30 Day denial challenge

[tantricforever]

*or a discussion about them*

Last updated on Feb 21th, 2015
Leaderboard:
EasilyStopped - 2471 points, finished on day 12.
TantricForever - 2450 points, finished on day 23. :(
New players are welcome or play on your own!

Goal:
Last for 30 days without cumming while withstanding as much stimulation as possible.

Scoring:
1 points per minute alone (CH video or otherwise)
2 points per minute working with a partner
+50 per day you last
+1000 if you last all 30 days
*The main idea of this vs. just a day count is to factor in your actual activity.
Having hot sex for an hour each day is going to make not cumming for a week a lot harder vs. a week where you are working 80 hours with no time for anything else.


Losing a Battle:
You lose if you cum (obviously) or go an entire day without at least one edge.

Small Victory:
If your score was higher then any previous attempt you win. This is a journey and as long as you are progressing you are winning.

Ultimate Victory:
Last 30 days.

How high can you score before 30 days are up? Or more realistically how many points before you lose.

I've never completed this myself. The best so far is 10-14 days but then rationale thinking starts to break down and that eventually leads to a slip.

Fun Variations:
Let a partner decide how many days. Or at a whim, but try to increase the duration vs. the last round played.

Not Hard Enough?
If all this sounds far to easy then you could end each night by watching RedGreenEdging or Frenzy by Ms. Julie. Then you go to bed for a relaxing nights sleep.


Post your thoughts or scores!

[SexualChoc]

30.. days?

MY 2014 challenge lasted 70 days...

I am personally trying to go for.. over 100...


and I have heard reports of people who have gone longer than 1 year!!

[tantricforever]

30.. days?

MY 2014 challenge lasted 70 days...

I am personally trying to go for.. over 100...


and I have heard reports of people who have gone longer than 1 year!!

Alright then. ;)
I edited the thread title to be more appropriate.

Did you edge everyday for the 70? Or maybe just in a situation where you are specifically choosing to hold it back vs. not having the opportunity.

[SexualChoc]

Did you edge everyday for the 70? Or maybe just in a situation where you are specifically choosing to hold it back vs. not having the opportunity.

to answer your question
I am posting a link to the tease:
http://www.milovana.com/webteases/showt ... p?id=24105

enjoy!

[Nezhul]

30.. days?

MY 2014 challenge lasted 70 days...

I am personally trying to go for.. over 100...


and I have heard reports of people who have gone longer than 1 year!!

Let me ask you one thing about that though, because I always wondered. Does it stay being interesting when you don't cum for that long? Because personally I'v gone 30 days the most without orgasm, and what I have experienced is that I got to a point where the frustration didn't actually increase, and rather started being more and more tolerable over time, and the last 2 weeks I was finding it FAR easier to go about my day than the first weeks.
So I'm kinda wondering, what's the point? If I like denial, than the thing I'm mostly after is that burning rage of emotions when you go from cumming every day to not cumming for a few weeks. Ok, I'm feeling I'm not good at explaining this at all. So let me try again:
Does it get somehow better and better for you the longer you are denied, or are you doing extended periods simply to reach som kind of goal, but it becomes pretty monotone after a while?
Call me casual, but I don't see a point in extending denial if it doesn't add up to something other than day count.

[tantricforever]

I'm interested in this also. Particularly since I've not yet managed to hit the 15 day mark. It's pretty much a solid ramp of craziness until I can't take it anymore. I'd hate for that to ramp back down again where days 16-30 are easier then 8-13. The fun/challenge is in dealing with that intensity and if lessened then I'd consider the challenge complete and end it.

My expectation is that it depends how you spend your days. I've gone a week or 10 days without cumming when life is busy and there just isn't time for these fun distractions. There we no challenge in denying myself through that period nor did I even think about it.

Now if I'm having frequent sex with my wife and/or watching a lot of porn/CH every day then even hitting 4-5 days is difficult. That was the primary reason for requiring at least 1 edge everyday through the challenge and a scoring system directly connected to active stimulation.

[A]

30.. days?

MY 2014 challenge lasted 70 days...

I am personally trying to go for.. over 100...


and I have heard reports of people who have gone longer than 1 year!!

Let me ask you one thing about that though, because I always wondered. Does it stay being interesting when you don't cum for that long? Because personally I'v gone 30 days the most without orgasm, and what I have experienced is that I got to a point where the frustration didn't actually increase, and rather started being more and more tolerable over time, and the last 2 weeks I was finding it FAR easier to go about my day than the first weeks.
So I'm kinda wondering, what's the point? If I like denial, than the thing I'm mostly after is that burning rage of emotions when you go from cumming every day to not cumming for a few weeks. Ok, I'm feeling I'm not good at explaining this at all. So let me try again:
Does it get somehow better and better for you the longer you are denied, or are you doing extended periods simply to reach som kind of goal, but it becomes pretty monotone after a while?
Call me casual, but I don't see a point in extending denial if it doesn't add up to something other than day count.

Hi, my two cents on it, if I may...

For me it gets easier after first couple weeks, yes. And then it goes easy for like two weeks, then it's hard again for few days, then easy again for a while and so on. It might be just me but I find that it is not an even ride for me. Sometimes there are ups and sometimes there are downs for how much horny I am or how bad I wanna orgasm. I don't know is it mental or are those just my hormone levels that are fluctuating but it's like that. Horny periods are way shorter than easy periods tho. But when I get back to horny mode it's so much harder than first few weeks because I know how long it's been and it makes me even more horny - the thought of it.

