"Borrowed" friend's worn panties

[3dgorilla]

Hello, fellow Milovanians!

I don't know where else to share this, so I decided to do it here. This is a fetish website after all.

I "borrowed" my friend's panties out of her laundry basket at the gym the other day. It was after workout and I knew no one would be in there. I snuck in her dressing room looking for worn socks (since I knew they'd be in the laundry basket somewhere, nice and sweaty), because even though she isn't a 10/10, more like 7/10, I really like her feet. And I would defo smash, in a parallel universe, when circumstances would have been diffirent.
Anyway, I started rummagin through the basket, smelling her regular training clothes as I went, until I hit the effing jackpot. There was it, her simple plain string, which all of the girls wear under their shorts or whatnot. And it was filthy in a very sweet way. She might have been just at the end of her period, because it had a few tiny red stains, and some white. It smells soooo goood. And not in a strange way. It smells like an attractive woman, with a unique fragrance of her own.

I just don't know how I feel about it. Shall I find a way to return it, and forget about it? I just know that nothing will ever happen between us, and this is the closest I would ever get to that pussy.

Has something like this happened to any one of you? Any thoughts on what I've done, and what I should do now?

[TeaserC]

You actually made me come out of lurker mode (first post ever on this site), just to tell you that you're fucked up.

It's perfectly fine to have a panty fetish.

But it's not perfectly fine to steal panties. It's not just perverse, it's predatory. It makes you a predator. You might think that I'm overreacting, but I can tell you that I am not. If I found out someone stole my panties for sexual pleasure, I would be so extremely fucking pissed and creeped out. Your colleague doesn't deserve that.

I'm honestly not trying to shame or invalidate your fetishes. You like used panties and that's 100% ok, but get them from someone consensually. Be it through a lover/FWB, or purchase them online. For the love of god, don't steal them.

[tigrotto]

Hello, fellow Milovanians!

Please let's keep this conversation respectful of everyone. Everyone is entitled Her/his fetishes as well as Her/his opinions and nobody should be harassed for what She/he likes.
If you don't agree with someone then express your thoughts respectfully, not by offending them.

[Keer]

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I stole my colleague's panties out of her laundry basket at work today.
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[TeaserC]

Hello, fellow Milovanians!

Please let's keep this conversation respectful of everyone. Everyone is entitled Her/his fetishes as well as Her/his opinions and nobody should be harassed for what She/he likes.
If you don't agree with someone then express your thoughts respectfully, not by offending them.

I completely agree, no need to demean something for their kinks.

But there is a line, right? If your kinks are purposefully, negatively affecting those around you, you need to stop acting on them. I don't think there's much to agree or disagree about that. I mean, non-consensually violating someones privacy and decency for your own pleasure is 100% disgusting, even ignoring the fact that it is illegal.

If you're minding your own business, and someone is negatively affected by your kinks because they interact with you, so be it. That is their fault. But you shouldn't violate other people to satisfy yourself.

It's a bit iffy that this post is even allowed on here. OP is quite literally stalking this poor girl. I see you're a moderator (or helper?), and I'm in no way encouraging removing this post. But does Milovana not have any limits on what you can discuss other than the obvious (CP and similar)?

[Faraday]

Hello, fellow Milovanians!

Please let's keep this conversation respectful of everyone. Everyone is entitled Her/his fetishes as well as Her/his opinions and nobody should be harassed for what She/he likes.
If you don't agree with someone then express your thoughts respectfully, not by offending them.

I completely agree, no need to demean something for their kinks.

But there is a line, right? If your kinks are purposefully, negatively affecting those around you, you need to stop acting on them. I don't think there's much to agree or disagree about that. I mean, non-consensually violating someones privacy and decency for your own pleasure is 100% disgusting, even ignoring the fact that it is illegal.

If you're minding your own business, and someone is negatively affected by your kinks because they interact with you, so be it. That is their fault. But you shouldn't violate other people to satisfy yourself.

It's a bit iffy that this post is even allowed on here. OP is quite literally stalking this poor girl. I see you're a moderator (or helper?), and I'm in no way encouraging removing this post. But does Milovana not have any limits on what you can discuss other than the obvious (CP and similar)?

Totally agree with everything you said here and glad you said it. People who don't understand that the boundaries on involving others in their kink start and end with CONSENT need to hear the honest truth. A panty fetish is fine. Stealing someone else's panties without their permission is not fine, it's revolting. This is not an "opinion" nor anything that constitutes "harassment", this is a fact that people exhibiting OP's behavior need to hear.

[Xardas]

Hello, fellow Milovanians!

