Questions on Copying Teases and private messages

[TsMe119]

OK, I have a few questions, but I figured it would be best to start at the beginning. There is a particular tease on this site which I have played a number of times, and like very much, but later discovered a variation to it which I would like even better. After playing my version of it a few times, I finally wrote it up as a tease, but I have not published it yet. While my version gives credit to the original writer within the tease, so much is copied that I thought I should get the original writer's permission first. So I set up the "Share privately" option to let the original writer view it, and then sent her a private message with a link to my version, asking her for permission to publish my version of her tease. This was over a month ago.

According to the original author's profile, she has not logged into Milovana since then (if only I had sent her that message one week earlier!). So I started to think that since it has been a month, perhaps I now publish it anyway. If the original user logs in and finds my copy, she will also see my message from a month ago and know that I made the attempt to contact her first. I decided to also send a follow-up private message explaining this. But when I went to my private messages, I saw that my first message to her was in the "Outbox" folder, not the "Sent" folder. So, even if she logs in, would she get the message? Did I just press the wrong key and not send it? I did send a follow-up, but it appeared in the "Outbox" folder too.

So now I have two questions. First, technically, how does the private message feature work? Do I need to do something different to actually send a message? Or does it stay in "Outbox" until the other user logs in and sees it? In the second case, will she see the date I actually sent it?

Secondly, is there a normal rule of etiquette for publishing modifications of other people's teases? Is it enough that I gave the original author credit at the beginning of my tease? If not, how long am I obligated to wait for a her to see my message, and have the opportunity to give me permission? What if she never does sign on to this site again to see my message?

I think that's enough questions. I hope someone has answers.

[servus]

The message stays in the outbox until the other person reads it (that´s what I know for sure) and I think the other person should be able to see the time you wrote it.

[NEGEV]

just post it if the aithor doesnot like it latr you can still delete it

[forbiddendesire]

The normal etiquette is to credit and maybe link the author's original work in the beginning of the tease or in the comics. You sent her a pm, which is also encouraged but not necessary, but if you say she hasn't logged on in a while then you're good to go.

[rob204]

I think in the terms of service it says something like

by submitting the User Submissions to Milovana, you hereby [...] grant each user of the Milovana Website a non-exclusive license to [...] prepare derivative works of [...] such User Submissions

Not sure if that means those users are allowed to submit those prepared derivatives.