Please I need direction to continue my self-imposed denial

[zkramp12]

First I apologize if it is inappropriate to post something like this here or to ask the mistresses for help.

I haven't cum in four days. Doesn't sound like much but for me it is, I generally get off 3-4 and many times much more. I haven't gone more than one day without cumming since October. I have been teasing myself and loving it. My balls are extremely sore and I get hard very quickly without reason. Yesterday I had to skip lunch and was the last one at the office because I had such a raging hard-on I couldn't stand up. Last night I did several teases, although I admit not very well my control isn't what it should be--I twitching without even being hard. I also did my best to massage my prostate with a vibe last night and this morning. I only got few teaspoons out but it was incredibly frustrating and hot.

I am asking if any Mistress would like to give me direction to continue onward. I will follow directions and take pics of my progress. I don't think I can continue much longer without the added motivation of pleasing someone else with it. Please PM me if you are interested

Please help me before I do something stupid like cum!!!

[havemercy]

I always have the same problem, I find myself doing it for no one so I just give up and release. But I've managed to get to o2 weeks twice in my life.

[zkramp12]

two weeks? damn I'm already going crazy, I can actually feel how full my balls are

[Marke]

Two points in reply - you need to be able to go long enough to experience a wet dream. Hopefully what you dream about will inspire you to write a tease about it.

Although be warned, soem wet dreams are bizarre - well they can be for me.

I also have them regardless ... so ... A whole new line of questions there.

Second. If you want a real woman to participate, my experience is that it best down as part of a paid service. Many Internet models - i.e. women with pictures sites - are only too happy to play as part of the subscription fee - within reason of course. You just have to fin one you like and who is interested. Their motivation is to keep you at their site looking at their photos. A good source is Southern Charms as the ladies have profiles they give a feel for how interactive they may be.

Otherwise - get married - you'll get all the denial you can handle.

[StuBhoney]

I wish you the best of luck we all out to follow your example. If you can get some to "help" you I will join you for the 2 weeks!

Good Luck...

remember Horton

I meant what said
And I said what I meant
An elephant is faithfull
100 percent

[od_is_fun_01]

Yes, I can understand how going without for 5 days can be difficult. I mean, I have been in such a situation many times before. I think it would be helpful if you could go on a run, or go to the gym, or whichever sport you prefer. I think it helps to counteract the frustration of denial -- it makes it feel more 'delicious', I think. Perhaps it is the 'endorphin release' thing that happens when you exercise. From past experience, when I was more loathe to exercise, even going 3 or 4 days without was very, very hard -- it felt like I was on a testosterone overload, there was such an intense feeling in my penis of wanting to squirt, all day. Now, when I am exercising more (every 2 or 3 days, I basically do a 1.5 mile run, then some push-ups, sit-ups, etc), I do still feel horny, of course, but the feeling is less centred on my cock, so it is easier to endure, and actually feels really nice. So, now I find that going without orgasm for 1 week is quite easy, although by week 2, it does get harder -- you might feel like wanting to masturbate whenever you get the slightest bit aroused. But it definitely feels controllable though, so if you are serious about doing it, you will definitely get to 2 weeks and above.

BTW, if you get persistent feelings of congestion, like you are wanting to squirt, in that area of the body, you might want to try doing Kegel exercises. Basically, it means clenching and then relaxing the muscles in your pelvic floor. If you do this while looking at porn, etc, the results are very enjoyable! Plus, it makes the muscles in that area tired, so it helps that area to relax.

You could read this guide [sexuality.about.com], entitled 'Kegel exercises for Men'. (There was a link to this in the Wikipedia article.) It has lots of useful tips. Especially this one:

# Squeezing kegel exercises: use sets of repetitions
Your kegel exercises will be most efficient and have the most impact if you get into doing sets of repetitions of the squeezing. Once you’ve found your baseline, you can work from there. If you can, start with doing 5 repetitions (squeeze/hold/release). Judge for yourself how long you can hold the squeeze for, but don’t push yourself too much at first.

You can also try doing high numbers of repetitions: Basically, clench hard and quick; when you feel maximum contraction, release immediately; then, repeat for many repetitions at a manageable rhythm. You can do about a hundred reps at once, or more, if you do it in this manner. Yea, so there's a lot of variety in how you can do Kegels.

There is in fact a great tease done by 'submatt' centred around this exercise.
It is entitled 'Is That Wrong?'
Do try it!

[Marke]

Having just done that tease from submatt - Is it wrong? I have to agree it is great - I'm so sure - on the inside!

