girlfriend's denying me

[vemo]

hi i was just looking for some advice, me and my gf are long distance and will be for at least another 6 months, but for about week now she's started stopping me from masturbating, it was my idea but shes enjoying it, only she says she doesnt want 2 b so cruel its actually mean, at the minute i havent cummed for 2 days and i won't get release till thursday at the earliest but i'd like to see her get really mean with it, i was just wondering if anyone could me with this, like will she get more and more mean, like we only started mentioning stuff like bondage etc about a month ago and it keeps getting more and more, but would anyone has any ideas as to her to make her want to actually be mean, any ideas would be great thanks

[texturedshroom]

I would suggest buying her the book "The Good Girl's Guide to Female Dominance."

[subhubby]

The mere fact that she's participating in this fantasy of yours (and enjoying it!) is a gift. I would urge you to resist the temptation to nudge her, especially in any direction contrary to her nature. She sounds like a winner. Be patient, and it's likely that her open-mindedness, combined with her enjoyment will lead naturally to increased dominance and mutual satisfaction. Just let it be on her terms. She knows your kink.

[RoniDev]

why dont you just masturbate when she is not near? or does she control you 24 hours a day? On the other side maybe you should tell her to buy a chastity belt for you. Would be fun wouldnt it? ;)

[Nika Ferlinghetti]

Be a patient wanker (or is that an oxymoron?)

She is who she is. Don't spoil this wonderful gift by being a bad and demanding subbie.

Now, that the lecture is out of the way. Assure her frequently that you enjoy this. Shower her with affection and attention the longer the denial goes. Reward her for controlling you.

In time, when the topic is more comfortable, I second shroomies suggestion about the book.

But...

BE A PATIENT WANKER!

Lecture's over.

Nika

[A_Rouselle]

My advice is to be honest,

Next time you are in a *session* and she brings up the possibility of orgasm, or asks how your arousal levels are, tell her the truth. The thought of the denial, the thought of the extended denial, the thought of her controlling the denial, has been the most exciting sexual encounter you have had.

And echoing others comments regarding the pushy'ness.

[webmaster007]

I think Nika is right on the mark. My girlfriend took a long time and a bunch of gentle nudging over a period of *years* to get her into it. If you reward her "good" behavior and "punish" (being less agreeable/helpful/etc., but NOT acting like a dick about it) when she doesn't torment you as long she should get the idea. I just let it slip out, boy if you'd have gone on any longer I'd have been begging you to <insert chore here>.

As to your question about will she get meaner? I was tormented for about 2 days the first time. After she figured out that I was much more...receptive...to what she asked me to do my current punishment is no cumming without permission for 2 weeks. I'm on day 4 and she's been tormenting me even in the mornings before work just so she knows I'll be thinking about it all day. Heck, day 2 she woke me up by playing with me, said she'd let me inside her, got me in half way, then told me "Oops, you'll be late for work. Sorry." Hard day.

[Devotee]

i think the fact that she likes doing this and is slowly getting more interested tells you that getting mean about is coming. just keep playing the way you are and you'll get what you want.