Guide to Ruined Orgasms?

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Guide to Ruined Orgasms?

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Is there a comprehensive guide (hopefully even in tease format) to ruined orgasms? Like that really goes into how to achieve them, what specific sensations to be looking for, what stimulation works best, etc?

I generally find that just "letting go right when I cum" doesn't actually lead to particularly unsatisfying orgasms. They're basically, just okay. But there have been random occasions where I seem to have timed it just right (unintentionally while edging) and wound up with very little sensation during ejaculation. I just can't figure out the trick of it. I need this in my arsenal, team, help me out!
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Re: Guide to Ruined Orgasms?

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Hello.
I'm sure you're too fast (or too slow to stop).
You need to approach it and stop touching.
Try from far at the beginning and you will not cum.
Then slowly approach, and you will find the good Time.
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Re: Guide to Ruined Orgasms?

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I don't have any guide to share but here's my personnal experience :

The more time between stoping the stimulation and cumming, the more ruined is the orgasm imo.
To achieve that I stimulate myself long enough and gradually decrease the intensity of stimulation to reach every edges. Stimulating only the sweet spot works well for me in that case ; at the end I reach the edge rubbing with one finger very slowly and several seconds elapse between my edge and my ruined orgasm.
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Re: Guide to Ruined Orgasms?

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I would start with practicing holding the edge. It takes a lot of self control to do and you should be touching very lightly. Build up to longer and longer durations until you get comfortable with it. Once you’ve mastered that, ruins are pretty easy to do. Typically from the edge I just do 1/2-2 hard strokes very quickly (depending on how close I am) and immediately let go. Sometimes you can just ruin from the light touches too, but it is more difficult to time correctly. If you don’t ruin you can always try again, but you have to restrain yourself and only stroke to the point of no return. If you do it right it will leak slowly and you should be hornier than you were before.
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