How I told my girlfriend about my T&D fetish

[chewit]

There's a webpage that has a 16 week army training program, you have to train every other day doing running, press ups, sit ups etc. Tease and denial is good to motivate me into getting fitter ;) So much pent up energy and frustration lol.

No, I haven't mentioned anything about this website. Really the only thing I can do on here now is make teases and post in the forum. Actually doing the teases is a thing of the past for me by the looks of it. It's always good to have a look through them though, some of the writers here are really good.

[uberbear01]

Heh, glad you liked my comment! :)

So wait, are you saying that you're not going to get to cum for 16 weeks?! I sincerely hope I've misunderstood that!

I loved that part about your GF snapping you back to chastity when you were thinking you maybe had some time off! It's very hot that you are subject to her whims! Again, thanks for the updates! :)

[chewit]

Yeah, I was really surprised this morning when I went straight back into chastity. My gf came home for lunch and was teasing me still, no change in the routine whatsoever.

Lol, I really don't want to think about not cumming for 16 weeks....I don't think that's what she meant....but you never know. I'm having enough trouble accepting I'll never get to stroke again.

Just to really make things worse (or actually better ;)) I've ordered another CB. It's the braveheart from Steelworxx. Looks really good, and this one is more open than the Rondo I've got at the moment which means I can clean myself still wearing it....so should my gf see fit she can lock me away and not need to let me out at night, if she's feeling particulary cruel or going away etc.

[uberbear01]

Ah man! I hope the Braveheart works out well for you! It looks sexy/scary as hell! I'm sure your imaginative GF will find a way of exploiting the little gaps in it! That's great that she has more leeway to leave you in for longer if you can clean yourself too!

I still don't get how you managed to go as long as you have done and not go nuts! 16 weeks?! lol I would be broken! lol Lets hope not, ay? :)

[dneirfkcuf]

You are a very lucky guy. Thanks for sharing.

[rettetsar]

Wow.... Just wow.

I pretty much just discovered the Tease and Denial fetish. (first post!)
I've gone through lots of fetishes throughout the years and well I now realized I masturbate too much :)
I've been listening to Erotic Hypnosis files for years now, and I think that's what peaked my interest in T&D. Although I've come across the fantasy in several Femdom videos that I've downloaded (although Its only been a year since I really overcame my homophobia and started downloading videos with male subs). And I've been fantasizing about chastity since I saw my first male chastity device a looong time ago. I just never really pursued the denial part. The longest I've gone without masturbating is about a week... and that was 6 months ago.

Regardless, It seems like something that is really gonna take off as a fantasy for me. I've downloaded several PowerPoint teases, and I am glad I found this site. . This site and your posts have inspired me to tease and DENY myself.

Now about your posts.. I'm speechless. It almost sounds too good to be true. Like one of these cheesy acted out fantasy's I see in these FemDom videos. I'm amazed that this all started from you seeing a guy in a chastity belt and mentioning it to your GF. The teasing, the denial, the constant surprises! I'm baffled... I don't know whether i should be extremely jealous or feel bad for you. A little bit of both I guess. (Just as you want to be teased but want to cum at the same time). I don't think I could last 16 weeks though. But if I had a dominant woman who forced it onto me like that, I guess I'd love to have to obey :)

My current thoughts are that although its an awesome thing to do like a month or 2 of playing, I just don't know what constantly being controlled like that can do to a person. I'm almost anxious to read your upcoming posts. Keep us updated on this story, your a great writer

[chewit]

I'm glad you were lucky like the rest of us to find this site. There are tons of good teases on here, and even a few mistresses that like to tease the guys regularly :) If I didn't have my gf I have no doubt I would be one of Little Miss Jays pets.

I know what you mean about it all sounds too good to be true. I often think the exact same thing, especially with some of the things my gf comes out with, it's like she can read my mind and knows exactly what makes me tick...although I guess guys are not so hard to figure out sometimes ;)

With it being the weekend, as usual I got teased even more than usual this morning....and after a LOT of begging I was even allowed release, although again no sex, only a very slow very drawn out handjob. It's now been some weeks since I was allowed to cum during sex....but of course that doesn't mean my gf hasn't lol

So this morning was much the same as usual. A lot of teasing, caressing and laughing as I became more and more desperate....and very little stroking, at least for the first 30 minutes.

Me: Are you going to let me cum today?

Gf: No, you're going to suffer some more

Me: When you say more do you mean for the next 30 minutes or so and then I get to cum?