[zkramp12]

so I was going crazy last night and let myself cum but I ruined it and then forced myself another ruined one right after. It actually caused some relief for about ten minutes but then my balls started to ache worse. I did the same thing again today. Just gonna edge again a few more times tonight

[Foxhawke]

you need to be able to go long enough to experience a wet dream. Hopefully what you dream about will inspire you to write a tease about it.

Although be warned, soem wet dreams are bizarre - well they can be for me.

How long do you usually need to go to have a wet dream? I haven't had a wet dream in years and years and I actually would like to have one again. :)

[potveg]

As of today, I have haven't orgasmed for 3 & a half weeks. I've had at least one wank each day, but not allowed myself to cum. I've done several teases on here, but not allowed myself release. Many times when I have sex with my g/f I don't orgasm either. I cannot explain why it feels so great but it does.

[Lindsey]

First I apologize if it is inappropriate to post something like this here or to ask the mistresses for help.

I haven't cum in four days. Doesn't sound like much but for me it is, I generally get off 3-4 and many times much more. I haven't gone more than one day without cumming since October. I have been teasing myself and loving it. My balls are extremely sore and I get hard very quickly without reason. Yesterday I had to skip lunch and was the last one at the office because I had such a raging hard-on I couldn't stand up. Last night I did several teases, although I admit not very well my control isn't what it should be--I twitching without even being hard. I also did my best to massage my prostate with a vibe last night and this morning. I only got few teaspoons out but it was incredibly frustrating and hot.

I am asking if any Mistress would like to give me direction to continue onward. I will follow directions and take pics of my progress. I don't think I can continue much longer without the added motivation of pleasing someone else with it. Please PM me if you are interested

Please help me before I do something stupid like cum!!!

Let's think about what it is that you really want, and the reason behind you making this post. You want to loose control of when you're allowed to cum. You want a girl to tell you when you're allowed to...to cum on her terms, and in a situation she creates for you. Teasing yourself is just a way of building up sexual tension before that happens, which will only make it more intense.

If you're having trouble finding a girl to help you out with your situation, so to speak. Maybe you should play mental games with yourself that she would be playing on you...

Get yourself fixated on something very simple. Maybe there's a particular picture of a girl that really gets you going. Maybe you should look at it constantly while at work, or somewhere where you can't touch yourself, and get yourself nice and worked up with desire to touch yourself while you look at her. You'll have to wait until you're alone. But here is a rule that i'll give you right now...when you finally get home alone, you're not allowed to look and touch at the same time. One or the other. You may look, then close your eyes and touch yourself, but not both at the same time.

Or maybe you should only be allowed to touch yourself while standing up. I'm sure you're sexually frustrated enough now that your poor legs would be absolutely shaking beneath you at the very sensation of stimulation. I have to say, it's a nice thought to get a guy that wound up, and make him cum while he's standing up...jerk his cock off while he buries he head into my shoulder and digs his fingertips into my back.

Or maybe there's a girl you're attracted to at work. Maybe you can involve her in your little game without her even being aware of it. Maybe you should ask her something simple...to borrow a pen for a minute. If she gives you a red pen, you're allowed to cum that day when you get home (not very likely)...if she gives you a blue one, you're not allowed to touch yourself at all, for the rest of the day. If she gives you a black one, you continue teasing yourself and touch yourself when you get home. I wonder if you'd think about her while you did. Or maybe you can base it on what she wears to work. Heels, and you're allowed to touch that day, flats and you may not. Wedges, and you may make yourself cum. There seem to be a lot of possibilities there ;) Oh, and if you borrow a blue or red pen from her, you will thank her for it when you give it back to her...but, you and I know what you'll really be thanking her for...don't we? ;)

You want a girl that puts more thought into teasing and denying you than you do yourself. That keeps you on your toes and makes it so you have no idea what will happen next. You want her to enjoy making you cum almost as much as she enjoys making you wait for it, and playing head games with you so you never know when you'll be relieved. Ok...maybe she'd like making you cum a bit more then the act of getting you there...but just have the restraint to drag it out until you're past the level of frustration that you even thought was possible. I'm not sure though, do girls like that exist? ;)

Second. If you want a real woman to participate, my experience is that it best down as part of a paid service.

I'll respectfully disagree with that one. Women who make money off of sex are in the sexual situation for just that reason. Their intentions are insincere at best, and if I were on the receiving end, i'm not sure i'd be able to get my mind off the fact that the girl would otherwise not want a thing to do with me (if not for me paying her).

