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[Slutastic]

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[Quiet Linda]

You are not messed up.
Large parts of this world may be but you are not.
The Brain.
It is THE SEX ORGAN
The rest does not matter.
Plenty of normal people are in bodies that do not express themselves.
For example, I have nerve damage in my arms.
I teach fitness, yet can no longer do a push up.
That truly sucks, the real me can bang of 20.
Such is life.

Point number two.
Take female care of your body.
Exercise, diet, etc.
It will make you feel better.

[Slutastic]

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[Keos]

Just a quick "hi" to say that while being a male with a male body and being straight I found this discussion really interesting. This is my first "real post" on that forum, forgive my english.

I would like to add (with no experience to back this) that I do not agree with that idea that gender is a social construct and thus doesn't exist. Gender is a social construct and thus does exist. This is a great deal of understanding I think when you say that you don't feel well in your body.

You do not feel well in common, cultural definition of gender. Rather than stating that the two big genders we see outside do not exist, I would rather emphasize that aside them other genders exist. Trans and sissies are good example, they have their own, different identities.

While straight, I've to admit that I do like the view of trans people and not just for their female attributes. This is just another kind of beauty.

I think that feeling comfortable with yourself is something very important and maybe running after one of the "bold" gender could be counterproductive.

**EDIT**: after a second thought stating that I was straight is not 100% accurate, but who cares?

[Banquo]

**EDIT**: after a second thought stating that I was straight is not 100% accurate, but who cares?

Exactly, people can be whatever they want to be. And this website is a great place for people to explore that.

[Quiet Linda]

You are not messed up.
Large parts of this world may be but you are not.

Thank you Linda, how ever... :/ (more than i wish to say)

Point number two.
Take female care of your body.
Exercise, diet, etc.
It will make you feel better.

I probably don't look after myself as well as i should do - due to extreme dieting - i rarely eat as i don't like my body. I know people get turned on by my body but to me it's not right.

I think i have said way to much about myself

Extreme dieting is counter productive.
I am a fitness and weight loss pro.
So listen very carefully to advice sent with love.
Under extreme diet the body goes into starvation mode.
Basically shuts down, Which causes all sorts of issues like mood swings.
You need to eat healthy and exercise.
MUST do both.
Trust me.

[forbiddendesire]

Hey, honestly speaking, I find the thought of you very sexy. I don't think that you need to feel insecure or any less of a human being than anybody else is, and I do believe that there is a person out there for you, once he/she accepts you and loves you I don't think you'll ever feel self-conscious.
I know this may have been difficult for you, and honestly, I respect your for it. Let's give a hand! *applause* I wish you the best :)

[Slutastic]

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[Slutastic]

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[Quiet Linda]

Extreme dieting is counter productive.
I am a fitness and weight loss pro.
So listen very carefully to advice sent with love.
Under extreme diet the body goes into starvation mode.
Basically shuts down, Which causes all sorts of issues like mood swings.
You need to eat healthy and exercise.
MUST do both.
Trust me.

I started eating properly about 2 or 3 years ago when some meds made me want to eat >.<
i put slightest bit of weight on and then stopped taking them - my tummy is still not as flat as i would like, but to be fair i haven't been toning my body as much as i should be - I really don't want my body to be big and full of muscles.

I have always been like this, even at a very young age, so I'm guessing my body is use to it by now?
I know a lot of people worry about my weight:
"I'm cooking something and there is way more than we need so would you like some"
I hear this constantly. its nice to know people care about me. I will eat with someone like this but then will go back to not eating to lose any weight gained. I have no idea what my current weight is and haven't known it for years - It's not about a number on a scale to me - its about how i want my body to look.

If only weight lose took it off where you want it gone.
It does not happen that way. However, a flat tummy is not that hard to achieve.
Pilates is an excellent place to start. It builds the core muscles that hold the tummy in.
Do it 5 times you will feel better,
do it for 2 weeks will look better
do it for 2 months will have a new body.
I have done this for hundreds of people.

Also, respect yourself, note that people here do respect you.

With
Linda

[Johnmaster]

I do not agree with that idea that gender is a social construct and thus doesn't exist. Gender is a social construct and thus does exist. This is a great deal of understanding I think when you say that you don't feel well in your body.

Yeah, Gender is an idea. Of course it has a material presence, but that doesn't mean you have to accept it.

The point is, that you are whatever you are, and that society makes you feel uncomfortable by imposing ideals on you since birth.

[DemonXia]

Hi Slutastic .

I have been in a probably similar situation to you, although somewhat different. Let me explain.

For the biggest part of my life, from when I was about 13 or 14 I have been having feeling that I wasn't a boy, while I was born that way. I really wasn't sure what I was at that time and just went on with my life. A couple of years later I started to get into a serious relationship with a girl. After about a year of that relationship I was 100% sure that I was a girl born in the body of a boy. This at that time lead me to a serious depression.

The girl I had a relationship with, had no problems with me and even said that she had fallen in love with me all over again. When my depression got worse and my girlfriend also had problems at home we were only making each other more depressed at that time and decided to split up. She however has been very supportive with how I felt. She taught me things about how to do certain things and most important of all she taught me easily talk about it with others. As she didn't see it as a problem and so she told everyone she knew about it and I really didn't have much choice then to go along. This was very helpful and at times very awkward. I learned to deal with the awkwardness of it and I now have no problems talking about it.

The depression did when we broke up only get worse up to the point where I nearly killed myself. The biggest problem I had was that I couldn't live with myself and my body. I'm not religious and never have been, but during those times I even prayed to just wake up in the correct body and be who I am. I also prayed to just be a boy without those feelings of being a girl in a boy's body. As time passed and with some psychological help I did find a way to accept myself living in this body. Anti-depressants helped me overcome my depression.

Currently I do live my life as a girl, as who I am. "I no longer need a shield to protect me as being who I am protects me more than that shield ever could." A quote I stole from the film "Love my Life" is something that is helping me out a lot at the moment to keep strong and go on and also feel better about myself. And yes I am going to go through hormone therapy and probably eventually surgery. Although surgery is still something I'm kind of afraid of. I am currently waiting for some financial reasons to travel to the hospital that can help me with this and I will then start the entire treatment. My psychologist tells me that I am doing fine to go for that.

There are some significant differences between our situations, but I do hope my story did give you some support. I don't have problems talking about it or answering questions about it.