How to ruin orgasms

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kinkydomina wrote:Everything in moderation.
Some slaves beg for more, though...
A slave gave me this idea, to go for salt.
Excellent kinkydomina, I love your suggestions ;-)

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I'm getting out of here ! :yikes: *hides*
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cmon, try me, i dares ya. :lol:
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LMAO
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haha you first Salt ! or maybe you would like to try iluvteaserz? :sly: Actually wheres the writer of this thread !!? That would surly be the most fitting after all they started it ! *passes buck in many directions*
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kinkydomina wrote:One interesting way is by inserting one q tip/ cotton bud inside the urethra, a few strokes prior to the moment of orgasm.
Another is by inserting some salt, with the aid of a toothpick, with leaving both in while the subject is having an orgasm.
Third: beating the subject's balls with a pencil while he is having an orgasm, having him collect the sperm in his own hand, then watch him eat it.
:\'-( Owwwww thats not ruining its total destruction...
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I find cumming by only rubbing your thumb on the highly sensitive back of the head to be a very frustrating orgasm method, you must not stroke at all and just rub in a rhythm on that spot. It has a hugely intense build up, itl have you writhing and moaning and desperate to releve the burning teasey feeling that goes through your legs and erogenous zones by pumping it. When you finally cum it kind of shoots out and despunks you but its nothing like a normal orgasm, it isnt satisfying (because you dont stroke even as you cum, you just keep rubbing that spot)and it leaves you wanting a stroked out firm orgasm that you're now too milked to achieve. It realy is an intense method and requires practice and a few days with no orgasm, there was a time when i did this everytime i came for months as it is oddly addictive.
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As simple and obvious as it sounds, the biggest factor in completely ruining an orgasm for a guy is making sure that he *wants* it. And I mean *really* wants it. You have to make it something he wants before the threat of taking it away means anything.

This community is full of guys that thrive on being tormented, teased, and depraved of orgasm, sex, etc. Every guy is different, but the key to teeth-grinding, toe-curling, nailing-biting frustration is to figure out exactly how to make his desires so powerful that they completely overshadow his fantasies of being tormented...getting him to the point that he's in over his head and he knows it. You have to take what he asked for and turn it into something he's literally afraid of.

I'm normally the kind of person that gets great pleasure in making a guy *think* i'm going to inflict the ultimate torment on him. But, I usually don't follow through with it. It's normally enough for me to let him know that i'm capable of it, and I like the things that come along with bringing him the ultimate pleasure in comparison. Though, i'll point out the use of the words "normally" and "usually". This is a big part of ruining orgasms as well...being unpredictable. Completely and wildly unpredictable.

Spend your time with him wisely and use it to pin down every little thing that gets his heart racing. Plan things out so you're always a few steps ahead of him, and make it so he can never quite guess what the outcome is going to be, and what your ultimate intentions are. You'll have plenty of fun with that approach, IMO. ;)

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Very nice posts here. I hate the idea of ruining the orgasm.

If you have to ruin your orgasm, what is the most unsatisfying way.
1) Stroking very very close over the edge, that only little cum is going out, nearly no cum, nearly no orgasm
2) Stroking until the cum is starting to cum out and taking the hands away
3) anything in between

Ruined orgasm a cruel anyway. :\'-(
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smiller wrote:Very nice posts here. I hate the idea of ruining the orgasm.

If you have to ruin your orgasm, what is the most unsatisfying way.
1) Stroking very very close over the edge, that only little cum is going out, nearly no cum, nearly no orgasm
2) Stroking until the cum is starting to cum out and taking the hands away
3) anything in between

Ruined orgasm a cruel anyway. :\'-(
1) is the most unsatisfying - you get cum flow but little sensation. Especially if that is all you get... Anything more than that is pretty good after a few days denied!!
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smiller wrote:Very nice posts here. I hate the idea of ruining the orgasm.

If you have to ruin your orgasm, what is the most unsatisfying way.
1) Stroking very very close over the edge, that only little cum is going out, nearly no cum, nearly no orgasm
2) Stroking until the cum is starting to cum out and taking the hands away
3) anything in between

Ruined orgasm a cruel anyway. :\'-(
According to my experience, the most unsatisfying ruined O. (and I'd even say the only true and genuine R.O.) is accomplished by stroking very very slowwwly - from the beginning to the end, absolutely no fast strokes..! ..and - you have to stop way BEFORE the cum starts oozing out.
You can refine it by stroking with only 2 fingers on the sides of the cock, on the top / bottom, using just 1 finger below the head, 1 finger on the top and so on..

Ad 1) this is usually called the "Only one drop" variant, it's pretty hard to do, and it's also hard to decide which one is more frustrating - a slow R.O. or this O.O.D.. just try for yourself.. :)

Jill from http://www.robandjill.com is IMHO the best source for various R.O's and "minimized" O's on the net, she's been doing them for many years..
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Never done the O.O.D. before. But the one you call the only one drop orgasm. This is the most unsatisfying one in my opinion. It is similar to no orgasm. Anyway ruining it is cruel. Never do this on my own. The only reason could be a women that wants me to ruining it.
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Lindsey wrote:As simple and obvious as it sounds, the biggest factor in completely ruining an orgasm for a guy is making sure that he *wants* it. And I mean *really* wants it. You have to make it something he wants before the threat of taking it away means anything.

This community is full of guys that thrive on being tormented, teased, and depraved of orgasm, sex, etc. Every guy is different, but the key to teeth-grinding, toe-curling, nailing-biting frustration is to figure out exactly how to make his desires so powerful that they completely overshadow his fantasies of being tormented...getting him to the point that he's in over his head and he knows it. You have to take what he asked for and turn it into something he's literally afraid of.

I'm normally the kind of person that gets great pleasure in making a guy *think* i'm going to inflict the ultimate torment on him. But, I usually don't follow through with it. It's normally enough for me to let him know that i'm capable of it, and I like the things that come along with bringing him the ultimate pleasure in comparison. Though, i'll point out the use of the words "normally" and "usually". This is a big part of ruining orgasms as well...being unpredictable. Completely and wildly unpredictable.

Spend your time with him wisely and use it to pin down every little thing that gets his heart racing. Plan things out so you're always a few steps ahead of him, and make it so he can never quite guess what the outcome is going to be, and what your ultimate intentions are. You'll have plenty of fun with that approach, IMO. ;)

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My wife knows I love to have my orgasm delayed. She'll get me close to orgasm and even edge me several times before finally asking me, "Do you want to cum?". I'm always torn when she asks this, because she'll give me exactly what I ask for at this moment. However, what I really want is to tell her that I want to cum more than anything in the world...and for her to tell me "no, not yet"...and then push me further than I knew I was able to be pushed.

What happens in reality is I weigh in my mind how much I think she's really into it at the moment. In other words, is she just trying to accommodate me...or is she wanting to play for a while. If I think she's just trying to accommodate me I'll tell her I want to cum...and she takes me over the edge. If I think she wants to play some more, I'll ask her to delay it...and she does. The delay is typically not more than another 10 minutes though. Usually a very good 10 minutes...but not ultimately what I wanted.

This is a divergence probably from the original point of this thread, but Lindsey brought up the point of getting in a guys head...and I thought I'd put in my 2 pennies.
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wonderbo wrote:However, what I really want is to tell her that I want to cum more than anything in the world...and for her to tell me "no, not yet"...and then push me further than I knew I was able to be pushed.
Why don't you just tell her precisely that? (not during session of course, but at any other suitable time)... She sounds playful as it is and I'm sure she wouldn't mind playing into that fantasy :-)
Yes, I most certainly CAN do it again!
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