Edging Mastery w/ Gush+Funscripts+Denial

[bhk100]

Do you have script+video combos that you particularly recommend? I've used scripts a lot for my Handy, but how well does an "action" based script designed for stroking translate to the vibrating Gush?

For the most part it doesn't make much difference, so you're not limited to a small niche of all the content out there. Action based scripts translate really well, the only thing I have to do is invert the script in the player, which is a simple check box. Almost all funscripts are at the "down" position on the beat, or on "the action". But that would mean the Gush is at zero intensity on the "down" beat, so when you invert it, you're good to go again.

Beyond that, the only note is that a lot of the older cock hero funscripts use ever other beat, which IMO is too slow for vibrator play. Pretty much all of the newer ones as well as virtually all PMVs, and all action based scripts work a charm.

[Bob816]

Thanks, I will definitely try it out, my Gush doesn't get much action lately! I see you have a Discord server, but I can't seem to find it searching. Could you send me an invite or let me know how to join?

[Bob816]

I think I have Initface and MultiFunPlayer all set up. The video is playing in VLC, the script appears to be loaded, MFP seems like it's sending data and is connected to Initface. And I can test the Gush in Initface and it looks connected and will vibrate. But no luck when I play the video! Any ideas what I'm missing?

https://imgur.com/a/ihgKYbO

[bhk100]

I think I have Initface and MultiFunPlayer all set up. The video is playing in VLC, the script appears to be loaded, MFP seems like it's sending data and is connected to Initface. And I can test the Gush in Initface and it looks connected and will vibrate. But no luck when I play the video! Any ideas what I'm missing?

https://imgur.com/a/ihgKYbO

At a glance it looks correct except for the setting at the bottom of MFP for device map, you have no value set under “indices”, try changing that and see if it goes through

[aldorax]

Stack this with XToys "Edge-o-Matic" script the Gush and a kegel motion sensor like the Boost (https://www.kgoal.com/products/kgoal-bo ... er-for-men)

The Boost will sense when you clench towards orgasm (Kegel tightening) and the script will auto-stop the Gush for a period of time, then start and ramp up again.

Then you can really kick back and enjoy uninterrupted edging. Note: it's not perfect, but you can dial it in for a really good session.

I've used XToys with my Gush for a while but how do you sync the Boost sensor to xToys to stop the Gush when it detects an oncoming orgasm? Just connect it like any other toy and it "knows" what to do?

[siberian]

Hey everyone,

Wanted to share my experience with the Lovense Gush, Funscripts, and Edging that has resulted in a massive upgrade to my overall sex life. Some quick notes before starting, I'm not affiliated with Lovense or any of that nonsense. :) Also this is written for men, but I don't see why any of this couldn't be applied to the ladies.

I'm not even sure how to start, but I've discovered a new sexual routine that has blown all of my expectations out of the water... turned my previously goal-oriented approach on it's head, unlocked some crazy new abilities like becoming multi-orgasmic, and is something I can sustainably enjoy 7 days a week, 4 weeks a month... etc. You read that correctly: extreme sexual bliss for at least 1 hour, every day without detracting from my "real" sex life or otherwise interfere with work life, personal life, etc. These are bold statements that I would have looked at pretty skeptically 6 months ago, but here we are.

The core of it combines three different things:

1. A vibrator for your penis (Lovense Gush is my current go-to)
2. Funscripts to drive the same
3. Edging control, controlled Ruins and Orgasm Denial

Each of these are awesome by themselves. Together, it's nuts.

1: The Vibrator. If you're a dude and you've never used a vibrator, I'll understand. It's only been pretty recently that legitimately good vibrators designed for men have existed. If you take nothing else from this post, I'd encourage you to try it a few times. It just hits differently... whereas stroking has a very up-down centric feel to it, the vibrator is more of a "high-low" oscillation between rumbly and buzzy, both sensations feel amazing and put together it creates it's own type of "stroke". But unlike normal jerking where a lot of the sensation is on the "outside" of your cock, the vibrator is stimulating the whole banana at once, almost like the stimulation is coming from the inside out. I think that's probably similar to E-STIM, although I haven't tried that myself so can't really compare. While being quite different from stroking, it can still bring you to orgasm, although I think the orgasm hits a little different. Whereas stroking you get a sharp peak of orgasmic eruption, a vibrator orgasm is a little more paced out. You still get the same feeling but instead of being a peak it's like a mountain range and lasts a little longer. Sorry--this is probably a poor description but it's tough to put into words.

