Feminine Authority & Control

[CruelNatalie]

This is a topic on my blog that I wanted to post here and get some feed back.


I have a reoccurring dream. In my dream there is a village of women who control a collection of males. The women are superior and strict yet loving. If you can imagine how a conscious farmer treats his animals providing the best care for his property knowing they have a special purpose. He wants them to have the best life possible because he feels it is his responsibility no matter the final outcome. Perhaps this is an extreme example but I wanted you to understand the base dynamic. I can care for you, love you and help you to be the best you can be so you can be that for me. Although I am selfish this way I also am compassionate and a deeply spiritual woman. When you take as much as I do from the world it's your responsibility to give back.

My dream is like a movie. Each time it plays like a movie. There are all ages, shapes and color of women. They all live the life of a Goddess and each is attended to by at least two males. The males wear a type of loin cloth and stainless steel collars. Each has a number. If you pulled into the village you'd see them in the fields growing food, fixing roads and building. There are also male servants, bulls used for pleasure and producing sperm. It's a very complex dream. Some might cringe at how far it goes, however it not only turns me on incredibly but brings me such peace. I've woke up in the middle of the night needing to masturbate. I always orgasm quickly.



All males are fitted with stainless steel chastity tubes that slide over their cocks and lock tightly. They are never permitted to touch it. They are all entered into a special database that shows which lady they are assigned to and what jobs they perform. They are closely monitored. If they perform favorably they are given points. When they reach a certain number of points they are handled by milking maidens, young sexy girls trained for milking. The computer prints out the daily list of fortunate males. Some males might go 2 months without release. For health reasons we require release, however the release is done in an unpleasant way. Other males attach milking devices that pull the sperm out.


Orgasm and cock control is strictly enforced in the village because its been proven that a longing male performs the best. The milking maidens are also required to engage in massive amounts of tease and denial sessions. Its not uncommon to see a male bulging out of his tube. We have hidden cameras everywhere to insure he never touches. If he has an unauthorized orgasm at any time he is publicly punished in the town center. Often hanged and whipped depending on the number of infractions. After 6 unauthorized orgasms he is considered for castration or sent to a place where there are no women. A special male work camp where he must live the rest of his life.

But there is a very loving aspect to it all. Males are taught to love our way and how to give a woman pleasure. Each male is required to study massage, cooking, cleaning and how to sexually satisfy women. Even if he is never used for sex he still must take the classes. We encourage them with rewards and affection because we want to and not some cultural expectation. They are also placed on a special diet and exercise program to keep them fit and feeling good. No slop for our guys! They get highly nutritious organic foods and grass fed meats. They are also treated to a massage once a month and have a special hot tub spa area they are permitted to go to for 30 min a day. They are required to meditate and we have special rituals in place to help them maintain balance and keep them focused on their commitment. Males are permitted to leave but can never ever return. Once shunned always shunned and everyone in the community is forbidden contact even if you are somehow related.

The dream has a lot more details. The reason I bring it up is to get feedback. I could totally see myself living in this type of village. If you think about it I have my own little village here at home. I bought a cool older farm house with some land. I am a lifestyle mistress and although I prefer (at this time) not having slaves live in they are over quite a bit. My protocol is very strict and most wear a chastity device or are some type of orgasm control program. This lifestyle suits me. I could not imagine myself living any other way. The older I get the more I cultivate my femdom lifestyle. As I network with others I learn there are others like me, however they don't work in the sex industry like I do and fear they will be exposed. Some of my phone sex callers tell me about relationships they've had in the past with seemly vanilla women that were hardcore femdoms in private. They could be full of shit but when you're in the scene and someone is describing something you can get a feel for if its fantasy or if they have actually done "it". Just like when guys call for phone sex, even if they have never done a live session, they can tell from experience if the woman on the other end is really a mistress or a woman attempting to role-play well enough to earn a living.

So I wonder if there are guys that would or could really commit to this if they could. Would you? Have you ever had fantasies that are more then sexual or seem almost spiritual? Please post your comments below. Click subscribe at the bottom to get a notice each time someone makes a comment on this topic.

Thanks

Natalie

[kneeforu]

It is a very interesting scene. I think the part that you hit exactly right in my opinion is the loving way you treat the men. I like the way you describe it. I think a world full of humiliation is not a pleasant world to live in. However, being treated fairly and lovingly, however in a place where levels are very divided and strict in this manner is pretty interesting.

Could a male really survive… probably some could. Could I…. hhmmmmmm that is a very interesting question.

[CruelNatalie]

It is a very interesting scene. I think the part that you hit exactly right in my opinion is the loving way you treat the men. I like the way you describe it. I think a world full of humiliation is not a pleasant world to live in. However, being treated fairly and lovingly, however in a place where levels are very divided and strict in this manner is pretty interesting.

Could a male really survive… probably some could. Could I…. hhmmmmmm that is a very interesting question.

Erotic humiliation can be very constructive and useful. The problem is that most don't understand it or know how to properly use it. I am personally turned on by it but I also only play with others that are turned on by it and then teach them how to play my way.

But let's face it... reality- love and respect must be at the foundation of any relationship especially when you are extreme.

[kneeforu]

I have looked at your site and it's very interesting and clearly you know exactly what you like and how to implement it! wow.

[crazyxxx]

I had a very similar dream/fantasy when I was in my early teen age, I think it influenced all my later sexual preferences. In my fantasy, there was a tribe of women (like Amazons) that caught me and were using me as their slave, sexual and otherwise :)

[MeaCulpaUK]

I don't mean to sound glib or flippant, but.. where do I sign up?