Please let's keep this conversation respectful of everyone. Everyone is entitled Her/his fetishes as well as Her/his opinions and nobody should be harassed for what She/he likes.
If you don't agree with someone then express your thoughts respectfully, not by offending them.

This is not about respecting a fetish, it's about respecting consent and privacy. Unless you are stealing literally to survive, it's not fine, ever. Stealing such a very private item and acting like a stalker is especially not fine.

A used panty fetish is fine, nothing wrong with it. Stealing someone else's panties is not. And frankly, I find that behavior a ton more problematic from a practical standpoint than being rude on the internet.

[Ecik17]

Totally agree with teaserc’s post. You could insert any other word besides panties (bike, car, your favorite spatula,) and it would be wrong. You’d be mad if any of the above were missing in your life. So, why are panties ok? Would it be ok if any of those things were taken from you? The line isn’t the panties. The line is stealing someone’s stuff without their consent for pleasure. And I, personally, think that is wrong, and should not be tolerated on this site, which is focused on being inclusive, welcoming, and respectful. Stealing peoples stuff is not that. This is not demeaning someone’s panty fetish. This is standing up against nonconcent and thievery.

For anyone that thinks that saying that stealing for sexual pleasure is a fetish that should be accepted on this site ( the panty fetish is not the issue. Stealing is. In theory, I could say that stealing cars gives me sexual pleasure...I think the reaction would be not be as...receptive ), I strongly suggest for them to reconsider. For the record, I’m not against panty fetishes...there are a lot of people in the world who would consent to this! However, this original poster (and I will not say his name), does not have consent, and I believe that as a community, we should stand against that.

This is personal to me, as it happened to a former girlfriend of mine in college. it was traumatic. She felt violated. And I felt pissed. Even more than a decade removed from college, I’m still mad about it.

This site’s greatest strength is that it is built on consent, and being welcoming. The original post undermines both of those ideals in a horrible way by normalizing bad behavior. In everything I’ve done on this site... “welcoming” meant having consent...agreement of both partners. Stealing panties is not one of them.

[Noah]

This is personal to me, as it happened to a former girlfriend of mine in college. it was traumatic. She felt violated. And I felt pissed. Even more than a decade removed from college, I’m still mad about it.

I would like to stress that the violation is even more damaging than 'the stealing aspect'. Hopefully, the above story educates on the possible emotional harm. It places her in a position of humiliation because there is no consent. There are girls that sell used panties. That position is completely different, and it might even feel empowering to them.

We all have urges that tempt us, but hopefully you will reflect on this situation. I believe that all these posts are in protection of you too.

[tigrotto]

I completely agree, no need to demean something for their kinks.

In fact my comment wasn't directed at You, but at the way he replied to You in the comment he later deleted which was offensive. HIs fetish is completely fine, as well as the way You replied to him.
About him stealing that Woman's panties that was wrong and Your reply to him for me was more than enough to end the discussion without dragging it any longer repeating a concept that was already clear enough thanks to Your reply.
Hopefully he understood that what he did was wrong and will learn to enjoy his fetish in a sane, safe and consensual way.

It's a bit iffy that this post is even allowed on here.

It could breach the terms of service (link is at the bottom of the page), but there's also a positive lesson that could be learned from this post for everyone thinking about doing this. (the whole consent thing) The purpose of Milo is also to educate people so hopefully this could be useful. If you don't show what's wrong and what's the right way to behave how could one learn? But that's just my personal opinion.
I'll think about removing this.

I see you're a moderator

Yes, recently appointed.

This is not about respecting a fetish, it's about respecting consent and privacy. Unless you are stealing literally to survive, it's not fine, ever. Stealing such a very private item and acting like a stalker is especially not fine.

A used panty fetish is fine, nothing wrong with it. Stealing someone else's panties is not. And frankly, I find that behavior a ton more problematic from a practical standpoint than being rude on the internet.

I wrote that comment because of a comment he deleted where he replied in a rude way to TeaserC.
The whole discussion about what he did was over for me after TeaserC's reply which was already clear enough. (see above)

Please let's not drag this conversation any longer. As Noah said and as it's been reiterated few times hopefully he learned about the consequences of his action and that this will be useful for other people.

[Roblsforbobls]

It could breach the terms of service (link is at the bottom of the page), but there's also a positive lesson that could be learned from this post for everyone thinking about doing this. (the whole consent thing) The purpose of Milo is also to educate people so hopefully this could be useful. If you don't show what's wrong and what's the right way to behave how could one learn? But that's just my personal opinion.

I'm with you on this. Because others condemned this kind of behavior, the thread is more valuable as a lesson on a subject that wouldn't be discussed elsewhere.