Submissive Men- Naturally Dominant Women

[getiton]

The pair of you have the luckiest men in the world.

[CruelNatalie]

The pair of you have the luckiest men in the world.

Thank you. That was sweet.

[Stafford]

I'm curious how many of you are sexually submissive?

I find that as im getting older im getting much more Sexually Submissive, and all of my kinks are about someone controlling me...
not 100% submissive but in the high eighties

Are you submissive outside of the bedroom?

Just an average joe....

Could you ever see yourself in a D/s relationship where the woman fully controlled everything?

I could see it for me... YES

If so or if not, explain your ideal D/s relationship.

in the house
once throu the door look after her and do and wear what im told
out together she would be in control
( whether that was, she controlling or having me play the lead under instruction )
if i was out alone, would be because she has released me to do something
( Work, Shopping or tasks )

Hopping that this is of some use

[CruelNatalie]

I'm curious how many of you are sexually submissive?

I find that as im getting older im getting much more Sexually Submissive, and all of my kinks are about someone controlling me...
not 100% submissive but in the high eighties

Are you submissive outside of the bedroom?

Just an average joe....

Could you ever see yourself in a D/s relationship where the woman fully controlled everything?

I could see it for me... YES

If so or if not, explain your ideal D/s relationship.

in the house
once throu the door look after her and do and wear what im told
out together she would be in control
( whether that was, she controlling or having me play the lead under instruction )
if i was out alone, would be because she has released me to do something
( Work, Shopping or tasks )

Hopping that this is of some use

yes thank you.

I would want a submissive partner to be a strong and capable man who walked out the door to bite the world in the ass. When he comes home and only with me is he my adoring submissive. I would probably marry the man who could truly balance this properly

[vanda]

I am a fairly dominant person in real life.
A switch otherwise.
Ideal Domme... control orgasms, require ruining, cum eating, spanking

[analanytime]

I'm just curious about a few things and this forum seems like it has a lot of intelligent people.


I'm curious how many of you are sexually submissive?

Are you submissive outside of the bedroom?

Could you ever see yourself in a D/s relationship where the woman fully controlled everything? If so or if not, explain your ideal D/s relationship.

Thanks!

At 26 years of age i can fully say I am completely sexually submissive, i find no pleasure in being in control and live to serve, my ideal relationship would be one where i could dedicate my life to my mistress

one where i serve her every whim, i do all the household chores, I do all the cleaning, I worship her, I do anything asked of me, even in public, I am hers

[BriefsBoy36]

I'd say that I'm definitely sexually submissive. Although, outside the bedroom I'm very dominate when it comes to my career/social life. Well, not necessarily "dominate" but does whatever it takes mentality to achieve my goals. I feel hard work and a healthy dose of self confidence helps me feel proud of everything I do when I lay my head down at night.
This is most likely why I'm submissive in the bedroom so I can have that healthy balance.
I don't see myself being in a D/s relationship giving up complete control, I tried it once online, but it became very overwhelming quick. It was hard to balance out real life priorities while being a slave 24/7. It was a unhealthy balance because I'd feel very anxious/depressed/shattered self confidence which started effecting my performance at work and conflicting real life relationships with friends/family.

[CruelNatalie]

it always about balance no matter the path you decide. Your sexual journey should be private and discreet. There is no reason you can't have a happy, successful life in your day to day and yet a private kinky sex life. IMO

[CruelNatalie]

I think there is a big misconception that its all or nothing. Another thing I see are men coming to me for training and really throwing themselves into it. It's like a flood gate of a backed up damn. They can be so needy and truly allow their dicks to control their common sense. After a few weeks (or sooner) they feel guilty and purge. This is the main reason I created my training in levels- 7 days or 30 days because to be honest few stay with it all the time. The ones that do become my property REALLY. But the main reason they are able to endure is that they are able to find balance. Their submissive desires and kinky sex needs are an addition to an already existing life.

I know its exciting to suddenly unleash years of sexual frustration, however if you want it to be part of your life and have a great sex life you have to learn to integrate.

