Is it wrong? - spreading the fetish! -

[Philze]

Hey guys,

just wanted to hear your oppinion about what I'm doing..

I agree that the first part of my action isnt 100% correct, but pls read till the end:

I created a fake profile on a dating app. Its a handsome good looking guy. I get in contact with a lot of girls and the chatting starts. When we move to sexual related themes I introduce some kinky stuff. Depending on her reaction I try to improve the aproval to this themes. I point out that most people cant decide what they are into and if you become more open to this stuff you might enjoy it as well. Had great success so far including changing the whole way of thinking about kink of some people..


Let me know what you think :)

[CumScream]

What's your question?

Yes it's wrong, you state that up front.

-Are you just introducing new people to fetish thoughts? Why not let them find that side of themselves on their own. It'll feel more pure and those who like it will get drawn to it naturally.
-Are you actually trying to connect into a relationship on this app? Sure you might get a few more initial responses with a cuter avatar-photo, but there will be huge disappointment when they find out you're not who you said you were. It's no real way to forge a lasting relationship, if you base it on deceit. And the lie will just be brought up again and again forevermore...
-Then there's the simple view; if someone is shallow enough to only care about a 'pretty-boy', then what value will they ever have for you?

In my experience, a kinky mind is often a more open-mined view of the world. So if you've decided you are looking for a kinky player to begin with, why not try using your real self as the bait? You might reel-in less fish, but that smaller selection will be a lot closer to what you were looking for in the first place!

CS

[dubble]

Yes, it is WRONG! You are playing upon the emotions of people you never intend to meet. If you want to spread the fetish word, be honest. If these people find out what you're doing (lying), you will only hurt your cause & that of us who truly hope to meet a like-minded, kinky person.
Personally, I think liars have deeper mental issues.... like seeking the approval of others as well as trying to hide or run from something deep inside. Try living an honest life for a change or get professional, psychiatric help. Remember, you usually get what you give in life.

[Philze]

First of all I dont hold contact. These kind of chats happen alot on datingsites. I don't know if you are familiar to them, but I'm pretty shure I dont hurt anyone by chatting 3 days, introducing fetish themes ( to the obligatory sexual themes ) and tell them nicely why I leave.

I apreciate your answers, exactly what I looked for.
But your criticsm isn't suitably for that case.
No one will get bullied
I dont start friendships
The "success" I got in these chats shows up in the way they talk about fetish in the end. Alot of them changed their mind and became much more open minded then they where before. And we dont talk about teenagers who just starting to explore their sexlife. I chat with 25yrs+, these kind of vanilla people who shout " Ehw, gross" to fetish related action. Exactly these people I was able to teach some more free thinking.

[lmind]

Speaking from some experience, the real "danger" here hasn't been emphasized. Keep doing this, and you will eventually meet an amazing, beautiful, exciting, open-minded, potentially kinky partner who seems like an incredible, once-in-a-lifetime match for you... whom you will never be able to have a relationship with, because you started with this lie. Sure, you were just having fun, doing what you see as a public service, not looking for an actual match. But when you accidentally find this person, you will come to the crushing realization that she would have been wonderful for you -- the real you. You two would've had a kinky lifetime of joy together. You might try to come clean, or transform the relationship into something real, but it won't work. And you will regret, for the rest of your life, that you ruined your chance with her, because you lied. It will haunt you.

Learn it now, or learn it the hard way.

-lmind

[Philze]

Good point.
But I'm with a great girl discovering everything we want. I'm in love with her and she knows what I'm doing in these sites. Actually, we chatted both with some over the time.

[Sillyboy]

You don't hurt anyone. So from my point of view, if you like having conversations impersonating another identity, that's fine. :)

I like playing with identities myself (not only online) and I think it's (often) morally fine. But have you asked yourself, why you're really doing it? The cause of changing the way people think of fetishes seems a lot like tilting against windmills. Is it possible that you have different reasons for your 'game'? (and maybe are just looking for an excuse - which I don't think is neccessary at all)

[jackstock]

It's not "wrong" but its also not necessary.
There are PLENTY of people who can rock all kinds of interesting sexual themes. We have an abundance