No more orgasms for me, ever.

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Hello and thank you for reading my post.

I have decided that I need to stop having orgasms. Not just short time for a period of kinky denial, but for the rest of my life.
Why you may ask?

I have a real problem with my own attitude and behaviour post orgasm. I become quite angry and it can last for several days. I also overeat after orgasm as my appetite spirals out of control. I overeat and gain a lot of weight.

After a week or so this behaviour changes and I revert back to my usual passive and normal self. The problem is that after a week I start to crave an orgasm again, and the whole vicious cycle starts again. So I have decided that I must simply stop having orgasms.

I am hoping to achieve this without using a chastity device. It would be impractical in my busy lifestyle and it is also an expense I cannot incur at the moment. I also do not have a keyholder or someone who could act as one. To control my urges I hope to find several webteases to perform, to lessen my urge to orgasm. I am looking for webteases that last about 30 minutes and involve edging, pain and denial. I find that genital pain pacifies me; and I hope that a painful webtease will also leave my genitals too sore to rub to orgasm. I hope that you can recommend some suitable webteases for me?

I would also like to find someone to oversee me in my project to loose the urge to orgasm. Someone who can keep me motivated. Tell me when I am doing well but also chastise me when I am not. You can be male or female, dom of sub as long as you feel you can help me maintain my chasteness. To keep my prostate healthy I will be ruining orgasms on a reducing basis. I think initially one per fortnight eventually leading to one every other month as 2016 comes to an end.

Thank you for reading this, maybe you can be the person who helps me become a better person in 2016.

Tilly.
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Post by mo86on »

I have a same problem with you.
So, I started self denial until Christmas.

It is difficult to suddenly stop to orgasm. I'm trying gradually. You try it, too. :-D
I hope to find a denial method that suits you.
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Hi :)
I dont know what happens with your body after orgasm but its a huge step for you to not have an orgasm for the rest of your life. If i should give you an advice is that you check your levels off different hormons before orgasm and after orgasm to see if that is the cause of you getting angry.
Or is it a psychological thing that you are disappointed in yourself that you did not manage to deny yourself orgasm.

Anyway i think is very drastic to not having orgasm for the rest of your life.
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mo86on

Thank you very much for your reply. It's nice to know that I am not alone in my position.

perik

Thank you too for your reply. I don't think it's a hormone or psychological problem. Most men experience a change post orgasm. In some it's lethargy, in others its an instant loss of libido. I think that my experiences post orgasm are just extremely different from most other people. If I don't experience the orgasm then the extremely negative side effects will not affect me.
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I had a really wonderful experience this morning. I spent an hour carrying out two web teases. I experienced denial and testicular pain in them both. The pain made me feel highly submissive. It has been 10 days (the 3rd December) since my last and hopefully final orgasm. The negative effects have since ebbed away from me.

I had a space of two hours between the web teases and being alone again. When I was I took full advantage of it.
I stripped and knelt on the floor. Placed a clothes peg on each nipple and started to quickly masturbate. It took less than 90 seconds before I felt the orgasm build. I stopped and after a few seconds I started to pump, without pleasure, semen from my cock. It was wonderful. It took almost 30 seconds for me to stop pumping semen. I caught it in a tissue that I had shaped in a small bowl.

Next I took my toothbrush and rolled it in the pool of semen. I closed my eyes and put it straight into my mouth and started to brush my teeth with it. After a minute of brushing I had a mouth filled with a semen flavoured mousse.

I am doing this because when I eventually am able to exist on one ruined every two months I want it to be going straight into my mouth, so I need a way to get used to the taste and texture. It is working. There is now way I could ever do this if I had ejaculated with orgasm.

I removed the clothes pegs by twisting them until they popped off, with a painful snap.

Time to use the loo and to shower. As I had opened by bowels I knew I was ready for some finger fucking in the shower. I knelt on the floor and gave my little hole some pleasure for a few minutes before showering off whilst remaining on my knees.

So now, a few hours later I feel calm, relaxed and submissive. It's a lovely feeling that will last until I decide I need to orgasm again. This is when I will once again turn to the painful web teases to surpress my desires.

Thank you all for reading.

Tilly x
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Post by jackstock »

This is well known in Taoist sexuality that ejaculation can cause these feelings. Add on top of that, emotional trauma, and you have something that seems to really get in the way of your happiness and alignment.
There are methods that you can use to ease this suffering, prevent ejaculation in a healthy way, and even feel better after you ejaculate.
These methods are (to name a few):
Abdominal breathing
PC pullups
Venting

one of the best texts on the subject can be found here for free:
http://lipn.univ-paris13.fr/~duchamp/Bo ... ic_Man.pdf
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Jackstock

Thank you very much for your reply. I have had a look at the document the link points to. For me it's a little too spiritual in parts for my liking, and that is not what I am looking for. Although I am enjoying reading the science and biology elements of the publication. If I could guarantee that not ejaculating at all, either with or without orgasm would not damage my prostate then I would try my best to cease immediately. What my ideal regimen is, is to stimulate myself just a few times a year to maintain the health of the prostate.

Thanks again for replying.

Tilly x
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