Erotic Humiliation

[CruelNatalie]

I believe that few people really understand why erotic humiliation is sexy or arousing for some people. Its pretty hard to wrap your head around why someone wants to be laughed at or find the act of wearing panties sexual. Some guys need humiliating acts to be thrown into submission.

anyhow, I'm just curious how many of you enjoy it and why. Tell me about your scene and what really makes it so hot for you. I'd really love to know.

[CruelNatalie]

I especially love humiliation when other people are around. Mistress friends, public humiliation, etc

[Turtle]

Once, back in my childhood, I got sexually humiliated by another boy. It was actually a pretty trivial thing that I'd feel silly describing. At that moment, however, this bully had me totally cowed. I remember my arms felt like wet noodles. He could've done whatever he wanted. The worst part...? Some bit of me must've liked it -- because I provoked the bully into dishing out seconds!

In any event, since that day I've been excited by erotic humiliation -- the fantasy of it, at least. Most of my life has been pure vanilla. Still, I've always had a craving for that same experience; it remains a kinky itch I'll never be able to scratch.

[alicexx]

Always kinda liked it in a teasing way, little degrading way, mostly with names and just being talked down to a bit. Tends to make me very meek. Not sure I like it in the way Turtle describes though.

[aka_ireland]

For me, it isn't about being degraded, it is about amusing the "audience". It could be the rush of power they get by someone follow their commands, or that the humor and general silliness, or they are turned on by the act.

It is certainly a contradictory form of arousal for me. I do not like embarrassment or humiliation out in my normal life. But in a sexual situation, with a dominant mistress, or my wife in a playful mood (she is not really dominant even when do play at it).

As I explore submission and different forms it takes (spanking, pain, humiliation, chastity) I believe it is really about attention. Being the focus, and your sexuality being the focus, of someone's attention is arousing. So be it pleasure or pain, humiliation, or even denial, the attention is some of what I crave.

Being dominant is similar, but I don't think I have explored that as much to know it as well.

[CruelNatalie]

all very interesting comments. There are so many layers to it. It would be really hard to pin point one thing. Its easier to describe how it makes you feel then why.

I took a fully dressed sissy into a supermarket with me once. I'm talking about party dress, mary janes, rumba panties, the works! I had to secure my own limits because it wasn't just about his limits but how I would feel being with him, clearly in control. Its an odd rush when you do public scenes. I admit that I'm addicted to it.

[stallionBoi]

Trying to really get down to why erotic humiliation is arousing, and it keeps taking me back to how our preferences and desires often seem to be shaped by our first encounters. My experiences are similar to the classic "Junior High Tease", with a lot less touching, and a lot more teasing...

When I was about 12, I was hopelessly pre-occupied with a girl who saw me only as a friend. However, one of her friends took a liking to me, always trying to cuddle up beside me, and resting her head on my shoulder in public. I kinda enjoyed it, but it was awkward because the girl I liked was always with us. That's probably my first experience of feeling embarrassed and excited at the same time...

As we moved into our teen years, the young females in town settled for beta males, since the alphas weren't as desirable. This created a dynamic of incredibly powerful and influential young women. Around the same time, a few "experienced" girls of the same age had moved to our small neighborhood from bigger cities, and brought with them their teasing ways and naughty wardrobes, which seemed to have an immediate influence the local females.

Two or three girls would catch a guy off guard, boldly asking him embarrassing questions:
"Do you look at your penis when you wash it?"
"How do you wash your penis without playing with it?"
"Do you have wet dreams?"
"How often do you masturbate?"
"Which one of your balls hangs lower?"
"Do you have a bald dick?"
"Are you circumcised?"

All the while, the girls would be smiling and giggling uncontrollably, wiggling in their cute outfits. Dumbstruck and mesmerized, I definitely didn't care for the humiliation factor at the time... But the arousal from female attention towards my genitalia, their cute voices laughing, and subject matter definitely made me horny.

Some girls would "force" boys to wear their panties and thong underwear, either on a dare, or on a whim, seeming to enjoy the discomfort experienced by the males. Other girls would wander into the guys change room after our games, shamelessly curious over which guys have the biggest penises. Us guys suddenly don't feel so macho when we're sitting down, half naked or in our underwear, and fully clothed young women are standing over us, sizing us up. It felt rather emasculating, but we never seemed eager to get them to leave.

It's been stated before that sexual arousal can feel just as good as sexual gratification. So when our first sexual experiences involve bits of erotic humiliation, I think it's only natural to crave that same feeling later on in life.