Speaking of thought, for some people the day count is what turns them on. How long it's been, how long it's still left. Just thinking of all those days on a clock makes them horny. It's about the fantasy and not so much about hormone levels. It works a little bit for me too. And I never had a dom, but for those who have a dom it might be about surrender what turns them on. Like the idea that it's not you who decide how long it's gonna be but your dom. And even if you don't enjoy it as much if it goes for longer it's still not up to you to decide when to stop because you choose to gave up that control, that's arousing.

So I still enjoy it when I go for longer. Maybe not so much just pure physical arousal due to hormone levels , like for the first few weeks, but different aspects of it - the mental arousal, if that makes sense.

[tantricforever]

Thanks for sharing your experience. It's nice to hear there is more to endure, if I can last that long.

I was doing another round when I started this thread although that ended last night. About 10 days, that 10-14 mark is really hard. I let my wife decide when I've had enough and she wants to finish me off. It might be that she has just had enough of me... and wants a little break.

The hormone levels makes sense. If I think through my past there are times where I'm a lot more horny then others for not real apparent reasons. A natural cycle makes sense.

Do you edge once a day during your denial periods?

[EasilyStopped]

I'll give this a try. I've personally been trying to get away from denial and just enjoy cumming, but it will be fun to take some time off. I can go a week, but after two weeks my balls will be dragging on the ground (plus I'll start to risk wet dreams).

My only worry is my girlfriend. If she's in the mood, this is all over, since I'm not going to explain that I'm in a denial contest.

[A]

Do you edge once a day during your denial periods?

I don't have a schedule. Sometimes I edge once, some days I do not edge at all, sometimes I edge like 20 times or more. I have to be careful with edging too much cos as edge count increases my will power decreases, so I have to be careful with playing too much. Some days I am so horny that I can not even edge once because I know that I won't be able to hold back so I'm just on no touch or something, or just don't edge.

Speaking of no touch, that's another thing to have fun with when you go for long periods of time. I find that edging and not cumming becomes easier, like we talked above, but I still wanna touch there. And setting the rule up that you can not for certain amount of time, not even when peeing, washing or anything like that, is another fun struggle and reminds me that I am actually in denial even when I don't edge or on days when I don't really wanna cum that much.

[tantricforever]

@EasilyStopped
Great! Maybe you could let your girlfriend decide when the game ends. Not sure how much she is into 'denial' specifically but you could just position it as "This way I'm staying super horny for you. Hope you don't mind that you are going to be in my head 24/7". I'd expect she would be onboard with that strategy.

@A
Edging to much will definitely be the end of the denial period. Although that struggle and pushing yourself to the limit is exactly what makes this whole thing fun for me. I've never tried a 'no touch'. Maybe that would be fun once just to prove that I could do it... but I couldn't imagine doing that ongoing, doesn't sound fun.

[EasilyStopped]

@EasilyStopped
Great! Maybe you could let your girlfriend decide when the game ends. Not sure how much she is into 'denial' specifically but you could just position it as "This way I'm staying super horny for you. Hope you don't mind that you are going to be in my head 24/7". I'd expect she would be onboard with that strategy.

She's not. She's has no kink whatsoever. She's so vanilla she needs a safeword for missionary. Luckily, she has such a low sex drive that it probably won't come up during the course of the month--I tell myself she's secretly into denial and that makes it hot instead of disappointing.

I'm at 642 since Tuesday. I almost had a wet dream last night (I came in the dream but not in real life), and I'd like to hear a clarification of the rules. I personally start to get wet dreams between one and two weeks and it would be more a matter of luck than discipline to carry on beyond that point.

[tantricforever]

She's not. She's has no kink whatsoever. She's so vanilla she needs a safeword for missionary.

LOL!

I'll let you decide on the wet dream issue. I've had the problem myself when I first started trying this denial stuff but it seems to have gone away. For me it would be the end since that release completely changes the dynamics and challenge of the game. However, this is a game that you are really playing against yourself, ideally with the goal to improve upon past tries. With all that in mind you can decide how the rules should apply to your case.

[EasilyStopped]

She's not. She's has no kink whatsoever. She's so vanilla she needs a safeword for missionary.

LOL!

I'll let you decide on the wet dream issue. I've had the problem myself when I first started trying this denial stuff but it seems to have gone away. For me it would be the end since that release completely changes the dynamics and challenge of the game. However, this is a game that you are really playing against yourself, ideally with the goal to improve upon past tries. With all that in mind you can decide how the rules should apply to to your case.

I'll probably just ignore it and not count it as a loss. For me, wet dreams are worse than a ruined orgasm because I don't get any sensation or relief or memory of the dream, I just wake up with a mess (and the knowledge that my next orgasm is going to be less satisfying because I've reduced the volume).

I'm at 1430 and still going strong. I'd be curious to know how others are doing, if anybody else is playing.

[tantricforever]

1430 is an awesome score! How many days in are you?

I'm still early on my next round. Day 5 with around 650 points. [hard to always track time exactly]
It's just starting to edge into the 'distracting to the normal day' point but still easily manageable point.

Hard to say if anyone else is playing. The vast majority of people visiting the site never sign up or post.

I really appreciate you taking the time to try it out and sharing. It's great to know that at least 1 person is enjoying challenge.

Have you watched the Ms. Julies, videos?

Those get really fun (and difficult) as the days & point counts grow larger.