2: Funscripts. I'd known about these for a while but really underestimated how amazing they are. Regardless of your toy being a vibrator or stroker or whatever else, there's something pretty intense about feeling your porn. Whether it's an "action based" funscript where the signal is synced with the performers on screen, or it's "beat based" like a cock hero, or even just a "free style" funscript that is paired with a JOI video, etc, it's incredible to sit back with your hands behind your head and get pleasured by your favorite performers. I've thought about what makes a porn video good for a long time and I've decided that immersion is really one of the biggest factors. So roleplay videos, dirty talk, instructions / encouragement, VR videos... things that "bring me in" to the video turn my screws the most. Funscripts REALLY do that, because you're feeling what's happening, you sort of ARE part of the action. Huge mindfuck and super, super enjoyable.

3: Edging, Ruins and Denied Orgasms. I lumped these together because they're all aspects of the same thing.

3.1 Edging: Most of us here know how great edging is. Stroke yourself to the brink of orgasm, stop, throb & twitch in a moment of ecstasy, take a short breather and then go again. Needless to say, this kicks ass. Instead of being stuck in masturbation 1.0 where you build to a climax and then it's game over, with edging you can bring yourself up to 95% and experience little micro-O's over, and over, and over again. In a typical session I'll hit something like 70 edges, and with maybe 2-3 micro-twitches and delicious thobs per edge, I'm hitting probably close to 200 "micro orgasms" a day. To be clear, this is not something new--this is edging. But I wanted write that out just to make the advantage crystal clear.

3.2 Ruins: There is a next level up though, which I learned about a few years ago... ruins. When I first heard about this I couldn't understand why anyone would ever want to do this. Ruin an orgasm? The name is misleading though. A true ruined orgasm does not trigger the refractory period in men like a full orgasm does (meaning that "done" feeling where you feel super relaxed, you're no longer horny, and you have to wait anywhere from some hours to some days to go again with enthusiasm). It actually takes a little practice and failed attempts to do ruins correctly. If you correctly ruin you stay hard, stay horny, and you can continue your edging or go for more ruins. I think the most I've ever done in one sitting was 5 (I suspect you can't do them forever, but TBD). If you want to learn how to ruin: https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php? ... b43608775f

3.3 Orgasm Denial: Finally, orgasm denial. I gradually transitioned to this "goal". Again, I'd known about this forever but never understood why someone would want to do this. What is it: any time you have a session and you really, really want to cum at the end, but you don't. You go hands off, calm down, pull up your pants and go about your day. What I learned about this is that it feels magical, the hornier you are, the better. All that pent up, unreleased sexual energy? It feeds into and fuels your day. Girls on the street look hotter. Everything feels sensitive and better. You have tons of energy to put into whatever work or etc. you have to do. Again this isn't something new--you're just horny. Orgasms feel great, but you lose that electric energy (which is OK sometimes too! But just saying). And... as you go through your week with no release, it feeds back into 3.1 and 3.2. Your energy builds on itself and edges come faster, harder... those sessions get better and better etc.

Now... you put all of these things together (1 + 2 + (3.1, 3.2, 3.3)... and you get get some seriously cool benefits:

• First and foremost, you can have intense orgasmic pleasure every single day. Enough said :) But, depending on how much time you have and what your life is like, could easily be multiple times / day. My record so far is about 425 edges in a 24 hour period. There's something... really nice about knowing that regardless of how your day goes, with the ups and downs life naturally throws your way, you can depend on reliable pleasure whenever you want or need it.

