Please note.. This is a post that has absolutely nothing sexual in nature.. So if searching for something to titillate, tease, or torment.. Sorry. This one is to make people think.
Since joining the Milo community late last year, I have been incredibly fortunate in discovering the best treasures of this site.. The people.
I know many people have different views of who I am.. Manic magic guy, tease, sub, dom... Whatever... But what I have taken the greatest delight in being to many people here is "friend". Sometimes a good one, sometimes one who has made mistakes.. But always with good intent.
Which is why I am saddened by what is too often happening here. Recently I had a conversation with someone here who believed it was okay to bully and harass others here because, as they said it, it's not real.. "It's just the internet". Wow.. I am still amazed at how wrong that view can be. There are real people behind every name on Milo.. And many of them are hurting, lonely, wounded, or confused. And every one of them, even the people I myself disagree with at times, is deserving of respect and a fresh chance.
I spoke with someone yesterday about how we see each other through "dirty glasses", views that are affected by events in our own lives, by others we are reminded of by someone new, or just a bad first impression. It is my strong desire that we could take those glasses off and allow ourselves to see those we're in conflict with using fresh eyes.. A more.. Human view.
I am aware many will feel I am being simplistic and naive. Politics will always be there and some people will always be difficult. Another very long conversation recently focussed on just that. Ironically, once I revealed a few things I was so encouraged to see this wonderful person look at others with new eyes. Unfortunately she is still caught in the trap of having others look at her poorly. But here are the few things...
I have been so fortunate to get to know so many member's real stories.. So I get to sometimes see what others dont. I know that one night recently that one person entered chat and was perceived as being bitchy and irritable, they were also messaging me scared out of their minds because they were literally living a nightmarish night where gunshots were happening right outside their living room window because of where they lived.. They came on milo to distract themselves. They werent bitchy, they were scared.
I have daily heard others speak of how ridiculously "easy" others have it because they have "stuff" or "someone"... Funny thing is, I know the others too. The hours you think theyre in pm land and thats why they're so quiet in lounge.. theyre not.. They're lonely and dont know what to say. The person with all the stuff? Also struggling with physical illness or family issues you wouldnt wish on your worst enemy. And sometimes.. Just sometimes.. that person that totally rubs you the wrong way in chat? They can end up becoming one of your best friends.
But that only happens if we can stop swinging swords of righteousness and "I'm right and they're wrong" and instead show each other the grace, acceptance, and understanding that this entire site was created to embrace. For those that enter, there are very very sexy sides of Milo.. And I enjoy those as much as anyone... But Milo is NOT a sex site.. It's a community. Please, consider today taking off the dirty glasses of previous experience, personal baggage, or wrong assumptions and finding the treasures I have been so fortunate to find.
Thanks for reading .. You may now resume your sexy lives.