-L

[Foxhawke]

Or maybe there's a girl you're attracted to at work. Maybe you can involve her in your little game without her even being aware of it. Maybe you should ask her something simple...to borrow a pen for a minute. If she gives you a red pen, you're allowed to cum that day when you get home (not very likely)...if she gives you a blue one, you're not allowed to touch yourself at all, for the rest of the day. If she gives you a black one, you continue teasing yourself and touch yourself when you get home. I wonder if you'd think about her while you did. Or maybe you can base it on what she wears to work. Heels, and you're allowed to touch that day, flats and you may not. Wedges, and you may make yourself cum. There seem to be a lot of possibilities there ;) Oh, and if you borrow a blue or red pen from her, you will thank her for it when you give it back to her...but, you and I know what you'll really be thanking her for...don't we? ;)

I really like these ideas. I've been thinking of similar ideas of using "random" forces outside my own control to determine when I get to cum or not, and using an attractive female that you see regularly (such as someone at work) is an excellent way to do this.

[Marke]

You are special Lindsey.

My reasoning is just based on efficency and also a reaction to how guys demand things with no thought for the time involved.

But it is a complex subject.

[Marke]

I feel a rant coming on - so apologies up front.

Here is an example of the kind of male behaviour i was refering too:

http://www.milovana.com/forum/viewtopic ... 096#p14096

Now, i will admit my initial comment needed to be taken in context and was relevant to personal circumstances, but Lindsey - who i greatly admire for her wit and contributions - got me thinking.

i should probably shut up right now, but, well, i'm dreadfully frustrated so please have mercy.

Now, it goes like this:

People who do anything for money are not in that situation just for the money. Yes money is important, especially when you are being asked to contribute your time for someone else's benefit - there has to be a bit of give and take. Sometimes more than just a "thank you".

To make this personal here is a bit about me that should make you laugh but also hopefully illustrates what i'm trying to say.

I'm effectively bald. I like having my haircut. I hate having my hair cut by guys and i'm very lucky i have a young lady who cuts my hair. She is working to put herself through college so she can become a nurse or something similiar. I pay way more than i need to, but she makes me feel good and gives great service. Love having my hair washed after its cut. Just feels great. And it's not because i'm starved of human contact - far from it.

What she does is special. I wouldn't expect to get my hair cut for free, but i do chose to pay more for the personal service.

As to what she thinks of me is her business. She can always say no. I fulfil my part of the bargin and respect her and enjoy going to get my haircut.

ASIDE - see the movie "The Hairdresser's Husband". Has a very sad end, but is very erotic movie.

SECOND ASIDE - see the movie "Personal Services"

But while everone likes to get somehing for free - if you want something now or special - well, there are laws of economics that apply.

In the case of Milovana - a fabulous free service - people need to donate from time to time (and yes, yes, i will get around to it - promise).

Also, and this to me is a big thing about online play that people forget - there are real humans involved and real costs. i subscribe to services just as i would a magazine. If i see something in the magazine i want and its free - then lucky me - but if i want it i will pay. and if it is good i will get it again and if the service is great i will tip and if i end up identifying with the service - or the person providing the service - well, that's all the better. Works for me.

But of course i would say that you probably think, and maybe you are right, but then again, i'm of an opinion where i appreciate what i want and its value. And just as in real life there is commitment and loyalty and affection and for the relationship to last it is required on both sides to varying degrees.

Now, if my damn free hosting web site was avialable i could get back to learning php. My fault for going with a free service - if i'd have paid i would have it by now.

LOL I feel better now.

But still frustrated. Over a month of nothing but getting close each day from rubbing. Oh how i long to stroke!

Ha ha - because life can be really perverse the one time i had a chance for intercourse a certain little thing didn't want to behave.

But maybe next time ...

[Lindsey]

I feel a rant coming on - so apologies up front.

No need for apologies. I won't agitate any more digressions out of this thread, but i'll just say that I have strong feelings on the matter that aren't likely to be swayed (not that it's your intent).

Your examples of making the service of a haircut or running a website analogous to sex between 2 people fall short in my eyes, largely due to the pretty obvious distinctions between them.

Maybe my ideals are in dire need of some sort of adaptation to the state of the world around me. But, for me, the laws of economics don't apply to sex (or love, which come hand in hand, IMO).

If I wanted to, I could very easily use my body, and my sexual *ahem* proficiency to support myself financially. But I can't imagine a more degrading situation to be in than one where I ask myself the question, "Would I be doing this with him if it wasn't for the money?" (except possibly being on the receiving end of that). The very problem with that situation is the very fact that there's a difference between me giving someone a hair cut, and giving them an orgasm.

I agree to disagree, and though I can't honestly say I respect your opinion. I accept it, and respect you for having the integrity to voice it.

-L