• Works WITH your actual sex life, NOT AGAINST it. I'm in a long term relationship and usually have sex 1-2 / week. In my 1.0 days it was always a balancing act for me with some risk built in. I enjoy my solo sex, but I prioritize coupled sex. Coupled sex is naturally a bit more random and spontaneous for us, so there would be times where I had chosen to go for an orgasm with solo sex, and then real sex comes up the same day or next, and I wouldn't be able to perform at the level I wanted to. With this new setup I'm edging with the goal of NOT cumming, just getting as many edges or ruins as possible. This has the two-fold benefit that I'm always "ready" for her when she's ready to go, AND, when we are together I'm at a point where I'm so excited that it's intense, to say the least.

• Multiple orgasms. Here's somethign I DID NOT see coming... but as a result of either being built up for days, learning to disassociate orgasms from being "done" via ruins, or just training my brain to experience pleasure over and over again instead of going through the buildup-then-release pattern... I have become multi-orgasmic. I'm not talking about ruins here, I am talking about full orgasms. This started happening after about 3 or so months of this practice. The first time with a solo session... I had edged myself for about a week and there had been no sex, so I decide it was time to let one loose, old-school style with my hand + lube. First climax was insane, mind-numbing bliss like you'd expect. But after I came, I slowed down but kept stroking. Something was still feeling good. And about a minute later I brought myself up to a second full orgasm! Not as "big" as the first, but almost more intense in an odd way. The first one was a peak, whereas the second was a plateau. About a week later, it happened again, this time during sex! Can't tell you how amazing this was... similar sensations but with my lady. She loved it too. Then another time I actually got 3 orgasms in one session, this one was again solo sex... each orgasm was slightly "smaller" than the last but paradoxically more intense. When the third one hit I actually vocally cried out, something I had zero control over and never do. Toe-curling, brain melting insanity.

So that's it... it's been a bit of a journey to get here with a lot of trial and error. Never expected these results and wouldn't have believed they were even possible before. Maybe I'm a unique snowflake, but I doubt it. edit: this is without alcohol / drugs of any kind.

Anyone else go down a similar path?

I'm happy to chat more about my setup, tips and tricks, best practices, etc... this is definitely not something that's out of the box. It requires experimentation, practice and learning the small / subtle things to make this work. Figured I'd throw this post out first and see if anyone has interest.

I'm interested in purchasing one, I'm looking for scripts for this path you followed but I can't find anything similar

[aldorax]

OK, I have managed to setup the Boost and Gush with an XToys script and it works as expected! Needs a bit more fine-tuning, but so far the results are pretty promising ... and frustrating. :)

(Not using it with videos, just as something that stops the vibe when I get close.)

[bhk100]

I'm interested in purchasing one, I'm looking for scripts for this path you followed but I can't find anything similar

Hey there, so your best bet for funscript content is https://discuss.eroscripts.com/. You have to create an account to download funscript content. Sometimes the video links are in the post, sometimes not so it's hit or miss. You can also find a lot of great content on THIS site too.

There are also tools out there that will create funscripts for you. Python Dancer is a windows based tool that creates strokes based on the audio waveform. It isn't perfect, but it's pretty close for PMV's. There are also AI and motion tracking tools for "action based' funscripts. I haven't had a great deal of luck with those, sadly.

There isn't a path per se for funscripts, just find content that you enjoy. Also, everyone is hung up on finding "vibration" scripts for their Gush, but IMO it's not necessary. Stroking scripts feel just as good or better since you're getting that awesome low-to-high, high-to-low vibe patterns that feels an awful lot like being stroked. The stroke pattern is probably the best of all since we're all sitting on a few million years of evolution and reproduction that depends on pumping action, our bodies naturally love that. Of course, pure vibration is also enjoyable! Find what turns your screws.

Other than that, your "path" is to learn to edge, leak and ruin without tipping over to orgasm. There will be some fuck ups, and that's ok, just practice on the daily if possible. Beyond the physical training, you need to mentally train to love delayed gratification (waiting progressively more days before cumming). After a while, you'll begin to love the denial and go into your sessions with that as your primary goal. I'm clearly biased, but I fucking love it. SO much sexual pleasure, each and every day... and no orgasms. I know it sounds counter intuitive, but those 3-8 seconds of orgasmic ecstasy just isn't worth the trade off of losing all that delicious sexual tension.

