Psychological Forensics

[onetouch23]

Hey People,

I've been a lurker here and on similar sites almost relating to tease and denial for a good 5-6 years now (probably longer). Aside from a few exceptions i've never really been an active member of the community. Personally, I think i've discovered that its somewhat of an intellectual pursuit, although obviously its rooted in physical pleasure. I have my own ideas about why people are drawn to and become obsessed with the idea of tease and denial, but I was hoping to hear some other opinions. I think as a rule, tease and denial fetishists (male and female, dominant and submissive) are intelligent people, so I'm looking forward to seeing what people think.

OT23

[Foxhawke]

I think the biggest draw of the Tease & Denial concept, for me, is the fact that it's something different that I can engage in myself, even though I'm single. It makes my sex life (if you ca call it that. ) quite a bit more interesting then just watching porn and wanking it.

[Nikki]

Hey People,

I've been a lurker here and on similar sites almost relating to tease and denial for a good 5-6 years now (probably longer). Aside from a few exceptions i've never really been an active member of the community. Personally, I think i've discovered that its somewhat of an intellectual pursuit, although obviously its rooted in physical pleasure. I have my own ideas about why people are drawn to and become obsessed with the idea of tease and denial, but I was hoping to hear some other opinions. I think as a rule, tease and denial fetishists (male and female, dominant and submissive) are intelligent people, so I'm looking forward to seeing what people think.

OT23

Great question.. I asked this awhile back and got some very diverse and (like you mentioned) intellectual answers. If you don't mind (too late if you do) I will repost some of those here as these people are not members here but have some great input to your question:

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Almost every morning my lover would wake me. Lying next to me on my left, she would trap my left arm under her body and my left leg between her legs. In our minds I was helpless, completely at her mercy. With one hand she tickled my balls and touched them at a special "you are mine" place. With her other hand she attended to my cock. Just as it is not (primarily) the words Nikki says, but the way she says them ~ the fact that she knows that she can do what she wants to me with her voice ~ that puts her in control of me. So too my lover left me no doubt that she was totally in control.

She excited me more and more until I "knew" that I couldn't bear any more. Then she demonstrated that I didn't have any choice! She continued to "torture" me with (almost) unbearable pleasure until I was right on the edge ... and then she stopped without letting me cum! She let me start to recover, to feel relief.

Then before I was "ready" for it, she started again ~ showing me that not only could she excite me beyond what I thought I could bear, not only could she prevent me from having orgasmic release from her "torture", she could also decide for me when I had relaxed "enough". She showed me that she was in total control!

She brought me to the edge again and again and again! Oh God!

After she discovered that being brought to the edge again and again was more powerful for me than an orgasm, she didn't bring me to orgasm every day. And when she did, it wasn't that she let me have an orgasm ~ it was that she made me have an orgasm! When she decided that I was going to have an orgasm, I didn't have any choice. Once again she demonstrated her control.

Of course, there were times as well when I gave her the pleasure of being brought repeatedly to the edge.

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I have been involved in a D/s relationship wife my wife for over 8 years. Prior to that I have several relationships including some that were with professionals and each of these involved some form of T & D.

For me these parts of the sexual experience were purely to heighten the final orgasm. It may have been that the final orgasm happened within a few hours or in some cases several days. In each case the T & D was only a tool used by the dominant to heighten my arousal and enjoyment but at the same time secure their position as the dominant. I could not, was not allowed to and would not cum until the dominant allowed it.

For me then the arousal brought on by the T & D and the control exhibited over me by the dominant played directly to my fantasy and enjoyment.

The term Tease and Denial for me does not mean, no orgasm forever but just that by giving my control over to the dominant and allowing their control to dictate when and if I cum, I gain greater enjoyment.

Part of it is that always even at the back of my mind I enjoy the thought of not being in control and letting the dominant, in this case you, choose my fate. Ultimately I trust that I will be allowed release when you or the dominant determine is the correct time.

This for me then is the D/s lifestyle I like to live. My wife, my dominant in everyday things, fully understands this control and although she enjoys using Tease and Denial she will often force me to cum when I don’t want to as action to solidify that she is in charge. I guess you could call this milking as being the opposite of T & D.

If I profess to enjoy being the submissive then ultimately I must realize that denial is part of that relationship and position. If that is true then the tease or arousal is part also. Ultimately by being the submissive I agree to be teased, aroused, used and denied and am under the control of the dominant.

If FRENZY places me on the edge and is T & D then it can doing nothing but make me sexually aroused and begging. If also this control can be placed in the hands of my Mistress then for me this becomes one of many useful tools that can be utilized for me to enjoy my role more.

I hope this explains what T & D means to me.

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Hi there,

I am pretty new here, thought I'd sy hi and throw in my/our experiences with T & D.

I have been into this T & D for at least 10 years now, and I really scored when I introduced it to my wife 4 years ago before we got married. She saw the benefits of taking the control as well as the pleasure that it gives to me right away.

I have found that it is an intense way to have my sexual arousal heightened to extreme levels, even when I normally would not be aroused. It keeps that sexual "buzz" at such a very high level, even when there is nothing erotic happening, or sexual stimulation for that matter.

Having that "buzz" going on constanly, all day long is awesome. It just keeps me in that "I have the chills running thrugh my whole body" feeling - all the time.

Now, we are not into super long term denial, as some folks are. I seem to hit a wall after the 3rd week and really lose interest. It's almost like the body says to itself "guess we're not gonna get any so why even try?" It's weird.

Typically we will go for a few days and then let loose and start all over again. My wife mixes it all up depending on her mood as well as what's happening in life at that particular time.

We also play around with chastity devices which add to the "fun."

So for us, T & D is just a wonderful way to heighten, increase and prolong the erotic sexual feelings that I get when brought closer and closer to climaxing. (Gawd, I am just dripping right now thinking about this )

The orgasm that comes after a good session or extended period of T & D is quite mind blowing and keeps us coming back for more.

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[Atma]

For me:

There is the simple extension of the arousal and stimulation phases of sex. They are very pleasurable in their own rights. Being on the edge is kind of like savoring a candy instead of just chewing it down right away.

There is also the sweet, soft, helpless, and playful feeling of being toyed with. I think of it as a fun sexy game rather than being tortured and beat up.

[Marke]

I've sai this before, but the biggest sex organ is the one between the ears and when you can get that working ...

And a great way to exercise that organ is with T&D.

[onetouch23]

Good stuff. Thanks for the repost and to the people who shared.

[Devotee]

oh the relationship level, T&D can bring two people closer together as it requires teh Teaser to show an interest in the prolonged sexual pleasure of the Denied. Number one relationship builder is to show interest, sex being the greatest pleasure, that's the best place to show interest.