I tried to say it in a half joke, although I was 100% serious with my intention of wanting to cum. She had teased me for 30 minutes with very little stroking and no edge whatsover. I was desperate.

Gf: No, I mean I'm gonna tease you for days until just touching your cock is gonna make you cum.

She laughed.

Again I was shocked, I really don't know how she comes out with such great lines that make me even more desperate.

She started stroking me slowly but firmly and got me to the edge very quickly. There's something about knowing I'm being controlled that gets me so excited I edge within 20 seconds.

She stopped and started squeezing my balls and I began to make noises of desperation. At this she stopped and started slapping them, very lightly but enough to make me flinch.

Gf: I know you like this..

She started stroking me again and got me to the edge. This was repeated again and again, I lost count of how many times but I was genuinely desperate to cum and can honestly say I didn't want to be kept in denial another minute. I began begging but my requests for sex were met with the following response:

Gf: No sex today, you are going to lie there. Don't move and don't make a sound

Amazingly she took pity on me and stroked slowly, this time she didn't stop and I came. I was amazed as it's only been 5 days since I last came from a handjob.....but I'm not complaining, completely the opposite in fact :)

As for the 16 weeks, it's been mentioned I will continue my exercise training for the entire course...but I don't think it means denial for the entire time. Personally I think there will be breaks in the game where I don't have to wear the CB etc although when that might start is anyones guess....well actually when my gf tells me. This way it keeps everything exciting and new and it's always nice to have some 'normal' time now and again.

The dynamic of denial definitely changes for me. The first 7 days are tough as i wanna cum but love being kept in denial. The next 7 are harder as I wanna cum even more and although I love being controlled the part of me that wants to cum definitely starts to surface more. It's an interesting experience, as I feel I'm in a win-win situation, if I'm kept in denial it just gets better, but if I'm allowed to cum well that in itself is amazing after being teased for so long. I don't know how guys cope with months of denial, maybe one day I'll be posting it as one of my experiences, for now I'm enjoying every minute of my relationship with my gf. Again, she mentioned it the other day.

Gf: Just think, all this has happened because we saw some guy on the beach who may or may not have been wearing a CB.

I wonder if I'll be told to wear my CB to the beach next summer? The thing is we always go to the nudist beach....and i know my gf would find it absolutely hilarious to see me humiliated in front of everyone there. The other day we were sat opposite each other on the tube. She leant forward, made a fist and tapped my metal CB so that it made a noise. She started laughing at the look of shock on my face as the two people sat on the other side of the train looked at me with a curious expression on their faces. I just sat there and was so content about my whole situation that I was almost pleased to feel so embarrassed :)

[Foxhawke]

I don't know how guys cope with months of denial, maybe one day I'll be posting it as one of my experiences, for now I'm enjoying every minute of my relationship with my gf.

Without any personal experience of it, I would imagine that tease & denial is much harder when there is someone physically there with you that is doing the teasing. When I deny myself and get teased online I can "shut it out" for a couple of hours by watching a movie or something, but if you live together with the one doing the teasing then the precense is probably there with you even during that movie and the teasing can happen anytime which makes it a bit more always on.

Still, thanks for still posting these updates. I still enjoy reading them all (even though I'm incredibly jealous ), so please keep it up.

[chewit]

You're exactly right Foxhawke. Having the person there constantly teasing you is hard enough but even when they're not (like you say when you're watching a film) you never know when they are going to do something and to be honest after days of teasing just looking at my gf is enough to make me desperate.

My new CB has been posted now, it should be here in about a week. I'm looking forward to it arriving :) One thing I didn't mention was that after cumming today, showering and making breakfast I 'forgot' to bring out the CB to put on. Shortly after my gf grabbed my crotch and squeezed (expecting the CB to be on I think). It wasn't though.

Gf: Who gave you permission not to wear the CB? Go and put it on

She gave me a little 'you know who's in control' smile.

I know I should expect this reaction by now, but it's still surprising me how good she is at all this. I really really thought today would be back to normal and the end of the game for a while. The last time she let me cum the CB went straight back on and today it's the same again. 2 weeks of wearing it now, I haven't been able to stroke my cock at all and it's 6 months since I made myself cum.

Two things that are without a doubt clear, my days of masturbation to make myself cum are well and truly over and the question of 'if and when' I get out of this CB is completely at my gf's discretion.

Happy days.....I think lol.