[Horhay]

Someone earlier said they found they're getting more submissive as they get older. It's interesting, as I get older (27) I find I'm becoming more dominant. I've even begun considering myself a switch rather than a sub. Though I know I will always be a true sub at heart

In my regular life I'm definitely a type D personality. I'm strong and independent and quite friendly/gregarious (despite being an introvert), I'm a good leader and people naturally look up to me it seems. I don't know if it's a flaw or strength but I'm always cautions and meticulous in the decisions I make and I always have to be in control of the situations I am in.

I think that's part of why I am submissive, though there are many reasons. I like to give up control, I like to let go of the studious reserve in which I live my normal life.

Though so far as a complete relinquishment of control, no. That I could not do, not a permanent thing. I need to have my life and my freedom. However, a relationship where we are equals in most things unrelated to sex, then I am her sexual submissive, that I could do.

[CruelNatalie]

Someone earlier said they found they're getting more submissive as they get older. It's interesting, as I get older (27) I find I'm becoming more dominant. I've even begun considering myself a switch rather than a sub. Though I know I will always be a true sub at heart

In my regular life I'm definitely a type D personality. I'm strong and independent and quite friendly/gregarious (despite being an introvert), I'm a good leader and people naturally look up to me it seems. I don't know if it's a flaw or strength but I'm always cautions and meticulous in the decisions I make and I always have to be in control of the situations I am in.

I think that's part of why I am submissive, though there are many reasons. I like to give up control, I like to let go of the studious reserve in which I live my normal life.

Though so far as a complete relinquishment of control, no. That I could not do, not a permanent thing. I need to have my life and my freedom. However, a relationship where we are equals in most things unrelated to sex, then I am her sexual submissive, that I could do.

You're still young, same as me, but even though I've toyed with submission it just doesn't turn me on. I think that a lot of younger guys switch to expand their sexual horizon but then later in life realize that they are more sexually driven by having someone else in control.

[Johnmaster]

I'm curious how many of you are sexually submissive?

Nope I'm purposefully UN-idealistic. Ideologies are impossible realities, we must be alienated from society, as we all already are as there is no real society, to even conceive such a reality. I make it a point to oppose the institutional alienation of the system.

Are you submissive outside of the bedroom?

No, extroverted and confrontational

Could you ever see yourself in a D/s relationship where the woman fully controlled everything?

No

If so or if not, explain your ideal D/s relationship.
I would like a relationship with someone who was also liberated from ideals as well as alienating social norms. Only then are we not walking talking ideological machines and truly human.

[CruelNatalie]

personally I think that a femdom lifestyle is stepping out of social norms. Nothing is more liberating then deciding how you want to have sex even if that means giving up control.

[CruelNatalie]

Not just liberating, its impossible to describe with only one word....
It is very special;
At first: sure it is really liberating but it's more curious at all... It gives you a feeling beeing unsure, you are in hope that it will be that what you wants, but dont know it. Also you shows the person above that you are in trust - the special in here: it would be not bad also when person above use this trust for her own desires in relation with violation of the trust.
Ok I see, I gave a try to describe but I cant... xD

sorry I missed this. I know what you mean. Still I don't think it can be easily described or labeled. It's a dynamic and each person brings something special to it. If it's a good fit its magic. If its not then its hell.

[Egoist]

I'm curious how many of you are sexually submissive?
I definitely am. I love getting told what to do by a girl. Having a girl in control sexually is a huge turn on.

Are you submissive outside of the bedroom?
Yes and no. In my ordinary life I live for arguments. Not petty arguments, but political debate. I also tend toward bossiness and I order around my friends and family. On the other hand I act totally pussywhipped around girls I like. I do what they tell me and love to carry out small tasks.

Could you ever see yourself in a D/s relationship where the woman fully controlled everything? If so or if not, explain your ideal D/s relationship.
Full control of everything?-Definitely not. Dominance in the relationship?-Yes. I would want a female-led relationship. Not one where she was constantly in total control, but one where I am thoroughly pussywhipped.