i need help

[cgarrett13]

i would like to know how i can last longer for my wife. i can only hold out for about 5 -8 min when i am in her. plases help me i am willing to do anything to be able to last longer are there any teases that teach you hoe to hold out

[ThomasKu]

Well, there are some teases like
"Endurance Training",
"Endurance Training 2",
"Want More Stamina?" or
this one.
But you could simply cum once before you have Sex How about that?

[willbeg2cum]

i saw once on their website that fleshlite has a model called the trainer thats supposed to increase stamina. I've never had one, or any fleshlite, so i cant comment on whether it works. I think fleshlites have been talked about on here before you might do a search for that.

But, ThomasKu probably has the easiest, cheapest idea with his cumming before coitus suggestion, as long as you're not supposed to be in a denial period.

[Joe1]

I understand and relate to your predicament. It is hard not to cum during sex. A pussy just feels sooo good. Sometimes my wife gets into positions where no matter what I do I can not last and sometimes she mounts me a certain way that feels great for her, but allows me to control myself. Some things you can try:

Cock rings can help you last longer. You can layer on condoms. There are numbing creams but I've never used them. Long term you can exercise your PC muscle. Flex it 100 times a day. Stengthening it helps you control your orgasm.

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[littlepos]

I am curious as to what the problem is with cumming within 8 minutes?

is it a performance issue, a kink, is it that once you have cum the sex is over?

From what i understand, it is not unusual for men between the ages of 14 and 30 to have an orgasm within 5-10 minutes of penetration.

But, sex does not begin or end with intercourse.

I have never been able to last more than 10 minutes once inside a woman, and honestly none of the other men i have talked to about this have either. But, spending time on foreplay, intense, and even afterplay for her, will help male things better all around.

and, you know, it only takes a few minutes to get hard again after an orgasm, if you are healthy and into the woman.

dont know if this helps, but i hope so.

[all2true]

I suggest learning about Tantric sex
It's like edging, only while having sex
It does take some practice.
The secreat is to know when you are close
and then back off
switch techniques (go to oral or manula stimuation for her)
Also Lot's of forplay and 'funplay'
Personnal note I have NOT found that masterbation increases time
However if you have learned to edge several times
then you can use some of the same control while having sex, stop,
BEFORE you hit the edge you stop, and have a few minutes of cool down (for you)
while you continue to please her.
(you can keep this going a very long time and impress the lady of your life)
there are several good books out there on the subject.

[dubble]

I am curious as to what the problem is with cumming within 8 minutes?

Loaded subject actually. If nothing else is involved (touching, intimacy, foreplay, etc), then an 8 minute orgasm can be selfish unless both people are okay with it (hookers probably love that kind of quickie! ). Sometimes a quickie is GREAT and both people like that... just not all the time. Mixing it (sex) up is great! But it doesn't have to always be marathon sex either. For me I am always more concerned about HER pleasure. THAT in itself is more pleasureable than any orgasm I can ever have. But that's just me. I love to see, feel, smell, taste, and hear a woman orgasm! Be it from fingers, toys, orally, or by whatever means, a woman's orgasm is best to me, my greatest pleasure!

is it a performance issue, a kink, is it that once you have cum the sex is over?

From what i understand, it is not unusual for men between the ages of 14 and 30 to have an orgasm within 5-10 minutes of penetration.

Yes, it is common, but you can practice and get better, 'stay' longer. Everyone is different. It's about knowing yourself. I did this practice in marathon masturbation sessions, learning my body, each sign, every sensation, what I knew would push me over or keep me on edge, thoughts behind that, how to stop it... or at least delay it. Practice, practice, practice. Learn your body and understand what pushes you over the top. Nearly everyone can get better, stay longer. Much of it is also mental to me. A woman and her body is truly amazing. Add an amazing mind behind that and she's very orgasmic for me! But it's when I put HER pleasure before my own that I discovered I could last longer, wanting the best for her, wanting for her pleasure.

But, sex does not begin or end with intercourse.

So right you are! Good point. (Unless you are paying for it. YUKK! Never have, never will!)

I have never been able to last more than 10 minutes once inside a woman, and honestly none of the other men i have talked to about this have either. But, spending time on foreplay, intense, and even afterplay for her, will help male things better all around.

I'm not bragging here, but 10 minutes? I've lasted much longer. Much, much longer. Again, it's when you put another's pleasure above your own that you can find the inner strength to last... for her! Sure, IF I wanted to cum in 10 minutes or less I could. But the point is to GIVE pleasure and receive it from her in many ways. Discovering what ways is all the fun. It's not always about the 'orgasm'. Like you said, it's not always about intercourse. Explore. Communicate. Play different games. We're not all built to be porn stars though, so don't think you need to act like one.

and, you know, it only takes a few minutes to get hard again after an orgasm, if you are healthy and into the woman.

Again, we are all different. My orgasms are VERY intense and I'm extremely sensitive for 30-60 minutes afterwards. I can rarely get hard again in less time (Unless it's a ruined orgasm. Then I can get hard soon after). I am very healthy and I never 'played' with a woman I wasn't into. So... explore and discover yourself. Communicate. Knowing yourself could help you give pleasure to another and last longer. Do it for her.

[mrfire]

I suggest learning about Tantric sex
It's like edging, only while having sex
It does take some practice.
The secreat is to know when you are close
and then back off
switch techniques (go to oral or manula stimuation for her)
Also Lot's of forplay and 'funplay'
Personnal note I have NOT found that masterbation increases time
However if you have learned to edge several times
then you can use some of the same control while having sex, stop,
BEFORE you hit the edge you stop, and have a few minutes of cool down (for you)
while you continue to please her.
(you can keep this going a very long time and impress the lady of your life)
there are several good books out there on the subject.

My last girlfriend and I had a lot of fun with a few of these techniques. As a basic introduction, try to maintain positions where you're in control of the tempo (I know, this is a little contrary to the general theme of this site ). That way, if you do get close, you can just slow down. Deep breathing can also help back you off the edge, as can just stopping. Most girls really enjoy feeling a cock just deep inside of them, but I find that it doesn't do a whole lot for me if I'm just there without moving -- perhaps take your "breaks" by pushing deep inside of your wife and holding it there. She'll get stimulation still, but you won't, and will be able to cool down a bit before continuing.

I find that masturbation has both pros and cons for lasting longer. If I don't masturbate for a short period of time prior to sex, I'm often more sensitive and built-up and get to the edge faster; but sometimes if I am going a long time without masturbation (and without arousal -- not denied orgasms, just not masturbating for various non-sexual reasons), I sometimes will last a lot longer as I get used to having an orgasm again. Have you tried masturbating 6-8 hours before sex? Perhaps you will last longer.

I've heard of the fleshlight that was referenced earlier, but I've never used it. I have a regular fleshlight, but I hardly use it when I'm regularly having sex with somebody. I don't think that you should use it to get more control, since your wife is around and you can work on it with her rather than without. Ultimately, this is something I think you two should work out together. Hell, you could easily introduce her to this site and find erotic ways for you both to enjoy sex more and improve.

Best of luck!