yonitis wrote:hello
sorry , im shocked you guys are so aggressive
You'll find the same response (and often far more hostile) on message boards across the internet. Remember, websites and message boards are communities. Imagine if a strangers showed up at your house while you were having dinner with your friends and they said "hey, I hear KFC has a great deal on popcorn chicken" you'd treat them with hostility too :)
Some tips:
When posting for the first time to a new site, try introducing yourself. Something like: "Hi, I'm new to this site, but I've been a big fan to t&d for a while now, happy to have found this community" would have gone a long way to earning you the benefit of the doubt.
Lurk around and see what type of posts there are. If you had, you see that there's very little link sharing on this site. Most of the forums focus on discussion of our little fetish. Had you started off posting a thank you to the author of a tease you liked, we'd be far more likely to think you are sincere.
Stay on topic! The is a site dedicated to exploring the fetish of tease and denial. You should try and focus your posts, especially as a newbie, on our topic of interest. If, for example, you'd found a good teasing video on vid2c and shared a link to that, I'm sure you would have recieved thanks rather than criticism.
I know we all want to be welcoming here. I for one have found this to be a very friendly community, with far less flame wars and newbie hostility than many other sites I've frequented on the web (porn and otherwise).
But we also want to keep our site free from commercial spammers, and you didn't do anything to suggest you were anything but. I hope I've been more welcoming than my first post by trying to give you some pointers on newbie netiquette.
Also, welcome!