Girl with sexual dissatisfaction - A big problem

[micheleFFS]

I think we need more information to help, if we can at all.

You say:

But it is not a physical problem, more a psychological.
I try to find out where is the reason of that issue....

What do you know about the cause? Have you seen a professional, a urologist or sex therapist?

and

sexual binding worked already - the girl before could do that too.

Do you mean that it's easier to become erect if you're tied up? Sorry, but to me, this part of your post is unclear.

How much have you explained to her? What sexual activities have you done or tried together and what was the result?

Also, what are the situations or or pictures that arouse you? What do you mean by "external influence?"

Have you ever felt romantic and sexual with a girl, made out, taken off your clothes and had sex or do you need to be in a fetish situation to have sex?

Answers to these questions can help the community here to assist you or to refer you to a professional to help.

I look forward to your reply,

michele

[stkk2]

I hate to say it, especially here, but you may need to go reddit/r/NoFap .

Before you dislike me for posting this on Milovana, just think of NoFap as the ultimate denial...just no tease!

[SexualChoc]

talk to a doctor.
get a diagnosis

[micheleFFS]

I agree with Sexual Choc. We can't advise without several things:

• Professional medical skills
  Professional psychological skills
  An in-depth interview with personal and sexual history
  Long term contact between us

Since these can't happen on Milovana forums, private messages or chat, go see your doctor to start and follow up with any referrals he or she may give you.

Please keep us informed here.

michele

[CruelNatalie]

I don't think he needs a doctor at all. I can't even think about sex unless a D/s femdom dynamic is present and its real. Vanilla sex does nothing for me. I know I'm not a lone with this. Many guys who have fetishes need this to get fully erect or have orgasm. Some may say this is a bad thing depending on who you ask. Sometimes you have to go with what works or find a woman creative enough to seduce you into other things. Its possible.

However I feel that fem dominance is something innate. You can take someone naturally alpha and cultivate her dominance to enjoy kinky controlling sex but its unlikely you'll ever make a sexually submissive woman dominant. Not impossible but unlikely. She can learn to role-play to please her lover and vise versa but the true dynamic (which is really the rush) can't truly be achieved in my opinion.

Sotrax my advice to you is to carefully lay the cards on the table. Don't slam her with every single detail but let her know that you're the type of guy who needs a strong and trusting emotional connection in order to have sex. You then might begin pampering and spoiling her. Tell her that you're a different kind of guy who needs to treat a woman well and prefer a woman in charge. Give her time to take her own control without pushing. Don't push sex. Let it be her decision and her idea. Just be loving, supportive, sweet and very shy. If she begins to respond to it then you take a few more steps forward. If she doesnt and starts to back away then you may want to rethink if this girl is for you.

Many guys fall in love with a beautiful girl without knowing if they are compatible on all levels. Later they become frustrated because they realize things are missing. Some are deal breakers and others are not. Take your time and find someone who gets you and makes your cock rock hard. I don';t care what anyone says but chemistry is very important in a relationship.

[CruelNatalie]

In order for her to get interested and say interested it needs to be her idea. This is where you must be very clever. It would take too much to explain here and every case is different. I have guys that have done this fairly successfully but it took time and work. You have to make a commitment to it.