To each their own! But I've found it immensely rewarding. Good luck!

[bhk100]

OK, I have managed to setup the Boost and Gush with an XToys script and it works as expected! Needs a bit more fine-tuning, but so far the results are pretty promising ... and frustrating. :)

(Not using it with videos, just as something that stops the vibe when I get close.)

Can you elaborate? I've read about setups that depend on an insertable anal balloon that can "sense" when you are about to cum (when your PC muscles begin to contract rapidly right before orgasm) and then turns everything off for a set period. I'd love that but I haven't seen it implemented outside of the "orgasmatron" or whatever that expensive device is.

[aldorax]

It's as the OP said earlier in the thread. It's easy... no inserting anything required (thankfully.)

Go to XToys and use the appropriate script (I don't have the name handy right now, but it's something like 'edge-o-matic with pressure' or something).

Connect the Gush and Boost to your computer via the XToys and the script.

Then you start to play around to figure what settings/sensitivities in the script work on the Boost to shut everything off when it detects enough pressure when clenching.

[Ymerdrengen]

Hey everyone,

Wanted to share my experience with the Lovense Gush, Funscripts, and Edging that has resulted in a massive upgrade to my overall sex life. Some quick notes before starting, I'm not affiliated with Lovense or any of that nonsense. :) Also this is written for men, but I don't see why any of this couldn't be applied to the ladies.

I'm not even sure how to start, but I've discovered a new sexual routine that has blown all of my expectations out of the water... turned my previously goal-oriented approach on it's head, unlocked some crazy new abilities like becoming multi-orgasmic, and is something I can sustainably enjoy 7 days a week, 4 weeks a month... etc. You read that correctly: extreme sexual bliss for at least 1 hour, every day without detracting from my "real" sex life or otherwise interfere with work life, personal life, etc. These are bold statements that I would have looked at pretty skeptically 6 months ago, but here we are.

The core of it combines three different things:

1. A vibrator for your penis (Lovense Gush is my current go-to)
2. Funscripts to drive the same
3. Edging control, controlled Ruins and Orgasm Denial

Each of these are awesome by themselves. Together, it's nuts.

1: The Vibrator. If you're a dude and you've never used a vibrator, I'll understand. It's only been pretty recently that legitimately good vibrators designed for men have existed. If you take nothing else from this post, I'd encourage you to try it a few times. It just hits differently... whereas stroking has a very up-down centric feel to it, the vibrator is more of a "high-low" oscillation between rumbly and buzzy, both sensations feel amazing and put together it creates it's own type of "stroke". But unlike normal jerking where a lot of the sensation is on the "outside" of your cock, the vibrator is stimulating the whole banana at once, almost like the stimulation is coming from the inside out. I think that's probably similar to E-STIM, although I haven't tried that myself so can't really compare. While being quite different from stroking, it can still bring you to orgasm, although I think the orgasm hits a little different. Whereas stroking you get a sharp peak of orgasmic eruption, a vibrator orgasm is a little more paced out. You still get the same feeling but instead of being a peak it's like a mountain range and lasts a little longer. Sorry--this is probably a poor description but it's tough to put into words.

2: Funscripts. I'd known about these for a while but really underestimated how amazing they are. Regardless of your toy being a vibrator or stroker or whatever else, there's something pretty intense about feeling your porn. Whether it's an "action based" funscript where the signal is synced with the performers on screen, or it's "beat based" like a cock hero, or even just a "free style" funscript that is paired with a JOI video, etc, it's incredible to sit back with your hands behind your head and get pleasured by your favorite performers. I've thought about what makes a porn video good for a long time and I've decided that immersion is really one of the biggest factors. So roleplay videos, dirty talk, instructions / encouragement, VR videos... things that "bring me in" to the video turn my screws the most. Funscripts REALLY do that, because you're feeling what's happening, you sort of ARE part of the action. Huge mindfuck and super, super enjoyable.

