Failed attempts

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Failed attempts

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I was talking to someone through Skype earlier. I'd googled their username and found that they were in fact a guy who wishes he was a girl. I decided that balls to it, I never had a play partner before so if he's not going to mention it I can just pretend too, because why not? Before anything even happened I was told to make an account with some website. It turned out to be one of those sneaky websites, where you get forced to make a decent profile before you can do anything. Then once that's done, you need to pay 30 dollars a month before doing anything.
''Remember slave, you're proving your devotion to me'' - what the hell? Wed been talking like 20 minutes, there ain't any devotion bitch.
When I told 'her' I wasn't willing to pay 30 for a fetish dating website, especially when I'm already talking to someone.
''Wtf? Are you playing with me? Get lost''.

This was my first time almost playing with someone, and it turned out they only saw me as a potential customer to probably get some commission or something. Considering how vastly outnumbered female doms are to male subs, are we often treated like this? I know many people call themselves 'findoms' and that's fair enough, I don't agree with it, but at least they're not being sneaky about it.
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Re: Failed attempts

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Your not going to find anyone doing it for free. Unless its a relationship you start in real life, this hobby will cost you a pretty penny.

But that said, you get what you pay for, I've had a couple of sessions with people from collarme.com and from akashaweb. People from collar me all want you to sign up on bdsm.com for a month, costs $30 dollars. Akasha is $125 a week. And from experience I can tell you that the week with Akasha was better than any month people from collarme offered.
MyFreeCams: Great free cam site! Lot of girls who love teasing!

Protip: Use https://mega.co.nz/ for uploads.
Won't need to upload it anywhere else because it doesn't have the shitty restrictions all the others have. Besides emp, some people like seeding there, so keep that.
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That's what I was worried about, tbone. I want the relationship aspect of it, and all I see are whores and clients.
If I wanted to pay for ''sessions'' I'd just hire a dominatrix out of a newspaper lol.

I don't have the guts to find a vanilla girlfriend and tell her about this stuff.
I have spent my whole life scared – frightened of things that could happen, might happen, might not happen. Fifty years I spent like that. Finding myself awake at three in the morning. But you know what? Ever since my diagnosis, I sleep just fine.
What I came to realize is that fear, that's the worst of it. That's the real enemy. So, get up, get out in the real world and you kick that bastard as hard as you can right in the teeth.
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Re: Failed attempts

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Well said tBone.

I have come across plenty of chatters, they post their link and the next thing you know your at a membership site.

Tried any meetings cousin? munch meetings?
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The only munch I know of nearby doesn't appear to have anything I'm looking for. Been psyching myself up to go anyway, can't hurt to get your face seen around ''the scene''. Just seems to mostly be transexuals or transvestites or however you say it without hurting some feelings
I have spent my whole life scared – frightened of things that could happen, might happen, might not happen. Fifty years I spent like that. Finding myself awake at three in the morning. But you know what? Ever since my diagnosis, I sleep just fine.
What I came to realize is that fear, that's the worst of it. That's the real enemy. So, get up, get out in the real world and you kick that bastard as hard as you can right in the teeth.
- Walter White, Breaking Bad
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Re: Failed attempts

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Yeah. It's going to cost you. The females are outnumber VASTLY by males. So too bad.
If you're playing with a female, that cost is going to be part of the playing. If you're going to be a true sub, you will please her in any way she wants
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