[chewit]

My new CB has arrived! :) It's the Braveheart from Steelworxx (it's my profile pic)

I'm looking forward to some longer term wear ....although I'm not sure why lol...perhaps I'll live to regret buying it. My gf wanted the option to be able to keep me locked up for days at a time without having to be released for hygiene reasons so what could I do, I had to buy it :P

I've posted a review of both the Braveheart and Rondo if anyone's thinking of buy a CB, I thought it might be useful for someone

I'll keep you posted on how things go :)

[ThomasKu]

You live a dream buddy. I hope it's yours ;)
Is this CB really better for hygiene reasons? It doesn't look that much better in case of cleaning ... well ... the inside... But with this slits it seems to me like it could hurt some more when aroused.

How's the training going anyway? Always checking for updates...

[chewit]

Yeah it's definitely better to clean and keep on longer periods :) It definitely doesn't hurt when trying to become aroused, its really well made and there are no sharp edges etc.

The training is going well, I'm looking forward to seeing the results at the end of 16 weeks....a long way from now lol

[chewit]

It looks like I may be in for another treat soon. My gf and me have been talking about my T&D fetish and other things I like and that she likes. As she's regularly slapping my balls, either gently just to make herself laugh or actually hard enough to make it hurt I'm sure she figured out long ago that I also enjoy S&M.

So, she's told me things she likes (regular things where I am in control) which we'll do when we're not playing the T&D game. This is good for me as it gives us a break and keeps everything 'new' so to speak and good for her as we also do other things she enjoys. However, last night things took a very interesting twist, and again I was more than a little shocked. So...we'd been talking about S&M and I commented on what a natural my gf was...she looked surprised at the compliment.

Gf: Do you really think so?

Me: It's a little scary how good you are. Do you know how much people sometimes pay for this kind of thing? I've seen adverts for 250 euros per hour.

She laughed at this, but was also very interested and began looking on the internet. I decided not to push the situation and continued playing my xbox while she looked. After a while..

Gf: Did you know there are courses on how to be a dominatrix? That could be interesting..

At this point my interest in my new xbox game practically vanished!

Me: Really? If there's a place local we could go have a look.

Gf: And a dom has written a book about her experiences here in Barcelona, it's called Confesiones de una domina.

At this point I was having a hard time believing what I was hearing. This was all just to good to be true.

Me: I'll get it if you like?

Gf: Ok.

I could tell she was very intrigued but I left her alone to continue looking. I'm learning that not applying any pressure is a good thing.

So, today...I've ordered the book and by chance while reading a review found a BDSM club that amazingly is about 3 minutes walk from our flat :) I told my gf and again she was really interested, she started looking at the webpage..

Gf: Theres a BDSM market being held there soon. We should go, maybe we can get some new toys. And look, they've got a room you can hire out with all the equipment to use, it's 60 euros for an hour.

She laughed. I'm sure I don't need to tell you what my response to all this was :)

Gf: And there's another place in Barcelona called the Fetish Cafe, we could try there one day as well.

At this point I was starting to wonder if someone had put ecstasy in the cup of tea I was drinking.

I started massaging her feet, which she liked.

Gf: Clean them for me first, go get and towel.

She smiled.

If I had had a ring I think I would have proposed there and then..

I got one, came back cleaned her feet and started to massage them. This turned into a proper massage and after about half an hour my gf was perfectly relaxed and asleep. I was strangely content just to have been able to give her a massage, no teasing, no CB, nothing at all like that.

She woke up after about an hour and got ready to go out, but before she left she turned to me and said.

Gf: You know we still haven't tried out your new toy.

We bought one of those anal vibrator toys designed for prostate milking a couple of weeks ago.

Gf: I hope you've had some practice getting used to it it because I want to use it on you soon.

Now at this point I was feeling slightly delirious and as she was speaking Spanish I think she said I would be handcuffed while she fucked me with it, but I can't be 100% sure....although I'm hoping I'll find out tonight! :)

So, to conclude, she could potentially do a dominatrix course, we're gonna visit a BDSM club in a couple of weeks and tomorrow....well I could be kinda walking funny :P

Chewit is one happy guy.

[uberbear01]

Haha! Another excellent read - thank you Chewit!

[camel]

Chewit,

Congrats on the "not pushing" part! That's really difficult and really great.

I also love how you gave her a massage.

I saw this and thought you'd enjoy it: http://video.xnxx.com/video227106/femdo ... and_denial I'm posting this in the "Tube site Stream/Video Links" forum too, but it's a really hot mental image for this thread. ...For me at least.