3: Edging, Ruins and Denied Orgasms. I lumped these together because they're all aspects of the same thing.

3.1 Edging: Most of us here know how great edging is. Stroke yourself to the brink of orgasm, stop, throb & twitch in a moment of ecstasy, take a short breather and then go again. Needless to say, this kicks ass. Instead of being stuck in masturbation 1.0 where you build to a climax and then it's game over, with edging you can bring yourself up to 95% and experience little micro-O's over, and over, and over again. In a typical session I'll hit something like 70 edges, and with maybe 2-3 micro-twitches and delicious thobs per edge, I'm hitting probably close to 200 "micro orgasms" a day. To be clear, this is not something new--this is edging. But I wanted write that out just to make the advantage crystal clear.

3.2 Ruins: There is a next level up though, which I learned about a few years ago... ruins. When I first heard about this I couldn't understand why anyone would ever want to do this. Ruin an orgasm? The name is misleading though. A true ruined orgasm does not trigger the refractory period in men like a full orgasm does (meaning that "done" feeling where you feel super relaxed, you're no longer horny, and you have to wait anywhere from some hours to some days to go again with enthusiasm). It actually takes a little practice and failed attempts to do ruins correctly. If you correctly ruin you stay hard, stay horny, and you can continue your edging or go for more ruins. I think the most I've ever done in one sitting was 5 (I suspect you can't do them forever, but TBD). If you want to learn how to ruin: https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php? ... b43608775f

3.3 Orgasm Denial: Finally, orgasm denial. I gradually transitioned to this "goal". Again, I'd known about this forever but never understood why someone would want to do this. What is it: any time you have a session and you really, really want to cum at the end, but you don't. You go hands off, calm down, pull up your pants and go about your day. What I learned about this is that it feels magical, the hornier you are, the better. All that pent up, unreleased sexual energy? It feeds into and fuels your day. Girls on the street look hotter. Everything feels sensitive and better. You have tons of energy to put into whatever work or etc. you have to do. Again this isn't something new--you're just horny. Orgasms feel great, but you lose that electric energy (which is OK sometimes too! But just saying). And... as you go through your week with no release, it feeds back into 3.1 and 3.2. Your energy builds on itself and edges come faster, harder... those sessions get better and better etc.

Now... you put all of these things together (1 + 2 + (3.1, 3.2, 3.3)... and you get get some seriously cool benefits:

• First and foremost, you can have intense orgasmic pleasure every single day. Enough said :) But, depending on how much time you have and what your life is like, could easily be multiple times / day. My record so far is about 425 edges in a 24 hour period. There's something... really nice about knowing that regardless of how your day goes, with the ups and downs life naturally throws your way, you can depend on reliable pleasure whenever you want or need it.

• Works WITH your actual sex life, NOT AGAINST it. I'm in a long term relationship and usually have sex 1-2 / week. In my 1.0 days it was always a balancing act for me with some risk built in. I enjoy my solo sex, but I prioritize coupled sex. Coupled sex is naturally a bit more random and spontaneous for us, so there would be times where I had chosen to go for an orgasm with solo sex, and then real sex comes up the same day or next, and I wouldn't be able to perform at the level I wanted to. With this new setup I'm edging with the goal of NOT cumming, just getting as many edges or ruins as possible. This has the two-fold benefit that I'm always "ready" for her when she's ready to go, AND, when we are together I'm at a point where I'm so excited that it's intense, to say the least.

• Multiple orgasms. Here's somethign I DID NOT see coming... but as a result of either being built up for days, learning to disassociate orgasms from being "done" via ruins, or just training my brain to experience pleasure over and over again instead of going through the buildup-then-release pattern... I have become multi-orgasmic. I'm not talking about ruins here, I am talking about full orgasms. This started happening after about 3 or so months of this practice. The first time with a solo session... I had edged myself for about a week and there had been no sex, so I decide it was time to let one loose, old-school style with my hand + lube. First climax was insane, mind-numbing bliss like you'd expect. But after I came, I slowed down but kept stroking. Something was still feeling good. And about a minute later I brought myself up to a second full orgasm! Not as "big" as the first, but almost more intense in an odd way. The first one was a peak, whereas the second was a plateau. About a week later, it happened again, this time during sex! Can't tell you how amazing this was... similar sensations but with my lady. She loved it too. Then another time I actually got 3 orgasms in one session, this one was again solo sex... each orgasm was slightly "smaller" than the last but paradoxically more intense. When the third one hit I actually vocally cried out, something I had zero control over and never do. Toe-curling, brain melting insanity.