As an adult, I've grown to become a dominant male athlete on the field... But what ultimately excites me in the bedroom is being helplessly tied up, and submitting to the whims of a petite girl-on-top who mercilessly teases my cock, uses it to get herself off, then leaves me horny, pathetically dripping and begging for more... All the while verbally teasing me about the cock that she owns and controls.

I'm not overly big on public humiliation. I do enjoy it when she grabs my cock/balls, or slaps my ass in public. I also don't mind being a bit exposed and treated like a boy toy in front of her friends. It always gets me flushed, at a loss for words, but definitely enjoying the attention at the same time...

These are just a few experiences that explore humiliation being associated with arousal. It's especially delicious how the perpetual cycle of embarrassment and arousal can continue for hours...

[CruelNatalie]

Trying to really get down to why erotic humiliation is arousing, and it keeps taking me back to how our preferences and desires often seem to be shaped by our first encounters. My experiences are similar to the classic "Junior High Tease", with a lot less touching, and a lot more teasing...

When I was about 12, I was hopelessly pre-occupied with a girl who saw me only as a friend. However, one of her friends took a liking to me, always trying to cuddle up beside me, and resting her head on my shoulder in public. I kinda enjoyed it, but it was awkward because the girl I liked was always with us. That's probably my first experience of feeling embarrassed and excited at the same time...

As we moved into our teen years, the young females in town settled for beta males, since the alphas weren't as desirable. This created a dynamic of incredibly powerful and influential young women. Around the same time, a few "experienced" girls of the same age had moved to our small neighborhood from bigger cities, and brought with them their teasing ways and naughty wardrobes, which seemed to have an immediate influence the local females.

Two or three girls would catch a guy off guard, boldly asking him embarrassing questions:
"Do you look at your penis when you wash it?"
"How do you wash your penis without playing with it?"
"Do you have wet dreams?"
"How often do you masturbate?"
"Which one of your balls hangs lower?"
"Do you have a bald dick?"
"Are you circumcised?"

All the while, the girls would be smiling and giggling uncontrollably, wiggling in their cute outfits. Dumbstruck and mesmerized, I definitely didn't care for the humiliation factor at the time... But the arousal from female attention towards my genitalia, their cute voices laughing, and subject matter definitely made me horny.

Some girls would "force" boys to wear their panties and thong underwear, either on a dare, or on a whim, seeming to enjoy the discomfort experienced by the males. Other girls would wander into the guys change room after our games, shamelessly curious over which guys have the biggest penises. Us guys suddenly don't feel so macho when we're sitting down, half naked or in our underwear, and fully clothed young women are standing over us, sizing us up. It felt rather emasculating, but we never seemed eager to get them to leave.

It's been stated before that sexual arousal can feel just as good as sexual gratification. So when our first sexual experiences involve bits of erotic humiliation, I think it's only natural to crave that same feeling later on in life.

As an adult, I've grown to become a dominant male athlete on the field... But what ultimately excites me in the bedroom is being helplessly tied up, and submitting to the whims of a petite girl-on-top who mercilessly teases my cock, uses it to get herself off, then leaves me horny, pathetically dripping and begging for more... All the while verbally teasing me about the cock that she owns and controls.

I'm not overly big on public humiliation. I do enjoy it when she grabs my cock/balls, or slaps my ass in public. I also don't mind being a bit exposed and treated like a boy toy in front of her friends. It always gets me flushed, at a loss for words, but definitely enjoying the attention at the same time...

These are just a few experiences that explore humiliation being associated with arousal. It's especially delicious how the perpetual cycle of embarrassment and arousal can continue for hours...

I totally loved this. Sounds like me growing up. I made boys do the most awful things

[Human]

Other girls would wander into the guys change room after our games, shamelessly curious over which guys have the biggest penises. Us guys suddenly don't feel so macho when we're sitting down, half naked or in our underwear, and fully clothed young women are standing over us, sizing us up. It felt rather emasculating,

If a boy did to girls, he would be dismissed/suspended from school, and probably made to register as a sex offender.

Just saying.

[jackstock]

It's been stated before that sexual arousal can feel just as good as sexual gratification. So when our first sexual experiences involve bits of erotic humiliation, I think it's only natural to crave that same feeling later on in life.

Bang on to what I was thinking.

I think our minds force us to relive our emotionally charged experiences over and over again so that we can learn from them, grow, accept, and understand these feelings.

Its almost used as a way of healing these memories.
Almost.