Best way to start with tease and denial?

[ThotOnslaught]

I was trying to dip my toes into tease and denial a couple of days ago. And honestly, stopping without orgasm after a lot of edging felt insane. My brain just wanted to keep going for the sole sake of my own horniness instead of the usual orgasm at the end. This feeling of full balls, sexual tension and random boners I got throught the rest of the day was the most agonizing yet pleasurable experience I've had with masturbation in a long time.

I wanted to start things slow and go for only one day. But unfortunatly that night I couldn't fall asleep for the life of me and like 2 hours into staring at the ceiling I just said screw it. Despite knowing better, it just wasn't worth getting a bad nights sleep for this. I've read posts on here about denial for days or weeks. How on earth do you guys do this?

Does anyone have some tips on how to start with tease and denial in a way that doesn't prevent me from sleeping? Not masturbating for a couple of days or a week isn't a big deal. It was the buildup that kept me awake that night. I thought maybe I could start with a couple of days of not masturbating and then edge in the morning but only allow myself to cum in the evening? That way I can ease my way into the tension but hopefully still get to sleep normal afterwards? And then maybe up the stakes from there some time in the future?

[markus]

Hi and welcome to the forum!

This feeling of full balls, sexual tension and random boners I got throught the rest of the day was the most agonizing yet pleasurable experience I've had with masturbation in a long time.

I guess that's what it's all about. That, and a higher level of arousal after a while, easier/faster edging.

How on earth do you guys do this?

Like with the training for a marathon if you've never run longer distance before, ... each time a little longer.

I thought maybe I could start with a couple of days of not masturbating

IMHO, life's too short for that, but that's just me, and that's one of the reasons I'm not into chastity.
I consider the main goal that already mentioned higher level of arousal, if in that state, women looking more sexy than usual, if that happens, you know you are on the right track.

Feel free to try different things, if abstinence helps you to reach that goal, then it might be the perfect way for you, we are all different.

Does anyone have some tips on how to start with tease and denial in a way that doesn't prevent me from sleeping?

Usually I don't have problems falling asleep, I think you'll just need some time to get used to it, and you've already found the (in my opinion) right way, ... before you spend the night staring at the ceiling, just say 'fuck it', ... nobody says you have to be a 'pro' right away, take your time, step by step.

Greetz and good luck!
Markus

[ThotOnslaught]

Thanks for the insight! I feel like abstinence could work initially, maybe I'm jerking off too often anyways But I don't feel like it would make a lasting impact the way denial could.

How do you feel about ruining? I see a lot of that around here too. Maybe that would relieve enough stress so I could sleep but still leave me longing for more?

Are there any good webteases to maybe try out with short denial periods? All I can find are always these story driven teases with a week worth of content. I don't feel like these would be a good start. But a shorter webtease or maybe even someone else to hold me accountable could help getting through that first night and see how things work out from there.

[hanush]

Hi, I've read both your posts and since I also tend to have trouble sleeping while in denial (let's say a week long), I guess I could suggest a thing or two, based on my personal experience.

So, first things first, staring into the ceiling is possibly the worst thing you can do, while trying to fall asleep after e.g. edging. You should do everything do avoid thinking about things sex-related, which –as we know– isn't easy after denial. Try reading a book with a good story, or an engaging movie (even a sad/heavy one), or maybe working out before doing a session, so you're tired enough later on.

As for ruining, in my experience, it could help with things like blue-balls, pain and so on. It won't relieve the sexual tension.

Also, if i decide on playing a tease, which requires staying in denial for a week, i masturbate only while actually playing.

I know it may sound ridiculous, but for me, the longer i stay denied, the longer i want to stay denied (to a degree, I'm not into long denial periods – more than a month at a time), and the more fun i have (in session).

I find the longer, story driven teases, like the ones from schefflera0101, or rayray77 best! The story actually gives me a reason to come back. If you don't want to do that yet, then I guess, you could try something like the Spy E.D.G.E series, or individual teases with a cum-chance system?

Anyways, as Markus said, take your time and you'll eventually find out stuff, that works best for you.

All the best!

[ThotOnslaught]

So, first things first, staring into the ceiling is possibly the worst thing you can do, while trying to fall asleep after e.g. edging. You should do everything do avoid thinking about things sex-related, which –as we know– isn't easy after denial.

Well granted, staring at the ceiling for two hours was maybe a bit exaggerated. I didn't edge right before going to bed, and I see how this could be very unhelpful. I edged like in the early afternoon and thought it would "wear off" until bedtime.

Also, if i decide on playing a tease, which requires staying in denial for a week, i masturbate only while actually playing.

That part seems obvious, I wasn't masturbating non-stop. I set myself a target and a few extra edges carried me away. But nothing out of the unordinary.

I find the longer, story driven teases, like the ones from schefflera0101, or rayray77 best! The story actually gives me a reason to come back. If you don't want to do that yet, then I guess, you could try something like the Spy E.D.G.E series, or individual teases with a cum-chance system?

I'll definitly have to look at these! Story driven teases might be just the right thing for me to have something to come back to the next day and keep myself accountable sort of. Schefflera I feel like is someone getting mentioned here a lot, but his teases are exactly what I felt were to much to start. Each one 7 or more parts long designed to play one part per day seems way to much after experiencing not even being able to tackle one night.

[markus]

maybe I'm jerking off too often anyways

Who doesn't?!

ruining [...] Maybe that would relieve enough stress so I could sleep but still leave me longing for more?

Hell no! I mean 'no' like in no, NO, NOOOOO!
It's the opposite, if you are staring at the ceiling after some tease & denial, after a (good)* ruined one, you'll crawl the ceiling like Spiderman on Speed.

Think of it as Tease & Denial 2.0.

* That's exactly my definition of a "good" ruined one, the next day it will be a even higher level of arousal.
For a 'beginner' I would recommend not to aim for one, sooner or later it probably happens accidentally, maybe at the time you already at a point to really appreciate and enjoy that feeling, and if not, ... back to "fuck it!".

Are there any good webteases to maybe try out with short denial periods?

Personally, I don't like webteases, not because they are bad, it's mostly the technical limitations of them (bad quality images, images displayed small, no videos, no pause funstion (!!!)).
If they 'work' for you, other users here are much more qualified to tell about them, ... maybe one day (no need to hurry, again, step by step) you'll take a look into the 'Teasing Software'-section of this forum.

I know it may sound ridiculous, but for me, the longer i stay denied, the longer i want to stay denied (to a degree, I'm not into long denial periods – more than a month at a time), and the more fun i have (in session).

It doesn't sound ridiculous to me, it IS a little addicting, besides the 'ridiculous' part, I totally agree on this.


Greetz,
Markus

[ThotOnslaught]

Hell no! I mean 'no' like in no, NO, NOOOOO!
It's the opposite, if you are staring at the ceiling after some tease & denial, after a (good)* ruined one, you'll crawl the ceiling like Spiderman on Speed.

Think of it as Tease & Denial 2.0.

Oh really? That's sort of counterintuitive tbh Maybe I'll leave that for some day later then.

But I did my idea of edging in the morning and staying "denied" until the evening. It was a good learning experience to see how my body reacts. But (I guess because I knew I wouldn't be denied until the next day) it wasn't as exciting as my "full" denial try before. Maybe I'll have to stay abstinent for longer so this half day denial bares a bigger weight. We'll see.