So that's it... it's been a bit of a journey to get here with a lot of trial and error. Never expected these results and wouldn't have believed they were even possible before. Maybe I'm a unique snowflake, but I doubt it. edit: this is without alcohol / drugs of any kind.

Anyone else go down a similar path?

I'm happy to chat more about my setup, tips and tricks, best practices, etc... this is definitely not something that's out of the box. It requires experimentation, practice and learning the small / subtle things to make this work. Figured I'd throw this post out first and see if anyone has interest.

This post changed me in the best way possible! I have just started my journey with this new "approach"/philosophy on my solo experience. I haven't yet introduced the idea to my wife but I will probably soon once I have mastered some of the ruin/denial a bit more.

I'm currently on my 3rd day of many sessions ending with ruin and/or denial orgasms and I can confirm I am incredible horny! It hurts my sleep a bit as I when I wake I'm so horny that I complete a small session with a couple of edges, even in the middle of the night.
I have set aside my weekend (wife is out of town) to a "Day of Pleasure" to explore this further, using all the tricks (incl. a Gush2 and erotic hypnosis my Shibby that offers syncing to the Gush).

I do have one question: When do you decide to release? And is there anything special you prepare for the release?

Thanks again for writing this out and helping me to get my libido through the roof

[bhk100]

This post changed me in the best way possible! I have just started my journey with this new "approach"/philosophy on my solo experience. I haven't yet introduced the idea to my wife but I will probably soon once I have mastered some of the ruin/denial a bit more.

I'm currently on my 3rd day of many sessions ending with ruin and/or denial orgasms and I can confirm I am incredible horny! It hurts my sleep a bit as I when I wake I'm so horny that I complete a small session with a couple of edges, even in the middle of the night.
I have set aside my weekend (wife is out of town) to a "Day of Pleasure" to explore this further, using all the tricks (incl. a Gush2 and erotic hypnosis my Shibby that offers syncing to the Gush).

I do have one question: When do you decide to release? And is there anything special you prepare for the release?

Thanks again for writing this out and helping me to get my libido through the roof

So awesome to hear this!

I've also introduced this idea to my wife and she is really intrigued by it. I actually told her word for word: "I never want to cum outside of your pussy again" which she found really hot. I think she mostly loves the idea of me being super horny 24/7, and then having bigger explosions when we're together (which is exactly what I want too!) This was like 3-4 weeks ago. What I'm working on are sessions where I give her a massive orgasm, which I love, and then after she builds me to the edge 3-5 times (hand jobs) and ends in sweet denial. In practice, this is turning out to be A LOT harder than I expected because she enjoys making me cum, and my body instincts want it too. I guess we both need more discipline. :D

To answer your question about when I choose to release: my goal is to edge, ruin and deny myself as much as possible and only release with wifey. This is perfect for me because it maximizes my own pleasure, and also makes our bond very strong. Orgasm when paired with a partner is a very potent bonding thing. (Evolution has tuned it that way for the sake of raising offspring, but I digress) Between that and always feeling horny has made me very sweet on her. I find myself flirting more, kissing her more out of the blue, doing little things for her (because I genuinely want to, not out of some sub/dom dynamic). So in a round about way, taking this approach has made our relationship hotter and better overall. I've read about how porn can destroy relationships, etc. etc. which I am sure is true for many. I'm not claiming to be some guru here but I guess if you take an enlightened approach like this, sprinkle on some maturity and self control, keep priorities straight and things in their respective lanes, it can be pretty fucking awesome. Between endless goon sessions where my cock is teleported to heaven on the daily, and then hotter / more frequent IRL sex each week I'm pretty pleased.

