After so many years of tease and denial, slavery, forced chastity, now, for the last 2 months i have been without any control at all. And no matter how much I jerk and jerk, i simply cannot cum. I feel all the frustration, get all the pain and agony, but nothing.
The most i can hope for is a little dribble as i sleep to relieve some of the pressure.
I am at the end of my rope. Not even following the teases that allow you to come help, and so far, my ex girlfriend just thinks it is funny, and , in her words "What you deserve for having a 3 inch dick"
I just want to feel that release, that plesure, again. I do not know what to do
I finally broke it
Re: I finally broke it
While the internet has some amazing humans and amazing resources on it, including this one... there are times when you have to seek professional help.
Start with a urologist/internist. Get a complete physical workup. You inability to have an orgasm may be do to a physical issue, not do to your play.
Next seek a different type of professional... Don't talk about your past fetishes. Don't mention tease and denial. Just tell the nice lady who offers full service that you haven't come in a long time, you are finding it harder, and you want to see if she can help. This is one of those times where you should pay for two hours up front, so there is no rush. If one doesn't work, see someone else who offers something else. If you are into it, really look into seeing someone who offers StrapOns play or prostate play, since that often helps with great orgasms.
If that doesn't work, see a shrink. Make it someone you can get really open and honest with.
Good Luck!
Alison
Start with a urologist/internist. Get a complete physical workup. You inability to have an orgasm may be do to a physical issue, not do to your play.
Next seek a different type of professional... Don't talk about your past fetishes. Don't mention tease and denial. Just tell the nice lady who offers full service that you haven't come in a long time, you are finding it harder, and you want to see if she can help. This is one of those times where you should pay for two hours up front, so there is no rush. If one doesn't work, see someone else who offers something else. If you are into it, really look into seeing someone who offers StrapOns play or prostate play, since that often helps with great orgasms.
If that doesn't work, see a shrink. Make it someone you can get really open and honest with.
Good Luck!
Alison
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Nika Ferlinghetti
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Re: I finally broke it
A second vote for, see a doctor.
Nika
Nika
Re: I finally broke it
Another vote for see a doctor. You have to make sure that there isn't something physically wrong. Also if you are on any medications, it could be a side effect from one of those. When those drug commercials on tv that say there may be 'certain sexual side effects' this is pretty much what they are talking about, so if you are taking any prescriptions, tell the doctor about them also.
From the little you said, I would guess it is something emotional. Your ex's response would lead me to believe that either you two broke up recently and she still dislikes you as a result, or it was a nasty enough break-up that she still hates you. Either way, some time and space could take care of that.
Sex (and masterbation) is an emotional experience. If your head (the one above your shoulders) isn't into it, then odds are that things won't work out too well. Your whole problem could be something will go away as soon as you meet someone new.
Stress and anxiety also play major roles in not being able to get off (or get 'up'). It then becomes a problem that compounds on itself. You can't get off so you start to get anxious that something is wrong and then it's even harder.
The other thing that pops into my head is that you may just simply be desensitized. It's like if you find a restaurant that serves the best hamburger you've ever had. You go back every day for two weeks and order the burger. By the time the second week is over, you are pretty sick of the burger and it doesn't taste as good anymore. A few months pass and you go back and order the burger, and it tastes great again.
I hope this gives you some info that could help you out, but I do stress that the first thing you should do is see a doctor to make sure it isn't something physical. After that, assuming all is well, I'd see a therapist / psyciatrist / psychoanalyst.
I am not a doctor so don't take my word as if I am. These are just some things that poppe dinto my head.
str0be
From the little you said, I would guess it is something emotional. Your ex's response would lead me to believe that either you two broke up recently and she still dislikes you as a result, or it was a nasty enough break-up that she still hates you. Either way, some time and space could take care of that.
Sex (and masterbation) is an emotional experience. If your head (the one above your shoulders) isn't into it, then odds are that things won't work out too well. Your whole problem could be something will go away as soon as you meet someone new.
Stress and anxiety also play major roles in not being able to get off (or get 'up'). It then becomes a problem that compounds on itself. You can't get off so you start to get anxious that something is wrong and then it's even harder.
The other thing that pops into my head is that you may just simply be desensitized. It's like if you find a restaurant that serves the best hamburger you've ever had. You go back every day for two weeks and order the burger. By the time the second week is over, you are pretty sick of the burger and it doesn't taste as good anymore. A few months pass and you go back and order the burger, and it tastes great again.
I hope this gives you some info that could help you out, but I do stress that the first thing you should do is see a doctor to make sure it isn't something physical. After that, assuming all is well, I'd see a therapist / psyciatrist / psychoanalyst.
I am not a doctor so don't take my word as if I am. These are just some things that poppe dinto my head.
str0be
Re: I finally broke it
and relax about it.
when you were younger it was automatic, no emotion was necessary. as you get older, you adreniline production slows and you get more sensitive and caring and it becomes more necessary to have emotion to have an erection and an orgasm.
set the mood more properly. think in terms of what does it take for a woman to have an orgasm - a whole day of pampering usually. make her feel special. do the same for yourself. once you get there, it'll be easier to return.
when you were younger it was automatic, no emotion was necessary. as you get older, you adreniline production slows and you get more sensitive and caring and it becomes more necessary to have emotion to have an erection and an orgasm.
set the mood more properly. think in terms of what does it take for a woman to have an orgasm - a whole day of pampering usually. make her feel special. do the same for yourself. once you get there, it'll be easier to return.
Re: I finally broke it
Definitely see a doctor and you should include psychologist. Problems with sex (getting hard, having orgasm, etc.) are mainly caused by psychical condition and are therefore very hard to find and overcome.
I agree with str0be.
I agree with str0be.