wanker]

A problem, for lack of a better word, that I have noticed in some is that they really, really do not want to cum. Which defeats the entire purpose. It's only fun when the sub actually wants to cum but is denied.

[Incubo]

I think you pegged it when you said you were too subby.
Some girls, just like some guys, seem to rather enjoy the denial.
If I'm her Dom, and I deny her, then aren't I still giving her what she wants?

It's just a perspective thing. Makes sense or doesn't depending on where you're sitting I guess.

[Lady X]

I think we need a female sub's perspective on this. After all, the post was about that in the first place. Are there any female sub's out there that want to comment? Any at all?

*looks for AngelAnna ... *

shell wants to, but she's not allowed. *grin*

[E.Vain]

I´m not too active on here but I´m a sub, female and I can only agree with Mistress D.
I do enjoy giving up the control of my orgasm (or my body and mind at that matter) so yeah OD is a big topic for female subs too :)

[cal]

First off thank you for the links they were awesome. I loved the captioned images.

I do agree that for a man OD is usually mostly physical. For me what I enjoy most is giving up control of the journy to orgasm, not just giving up just the orgasm. Right now I'm single so the best exaple is that of a good web tease. A good tease controls not just when/if you cum. It controls the rate at which you stroke and for how long through the use of timers and a metronome. They also time how long your breaks are. For me this is all a mental control because, if I have the will power, nothing is my choice.

My guess is that giving up the journy to orgasm, and not just the orgasm it self, is what female subs also find apealing. We all could be edged a bunch of times and locked up but how we were brought there is the part we fantasize and enjoy the most.

Cal

[AngelAnna837]

Hmmmm, so much to think about

Ok first of I am a big fan of denial, I think it was one of the first kinks I ever really started exploring.

I agree that you are defintly look it is from a Dommes point of view. Sub girls are pretty much in the same mind set as sub guys. We make a sacrifice of our pleasure becuase it pleases out Dominant partners, and also that feeling of having someone else incontole of such a basic primal urge can be and is a huge turn on to many sub females (me included!)

From my point of veiw, i love giving up that controle and i very much enjoyed thoses blogs beuase they used to give me plently to fule my fantasy :D

so thats my opinion :)

Anna

[wanker]

I rather have perspectives on this from Dominants who have yet to comment. Lady X? LMJ? Nika?

Is it "better" to have a sub who genuinely wants to cum or one who does not? Does that affect the pleasure you gain from denying the orgasm?

[MistressD]

I rather have the Dominants' perspective on this. Lady X? LMJ? Nikki?

What am I?

From above...

And having seen it first hand from the Domme perspective, I have to say that there is something very intoxicating about an excited girl whimpering and begging for an orgasm and being told "No".

[Incubo]

I rather have the Dominants' perspective on this. Lady X? LMJ? Nikki?

What am I?

Chopped liver apparently.

[Lady X]

I rather have the Dominants' perspective on this. Lady X? LMJ? Nikki?

Is it "better" to have a sub who genuinely wants to cum or one who does not? Does that affect the pleasure you gain from denying the orgasm?

If one never wants to cum and only wants to be denied or have have their orgasms ruined, I personally wouldn't like that.

I realize that most everyone in the BDSM world feels as if the subs should say, "i want what ever You want Mistress"....the whole "thy will be done" mentality.
I am not like that. Yes, of course, what I say goes and there is hell to pay if it is not.

However, if I have to consume Myself with needs of a submissive that is so set on denied or ruined orgasms and not rounding out the relationship with a wide variety of other enjoyable aspects of the lifestyle, then I will slip away from them, because their pleasure is more important then Mine and not the equality of pleasure that it should be.

Again....those are My thoughts.........and not E/everyone will agree with them.

[Lady X]

*Tries *very* hard not to laugh*

*puts My hand over your mouth, to help you keep in the laughter* And if you dare lick My palm...what happens next is on you!! *lol*

[Lady X]

*Ponders that ... should I ... shouldn't I ... I mean ... I have no idea where that palm has .... *LICK**

*shivers and doesn't say a word...for I needn't, because My flushed cheeks tell all*

[wanker]

I rather have the Dominants' perspective on this. Lady X? LMJ? Nikki?

What am I?

From above...

And having seen it first hand from the Domme perspective, I have to say that there is something very intoxicating about an excited girl whimpering and begging for an orgasm and being told "No".

With all due respect, I left off your name for a reason. (I went back and edited my post regardless.) That said, upon another reading, I don't feel that you directly addressed my question in your original post. In other words, we have all seen subs whimper and beg for an orgasm but it's not always genuine. My point is that if we were to take a survey of the members here, I am sure several members' ultimate fantasy is actually, genuinely never to cum. Which is what I find disappointing and was wondering about.