Having said all of that, for me personally it is extremely difficult to go more than 10 days with daily edging and denial before I feel like I am legit going insane and can't think of anything else, LOL. I mean we're talking about 4 digits worth of edges and like 30-40 ruins. Hey, I'm still developing myself too. :)

[Ymerdrengen]

This post changed me in the best way possible! I have just started my journey with this new "approach"/philosophy on my solo experience. I haven't yet introduced the idea to my wife but I will probably soon once I have mastered some of the ruin/denial a bit more.

I'm currently on my 3rd day of many sessions ending with ruin and/or denial orgasms and I can confirm I am incredible horny! It hurts my sleep a bit as I when I wake I'm so horny that I complete a small session with a couple of edges, even in the middle of the night.
I have set aside my weekend (wife is out of town) to a "Day of Pleasure" to explore this further, using all the tricks (incl. a Gush2 and erotic hypnosis my Shibby that offers syncing to the Gush).

I do have one question: When do you decide to release? And is there anything special you prepare for the release?

Thanks again for writing this out and helping me to get my libido through the roof

So awesome to hear this!

I've also introduced this idea to my wife and she is really intrigued by it. I actually told her word for word: "I never want to cum outside of your pussy again" which she found really hot. I think she mostly loves the idea of me being super horny 24/7, and then having bigger explosions when we're together (which is exactly what I want too!) This was like 3-4 weeks ago. What I'm working on are sessions where I give her a massive orgasm, which I love, and then after she builds me to the edge 3-5 times (hand jobs) and ends in sweet denial. In practice, this is turning out to be A LOT harder than I expected because she enjoys making me cum, and my body instincts want it too. I guess we both need more discipline. :D

To answer your question about when I choose to release: my goal is to edge, ruin and deny myself as much as possible and only release with wifey. This is perfect for me because it maximizes my own pleasure, and also makes our bond very strong. Orgasm when paired with a partner is a very potent bonding thing. (Evolution has tuned it that way for the sake of raising offspring, but I digress) Between that and always feeling horny has made me very sweet on her. I find myself flirting more, kissing her more out of the blue, doing little things for her (because I genuinely want to, not out of some sub/dom dynamic). So in a round about way, taking this approach has made our relationship hotter and better overall. I've read about how porn can destroy relationships, etc. etc. which I am sure is true for many. I'm not claiming to be some guru here but I guess if you take an enlightened approach like this, sprinkle on some maturity and self control, keep priorities straight and things in their respective lanes, it can be pretty fucking awesome. Between endless goon sessions where my cock is teleported to heaven on the daily, and then hotter / more frequent IRL sex each week I'm pretty pleased.

Having said all of that, for me personally it is extremely difficult to go more than 10 days with daily edging and denial before I feel like I am legit going insane and can't think of anything else, LOL. I mean we're talking about 4 digits worth of edges and like 30-40 ruins. Hey, I'm still developing myself too. :)

Thanks for the prompt answer!

I like the idea of talking with my wife and get her input. However, I'm also in a somewhat opposite situation where my libido is sometimes much higher than my wife, who is currently pregnant with our 2nd child, so I'm not gonna add my own over-the-top libido to that mix. We still have great sex though more planned out due to .. well life.. but I will definitely get back to discussing this idea with her at a better time in our lives. Anywho, I digress, I find it incredible that you can go for 10 days - I'm only my 3rd day and I can't stop thinking about when I can have my next session. I have also already planned out that this weekend is all about myself and a lot of solo sex, as my wife is out of town with our kid. I will take your advice and try to see how much I can edge and ruin the entire day, though I don't think I'll get into the hundreds with so little training that I have. I expect to use weed and poppers to really get me engulfed in pleasure, so I am also watchful of not overdoing it.

That aside, I noticed in your signature that you are the admin of Edger's paradise Discord channel: Care to send me a invite as a PM? (I can't find the server by googling)

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Hello all very interesting reading !
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