I would genuinely be happy, if that's the right word, to live in this sort of scenario. Tended to, nurtured and yet made to work hard to please... a haven and a heaven!

[CruelNatalie]

While I think the culture you describe from your dream is very suitable for fantasy, I have one major qualm with it and that is the freedom of choice.

Submission, to me, is a willful act. I choose who I submit myself to. I am her property because I give myself to her. I am not a slave and I am not born into this.

A loving, caring environment is one thing but with that that free will, and honestly without knowing anything else, how "real" is that love that's being returned from the submissive. If it's all they've known their entire life then it seems a farce to me.

You might argue that they do have a choice as you stated they can leave at any time. It's not much of a choice though when choosing to leave means you are forever shunned. You must choose between the only thing you've ever known and an infinite possibility of other unknowns.

I welcome your perspective, though, and I always thank you for sharing with us and bring us these topics.

I do understand your point but the community has to protect itself. I also feel there should be strong repercussions if the commitment isn't met. They need to really think about this before exiting. Although I do understand your concept of submission in my perfect world the male has no choices. His only choice is to comply or leave. Although I consider myself a loving and spiritual Domina my personal slaves must comply or beg to be punished. If I sense they are begging for punishment because they enjoy punishment I'll lose interest. I am only turned on and motivated by one who is fully committed and willing to serve me at any capacity. But these are intelligent men that come to me who know what kind of woman I am. Big difference. With my work- phone sex and online training I am more flexible because I am teaching, providing an experience and I am a good professional. Its also why my programs have a beginning and and end so they can take a break and come back. In my real life I don't have time for this. There are far to many men willing to travel MY journey.

Thank you for your kind words. It means a lot to me.

[dubble]

I think there are plenty of guys who would commit, but it might take awhile to find the right core of good subs & slaves. There are a lot of fantasizers & pretenders as well as real, committed subs. Besides that, finances come in to the picture, unfortunately. I'm thinking of OWK. There were plenty of real subs who visited, but not many who could commit to that life & give up their vanilla life, family, friends. They visited OWK, but went back to their vanilla lives & families, worked their jobs, made more money, & some visited OWK again. How many would have been happy to stay there had it not been for finances & their need to survive in the world (definitely some, yes, these being more real life potentials. )? Oppositely, how many would not commit due to not wanting to give up their vanilla life, family, friends (Probably a majority, fantasizers, not wanting a lifestyle, rather an occasional 'fix' of bdsm, D/s) ? It would be easier to commit to this village type of lifestyle if there was no need to be a provider to those for whom we care. It is an amazing dream/fantasy & it has potential, however. You got me throbbing & leaking while reading!

I could do something along these lines since this is similar to what I think of, dream of, & hope for anyways.... just maybe not in a bigger village scenario (not sure until I tried it though). I have imagined it with a smaller group of women, but it starts with one woman with whom I fall in love. For me, I can fully commit to someone who I love, care for, respect... but it seems more & more difficult to meet this type of person in the world today. I come across many people who are oblivious to almost everything & everyone, selfish, needy, lazy, disgusting slobs... both men & women, so it would be difficult to be 'in service to' one of these types of women if she were in this village. I cannot serve & commit to just anyone just because that person is female. I hold myself to a higher standard & hope to serve one of similar thought. Often I feel that a Domme has to 'earn' my submission, be worthy of me giving my all to her rather than me just blindly giving myself to someone/anyone just for the sake of submission (if that makes sense) or me getting off. But if the right woman came along, yes, I could & would commit if she truly desired this type of life. That's the real high: to be there in a capacity to help someone fulfill her dreams while she gets off on it.

Yes, I would hope to know one woman first before being exposed to this village, 'date' her while having a D/s relation, get to know her, learn, build trust... as I hope for a monogamous relation (although she could have me help & assist others, cook, clean, build... just not in an intimate fashion). I couldn't join a D/s village 'cold turkey' without knowing someone very well first(my 'survival' instinct?). I'd seen an advertisement on OWK years ago asking for serious sub's to apply for live-in positions, & I'd seriously mulled it over, thought hard about it, dreamed. It was difficult for me to imagine being in service of so many women merely because they were women. Now, if I was committed & submissive to One & she wanted me to be of use to other women in the village, I would respectively obey. I wouldn't want to be 'village property', just another drone. I want to make a difference in the life of some ONE, her being my focus unless she tells me differently.

Love the chastity castration deterrent! Yes, the longer I'm locked, the more spiritual this idea becomes! This village idea isn't sexual. It's about giving all I can to try to give pleasure & happiness to someone I care for, placing her before myself. Even better if she knows & plays upon the things that make me more obedient & weak for her to deepen her control... t&d, chastity, bondage, kinks/fetishes, tortures of pain & pleasure. What wouldn't I do for a woman like that?

[CruelNatalie]

I think owk was too extreme for an ongoing reality. I've never been but know people that have. Many felt like it was more of a business vanture than an actual femdom society.
If I were to operate something like that I'm not sure I would feel comfortable being so exposed. I never take pictures or video in my own house or with my personal relationships. I have a few guys OK with it but I prefer to keep my personal lifestyle private.

[CruelNatalie]

also Dubble my style is far more playful then owk or hardcore FS cultures. If everyone enjoys being where they are then all is good. Right?