"Femdom Bride" do you think it's worth it?

[Tury]

*edit: I incorrectly assumed their videos were well known on this forum. If you fancy a look, just punch "Femdom bride" or "Mistress Starla" into the search bar of your favorite porn video site.

I imagine that anyone familiar with this site, is familiar with Miss Starla and her Chastened hubby. Now, What they have works FOR THEM, he could realistically say no to anything at any time. For reasons that are his own he chooses not to and I respect his choices. Where this poll comes in is from MY take on their relationship and how it has progressed. Again, I cannot stress this enough, what I am posing to this community is in relation to my interpretation of the progression of their relationship. I welcome specific responses, but have made it a poll so that people can simply say yes or no and get on with things that actually matter.

Skip to the bottom for a tl;dr.

Now. As more of their clips make it onto the internet, you can track the "evolution" of their personalities into the roles of their relationship. Most notably Starla's as she is seen much more than her husband/slave. Now, in the beginning, he seemed excited and eager. He spoke "normally" and responded quickly and happily to just about whatever she asked, and even seemed playful at times; willing to goad her a bit to get a small reprimand. Starla herself, while I have never found her PARTICULARLY attractive, was okay to look at in her own right, was playful right back and seemed to enjoy "The game" they were playing.

Skip ahead a while and her husband/slave (if you haven't figured it out by now I can't remember his name and am too lazy to look it up) barely whimpers if he ever talks a all. I think he's been forced to get breast implants and I don't think he's even allowed to wear mens clothing anymore. His eyes are dead, he never looks up and flat out looks dead inside. While Starla, having no real reason to look pleasing to anyone in particular has adopted increasingly outlandish makeup, hairstyles, a leopard-print necklace-style TATTOO of all things and has gained a noticeable amount of weight. I'm not saying she's fat, I'm saying it's plain to see. At the same time, she seems to have grown tired if not disgusted with her slave. Frequently ignoring his discomfort, forcing him into doing things he clearly does not want to do and seems to hate him more when he does it.

Now, there are a lot of ways I could take this. Would you do this? What would you do differently? ect... For right now, I'm going to stick with "Do you think it's all worth it?" We all know it's not easy to find someone who shares the "sexual interests" you do if you frequent this site; so beggars can't be choosers. That said, do you think that "getting off" is worth the practical destruction of 2 individuals personalities.

Wow, the air up here on my soap-box is getting thin. So yes or no.




TL;DR

Normal guy and girl became broken toy and psycho bitch in the pursuit of a bdsm relationship. Do you think it was worth it.

[Narazumo]

It's only worth it, in my opinion, if the person who joins you for your fun, likes you as you do it and in the case of a husband/wife, loves you. You described a really awful relationship in my opinion and it wouldn't be worth it.

[Nezhul]

I don't think any hardcore all-time fetish oriented relationship worth it. You get tired of it all eventually. I think that mixing sex and life is more often than not a relationship killer. I don't know the people you are talking about, and I doubt you too know what exactly is going on between them and through their heads. It may aswell be the opposite of what you say and they live in harmony. So I won't comment on that. I'll only say that bringing sexual submission outside of bed and making it more than a game is a dangerous thing to do. For one thing, it's really hard to turn back.

Before plunging into something like that a pair should really REALLY think hard, imagine what it'll be like a few years later, what pros and cons each of them has. For example if we talk about hardcore femdom, the man should realize how much his freedom will be bound to demands of his lady. No more going into bar to drink beer when he wants it. It's a stress. A women, on the other hand, should understand that she won't recieve the "Male power" thing. Women are subconciously submissive, and like being led. That's so deep it's like an instinct. Very few women are capable of domming full time without craving for a strong men's hand leading her from time to time.
For me, a relationship should always be on terms of equal rights. Even if one is a "dom" and another is a "sub", all things brought to a dayly life should be in a form of fun games and flirting. For instance a sub may be demanded to do some daily routine. It's okay. But when I hear the stories on the lines like "I wanted to meet friends today but I was ordered to do other stuff" I get depressed. I mean, really? Someone may enjoy it of course, but for 99% people such intervention would turn into stress over time. I'v heard stories of subs being forced to drop their hobbies, cancel long-awaited appointments that they were looking for and so on.
That's why I say equal rights. Sexual play is one thing. Life is another. It's better to separate games and life, because if you mix them games tend to become less fun, and life tends to become more chaotic.

[titan]

I full heartedly agree with Nezhul about separating life and sexual fantasies.

Everyone has different fetishes with specific turn ons and turn offs, so not every case can be treated the same.

After reading what Tury noticed about the "Femdom Bride" couple, I agree with him that they may have gone to far. Once Tury pointed it out, I realized that he was right, although i don't think that the husband got breast implants... I mean its totally possible that he did and its actually probable.. I guess I meant that "I hope that the husband didn't get breast implants.

I mean I'm all for a little female domination... but there's a point where I would stop. Such point being sissyfication and feminization (pretty sure the two are seperate).

Anyway, thats just my opinion. Know when you've gone to far. Set boundaries. If you post anything about your sexual endeavors let your readers/viewers/listeners know that you do have a stopping point.

[JustMeNow]

Sane warning titan, but as I read around here, I see many "(almost) no limit"-posts.
Maybe the couple TS writes about don't even realize that they've crossed a line for themselves.
I guess it's difficult to say, since people tend to be willing to move beyond there limits when they're horny.
In normal situations that should not be a real issue, since there's time to talk after playing. In 24/7-situations it could be a problem.

That said, maybe the wish for 24/7 is just an alternative for escaping life, because many responsibilities fall away and there's a relatively protected life.
Others enter a midlifecrisis and end up with all kind of therapists, I guess 24/7 is just an alternative (at least for some)